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18 Oct 2013, 10:07 am

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He has a busty Harley Quinn as his phone background now when it always used to be me.

Ouch . . . sounds like the relationship could be reaching a stage of complacency - maybe time to spice things up. Don't worry though, this is perfectly normal. Real love comes after the passion dies away.



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18 Oct 2013, 10:27 am

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You really are being pedantic (how dare you make me think) :P

If I had a penny for every time someone said that to me.. :P

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when we start assigning value to the 'craving of attention', that's when standards will come into play. For now, nobody has given it a value. Call it cry for help and it's the same thing dressed in socially acceptable clothes.


Can you explain this, please? :)


Isn't it obvious??

Craving for attention is a symptom of some underlying cause. Craving for attention in and of itself has no intrinsic value, other than what we, the 'society' decide to place on it. For some, craving for attention = bad; for others, craving for attention = needs a hug etc. We haven't collectively agreed on what value to assign OPs craving for attention on this occasion, so at the moment it's still up in the air - a symptom of something, we know not what.

Was that any better?



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18 Oct 2013, 10:42 am

leafplant wrote:
octobertiger wrote:
You really are being pedantic (how dare you make me think) :P

If I had a penny for every time someone said that to me.. :P

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leafplant wrote:
when we start assigning value to the 'craving of attention', that's when standards will come into play. For now, nobody has given it a value. Call it cry for help and it's the same thing dressed in socially acceptable clothes.


Can you explain this, please? :)


Isn't it obvious??

Craving for attention is a symptom of some underlying cause. Craving for attention in and of itself has no intrinsic value, other than what we, the 'society' decide to place on it. For some, craving for attention = bad; for others, craving for attention = needs a hug etc. We haven't collectively agreed on what value to assign OPs craving for attention on this occasion, so at the moment it's still up in the air - a symptom of something, we know not what.

Was that any better?


I'd like to comment, but we're going off topic :flower:

Okay, well if you insist. Was that any better? Not bad. Nine, out of a hundred.

Craving for attention is a symptom of some underlying cause - yeah, existence.

Craving for attention in and of itself has no intrinsic value, other than what we, the 'society' decide to place on it. - wow, me like. That's so good I must have said that once. Can't think when - can't get the DeLorean door open to go find out. Bloody West Belfast trash.

For some, craving for attention = bad So you've just defiled the point you've made above, almost in the same breath. Oopsie.

Rest of it - yeah, existence. Actually, I agree. I'm looking forward to the collective agreement, too...



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18 Oct 2013, 11:11 am

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What you can't do is to not want to attract attention. You're craving it, that's for sure.


What are you implying?

That's not fair, is everyone else on these forums craving attention too because they make posts and post pictures?

You don't even know me, I was troubled by an argument in my relationship and needed advice, I don't crave attention, I was craving advice, help and support.

Socialising and relationships are hard for me as I'm sure they are for most people on here.


Have you talked to your boyfriend about this issue of yours. And why do you need to post a thread on this anyway when the answer is as simple as "If I care about my boyfriend's feelings, I really should stop trying to seek attention from guys elsewhere".



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18 Oct 2013, 11:15 am

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Also throughout primary school and my first half of high school I was ostracised, cyber bullied and treated differently because of my appearance, I was rejected and called ugly so many times. I believed it. Sad
I want to feel pretty.
My bf doesn't compliment me as much as he used to and I feel like I am not as beautiful as I once was to him.


You are pretty to at least one person. Otherwise, your bf wouldn't want to be with you. Does this make you feel better?



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18 Oct 2013, 11:16 am

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18 Oct 2013, 11:18 am

GF and BF are in love.
They are dating.
Can't see your point.



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18 Oct 2013, 11:20 am

After reading it over again I'll retract that comment.



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18 Oct 2013, 1:11 pm

Tell him does he want to know what all the websites you go to and are a member of?

That sounds controlling to me.


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18 Oct 2013, 1:21 pm

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Tell him does he want to know what all the websites you go to and are a member of?

That sounds controlling to me.


If this has happened before, then yes. Seeing as this is an isolated incident, they are both young, and given the nature of the posts I believe there's reason for her bf to see it the way he did.
I don't think the guys trying to put down her bf (are you guys seriously any better? I doubt it because you're still here), and girls applying a double standard are really helping out the OP by any margin.



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18 Oct 2013, 1:53 pm

I would totally understand if the boyfriend gets upset after seeing this thread.

DeviousDani, for the love of gods, log out from here.

Eject. Now.

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18 Oct 2013, 2:33 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:
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Tell him does he want to know what all the websites you go to and are a member of?

That sounds controlling to me.


If this has happened before, then yes. Seeing as this is an isolated incident, they are both young, and given the nature of the posts I believe there's reason for her bf to see it the way he did.
I don't think the guys trying to put down her bf (are you guys seriously any better? I doubt it because you're still here), and girls applying a double standard are really helping out the OP by any margin.


League girl always sais the boyfriend is a scumbag or he is controlling piece of garbage whenever a woman posts here asking advice like this. I wouldn't take her comments seriously.



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18 Oct 2013, 2:39 pm

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Eject. Now.

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Get out while you can!



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18 Oct 2013, 5:05 pm

lost561 wrote:
JanuaryMan wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
Tell him does he want to know what all the websites you go to and are a member of?

That sounds controlling to me.


If this has happened before, then yes. Seeing as this is an isolated incident, they are both young, and given the nature of the posts I believe there's reason for her bf to see it the way he did.
I don't think the guys trying to put down her bf (are you guys seriously any better? I doubt it because you're still here), and girls applying a double standard are really helping out the OP by any margin.


League girl always sais the boyfriend is a scumbag or he is controlling piece of garbage whenever a woman posts here asking advice like this. I wouldn't take her comments seriously.


Seriously I have had bad relationships and one of them was controlling. I have low intolerance for such behavior.


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18 Oct 2013, 5:12 pm

League_Girl wrote:
lost561 wrote:
JanuaryMan wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
Tell him does he want to know what all the websites you go to and are a member of?

That sounds controlling to me.


If this has happened before, then yes. Seeing as this is an isolated incident, they are both young, and given the nature of the posts I believe there's reason for her bf to see it the way he did.
I don't think the guys trying to put down her bf (are you guys seriously any better? I doubt it because you're still here), and girls applying a double standard are really helping out the OP by any margin.


League girl always sais the boyfriend is a scumbag or he is controlling piece of garbage whenever a woman posts here asking advice like this. I wouldn't take her comments seriously.


Seriously I have had bad relationships and one of them was controlling. I have low intolerance for such behavior.



She's still posting here as you can see.



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18 Oct 2013, 5:24 pm

At least my husband doesn't care what sites I post on and who I talk to or where I go.


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