Where do smart men hang out?

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Not on the internet.

also, a smart man does not hang out from his surreptitiously unzipped fly.

If people listened to simple advice, and didn't need riddles (and riddling isn't a crime), the world would be a perfect place, would it not.

You need simple black and white advice?

1) Move somewhere more cosmopolitan, where you will find more people able to connect with you. Maybe a university area of a big city.
2) Try and figure out why that person really wasn't interested when you suggested you hang out with him. It's sometimes easier changing a bit of the inside than the outside. I mean, it could be something really simple.
3) If men get the impression that a woman wants children so badly, and her body clock is ticking so loudly that he can hear it, it can be a complete turn off for him - because that man will think he's going to be a glorified sperm donor and is going to be used and not loved and appreciated for who he is. Not saying you do this, but some women do. And then they wonder why a man recoils.
4) What's the funniest joke you know?

I wish you well.

Why not go to church? Church isn't that scary, we don't sit down on the floor with our hands up high and mumble random words. The church even says good stories sometimes. (like about some dude who killed a giant) Plus you will find that a lot of nice, caring people go to church. You hardly won't see any drunk men at church.


Unless the local church denominations are Assembly Of God, they shouldn't make you feel uncomftorable or ask you to stand up, raise your hands and shout to Jesus. A church is a great way to meet people. In fact some people go just for the community aspect of it.


You should try it once. If you don't like it then don't come back.

At comicon! At the local Anime convention, the local sci fi convention, star wars, star trek, ren fair, etc!

Coffee shops is about the only place where business men might go, on occation. Not exactly a pick up joint, BUT if you go sort of often, you might meet someone.

I saw on documentary on TV years ago. Grociery stores is a good place to find single men, though you'd have to have the gift of the gab. If there are any men walking about with shopping trollies, he is likely single. So just pick and choose a classy looking one and suss him out.

Most people are lonely. If they are doing something in public, chances are they are hoping to meet someone.

-book club
-political group
-volunteer organization
-gym class
-art class
-cooking class
-weekly bike ride, hiking club, trail run
-book readings
-live music
ETC,

Join a public activity that you are interested in. Do something!

Where would I find a book club? Would the library host them? I fear any kind of classes would be out of my budget, money was the main reason I didn't go to college. Well that and no one to help me with the paperwork.

Where do smart men hang out? They don't.

I doubt they are all sitting at home hacking one another's WOW accounts, thus some of them must be somewhere.

Yeah, Library or book store would be the place to ask about book clubs. They are generally free, or maybe $5 per, to cover meeting room and coffee, snacks, etc.

I imagine if you google "book club" and your town name, you'll prolly find something.

I would highly suggest volunteering. Big Brothers, Big Sisters, the local Food Bank, something like that. I have found personally, no matter how low and sh***y you feel about yourself, you are never too low to help someone else. And it makes you feel really good about yourself. And much more appreciative of the things you DO have, rather than focusing on what you don't have.

Also, other volunteers tend to be very nice and compassionate people, who are more tolerant and accepting of people who are not perfect.

IMO, "Mensa" types who are convinced they are much smarter and superior to the "average" person, tend to only be smart in one or two types on intelligence... maybe good at math or words.... but often ret*d at empathy, leadership, body awareness, etc....

A wise man realizes they have much to learn from EVERYONE.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_ ... elligences
1 The different abilities
1.1 Musical - rhythmic & harmonic
1.2 Visual - spatial
1.3 Verbal - linguistic
1.4 Logical - mathematical
1.5 Bodily - kinesthetic
1.6 Interpersonal
1.7 Intrapersonal
1.8 Naturalistic
1.9 Existential

In British English, "smart" means well-dressed or neatly turned out. In US English I think it means "clever," doesn't it?

Well, I am from the UK and I would also like to know (in the British sense) where the smart men hang out.

Gay bars! LOL

I'm aware that you were (probably / hopefully) joking, but not all smartly-dressed men are gay, you know.

LOL!!^ this reminds me of that time in that one gay bar when I kept turning around and around and asking my friend: "Are you SURE this is a gay bar" because it looked like a 70s northern working man's pub in there.