Being Single Is 'Not a Crisis'

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yes, you can do for years, if not a life time without, but please do tell, without lying to your self, is this what you really want? do you not dream of sharing your existence with others, whom you can and or do love and care about? and they you back? that longing for belonging, for that reason of existence, for that matter?? humans can not be truly happy without that part of their lives being fulfilled, for it is within our natures to want to love mate and bare the fruit of family. its how nature made us so to help invoke that procreation.

Last edited by AspergianMutantt on 07 Feb 2014, 7:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I like sex. I like chocolate.
They aren't needs.
I wouldn't be terribly upset if I didn't have sex again for the rest of my life.



No.



Nonsense.

Frustrated I take it? its easy to deny ones self when feeling socially abandoned? You seem to forget, We ARE Animals, and our differences are based upon our biological differences and that of the sum of our experiences. this does not mean our truths are THE truths, but instead a truth that we must share in order to derive at a common understanding. if you listen closely, you can feel even others sharing your own like pains. your not alone.

Again, a lot of people are acting like it's impossible to be happy and single. It's not. I and several other people are reporting the same thing, that we're happy without a relationship. End story.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a nice construct. But it's not perfect. I point to the existence of asexuals and aromantics as evidence of that.

The question is not if its possible, its more like, whats preferred, if given that chance and that choice.
Life is what you make of it,.
If life were but a dream, then make it your dream.

everyone's different, i agree that some people can be perfectly happy single(oddly the people i know like this all end up in relationship they said they never wanted) but at the same side you need to knowledge that some people won't be 100% happy alone.

i know people that are like man up just be happy etc, but they just pushing how they are onto me, I'm not them, also has nothing to do with society telling me to be in a relationship, cause quite frankly its saying i shouldn't, i have always needed people and always will, its how i am.

I enjoy being single, but I wouldn't say no to a relationship either.

Life is for living, why focus on the things that don't go your way? Why not focus on what goes right and work on that?

percentiles. odds,.

Projecting. You're doing it right.

I don't actually GET lonely.

Yeah, and what I prefer is my own company. The only circumstances under which I want a relationship is if the person is sufficiently awesome to make up for the fact that spending time with them takes me away from stuff I love doing, and the fact that dealing with people is hard work.

Only damsels have crisises.

Yeaaaaaaaaah, no.

Each person is unique, each case is different. Some people have no desire to find a partner, others do. Finding someone you want to date, and then that person vanishing without a trace has an effect on you that you may not realize at first, but is pretty obvious to everyone you know.

For example, I was seeing a girl named Caroline last year. We weren't dating, but I'd asked her out a couple of times. Then, during the summer, she moves to Texas without telling me when she was leaving, and my friends and academic coaches immediately noticed my change in attitude. That particular semester was the worst one I've had while going to school: I dropped most of my classes, changed my major, and was moody and tired all of the time. It got a little better this semester...but I'm still tired and moody for no other reason than that I'm lonely all of the time.

Some people have a psychological need to find a partner. Others can find happiness without it. Again, each case is different, and generalizing this is foolish. Just because one person can be satisfied without a partner, DOES NOT mean that everyone can.

To be perfectly honest, I dream of not feeling that need. And I manage to get there around Christmas time when everyone is away and has forgotten about me and I can just enjoy being myself and not having the uncomfortable push pull feeling that comes from having other people's attention on you.

I have noticed this over the years - loneliness only exist when there are other people around. when there are no people, there is no loneliness, just pure joy at being alive. I am not a very social animal I don't think. I have cats and even they crowd me, although when they are all not around sometimes it feels odd for a while, but then I start to 'expand' into the newly vacated psychic space and feel pain when I have to contract again when they come back. Although I do enjoy them, so it's like that with people but worse. People give you enjoyment but pain also, and I find that whole transaction is generally not worth is except I don't know how to provide food and shelter for myself without being part of the world, and by that I mean interacting with people.

Each and every one of you that has replied to my comments, know your own answers. the question is of do you want to face your own truths.

"The hand in water isn't like the hand in fire." - Arabic proverb.

Only those who never or didn't got relationships/sex for a very long time understand what's their lacking are like.

Those who are getting it regularly, with short dry periods in between, wouldn't really understand or relate; and they might falsely believe that they would be able to live without it at all without feeling any loneliness or lacking.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 09 Feb 2014, 12:18 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You always mock/belittle others and talk to others here as if they are ret*ds and below your oh-so-high intellectual level, you should realize that this is your constant attitude on WP in case you haven't noticed yourself; you often show little to no respect.

The question wasn't even addressed to you.

Next time watch your tone, Who_Am_I ...or don't ever interact with me. Do this again with me with this same belittling tone, and I am gonna report you, understood?

The word 'need' doesn't necessarily mean a need indispensable for maintaining life.