my dating profile, toughts?(hopefully not mean)

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Sly, you didn't read my last post. It's the last post on the last page of the thread (page 2). Read it, please. It may be helpful.

oh no i did as with the ones above too. I even made some changes based off of it, but i don't know how to reply so i am afraid and just didn't


as for the pictures I have so few and no one to take more, i only added the other two, cause a lady wanted to see more before she would continue talking with me. They were taken for a lady i was in fake love with we shared pictures back in forth daily, so it was all i had to share that were happy pictures.


my friend came over and visited me, the one who loves working out, well duh he's my only real friend. anyways he gets it that i don't enjoy it, it is very upsetting and sad for me to work out, at least alone, if it was a social thing i could do it, i wouldn't enjoy it but it also wouldn't make me depressed.

as for beling sad it mostly happens at night which is also when I get on this forums, Hench the trend. though it came happen during the day like today when i work up to another girl rejecting me which pretty much set the tone for the whole day oh and i got yelled at by family yay.

also as for outside exicersing if not for the shyness, anxiety and depression it brings, it also doesn't help its alsmost always pouring, dark, and muddy outside. and lately cold.

i am mostly happy with how i am, its others that aren't so to change would be going away from a happier me, do i want to get back to 250 pounds and being able to run yes, but past that no. but i'd also love to get back into airsoft(which invovled lots of walking/running/social/friends/fun) but can't. I'm on the edge of the city theres nothing and no one out here for me When i had my friend out here we went on walks together, but now he lives in downtown. and neither of us can afford to go see each other even being only 7 miles apart.

so idk what to do, only have 7 women in my matches now that are 5 miles away. 1300 hidden users, , and the 7 left are way to good looking for me.

another girl liked me on POF

:S I'm feel afraid now I don't know what to do, just want to go hid under some blankets somewhere. :S

Just send her a message then. Ask her what she liked about your profile, visit her profile to see if you have anything in common and talk about that etc.

Why do you have so many hidden users?

I don't understand women, including your sister . **waving to her while she's over your shoulder**

What's all about this illogical advice from the females about he should hide the fact that he's currently jobless? They would find it out on the very first date or even earlier like the very first chat between them, what good that will make if the girl can't tolerate and doesn't want to risk to be committed with a jobless guy? It's just delaying the inevitable , the same girl who would ignore him after the first date or the first exchange/chat because of his status would have ignored his message if she knew he is jobless, the latter case is less hurtful.

I am curious to know what your sister would reply to me.

You should think less of stereotypes, and more about simply life consequences. Being in an relationship, means for me, to spend time together. Now during the week, most of my time is spend with loanwork and housework. There is time to see my partner, but actually no "quality relationship time" that you can really spend together and focus on your partner. So its only the two days of the weekend left for that. But its not only "relationship quality time" with my partner that I can only do on my weekends, but as well some sport. Not to be skinny for anyone or to fit into someones imagination of the perfect body type, but simply because its something I do to prevent my depression coming back, its something I do to strenghten my back muscles, so my spiral gets betters support and so on. It might be of less issue around your age, but around 30, you start mentioning it, when you stay most of the time in the office or in the car during weak.

And because of both of that being important for me (out of necessity), and I am as well having no time machine, its simply necessary to do both of it at once. So spend a good quality time with my partner and have any kind of physical movement for it. I dont like gyms either, and only went there for about 6 months, so its more about outdoor physical activities I like. As well that I dont have much preferences about it, so my partner is afraid of height - ok, then no climbing or mountain hiking.

But spending some quality time with my partner is simply an necessity for me, as it is doing any kind of physical activity, to prevent me getting depressed as well to keep me healthy, to prevent back aches ....

So someone, that seems to avoid all kind of physical activity, simply was a dealbreaker for me because on long term an relationship could not function, anyway how nice the guy was. I am forced to sit in my office or cars most time of the week, if I additionally spend the weekend sitting in a chair, I already can start to order some strong pain medication, as well that I will most likely get into depression again. Its not about looking like a model, my partner has as well some overweight, and I have as well no clothsize zero, but when you mention, that you cant visit your friend because of some 7 miles distance, which is too expensive (feet dont cost anything), that really limits the possibilities of physical activities that I could possibily do with an partner.

I'll ask her just for you, Boo, as soon as she wakes up.

You seem really nice and I hope that you get some good replies.

Okay, Boo. I asked my sister.

This was her response:

"If I read that someone is jobless in the profile that is an automatic write off for me. I don't know that person so I have very little else to go on. If someone doesn't have any information of their job status on their profile and I wind up messaging them and getting to know them. I will eventually ask what are they doing job wise, and that is when they can say they are unemployed and currently looking. It's better to leave it off the profile because it gives women who would originally write that person off based on that fact, a chance to get to know the guy before finding that out. If she likes the guy enough and they click, then the employment status won't be a dealbreaker like it would be by seeing it on a profile of a guy I don't know."

Makes sense, I guess.

Not so convinced.

I think your profile seems to have improved somewhat since making this topic, in response to the advice given already.
So, all I'd really say as a critique is that the photo looks a bit like a passport photo or something.... a little awkward, and maybe like you've been told not to smile.

It sounds like the same reasoning for not mentioning that you've got Asperger's in your profile. If you don't put in your profile, you have a chance of them getting to know you before pre-judging you. The only difference is that it may take them longer to find out that you're an aspie, than finding out that you're jobless because unlike the latter, having Asperger's may not be immediately obvious even when you meet them but you'd have to tell them eventually.

Its always gone the same way, they talk for a a few days but then just ignore me, or they find someone else better, etc.
she didn't list her interests besides being a extrovert, playing in a league(of what idk, also bad sign for her liking me), swimming and having a few drinks. shes pretty and I'd say normal, not skinny but not fat.




they either
1. talked with for a while and aren't interested.
2. red square for replies selectively.
3. gorgeous and thin body type.
4. both the 2 and 3(which is very common)
5. (while not really hidden yet, but i won't message) they've gone over seas , like to Europe and stuff.

Last edited by sly279 on 20 Feb 2014, 1:40 am, edited 1 time in total.

i don't avoid all kinds of physical activity, i love walks/hikes, I enjoy swimming, and i really liked airsoft. I would love to do backpack camping(though its dangerous) I don't like sports never have, i find them all boring. except for i guess airsoft. I did track and field for a while in middle/high school. Foot ball people wanted me a lot cause of my size and height lol.

that being said those athletic types tend to want people who run a lot and look thin, which i don't.

walking alone tends to cause me depression, back when i did it before all the anxiety