Who wishes to stay single, and why?

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I choose to be single mainly in that, in my case I'm not the right in some area(s).I'll better elaborate either too some I'm too short,too tall not so-called,"Right" in some whether it comes down to appearance or my eccentric personality.
However, to be positive several years ago around 1997 I was involved in a nice relationship for 4yrs which despite the shortness of such there was happiness there on both sides of the equation... Yes, that was a long time ago and these days I've lost a great amount of my hopefulness Yet, not to say Happiness could come about oncemore just, over the last couple of years, I've found myself being dragged around by people whom I thought sincerely cared but, it was more just a notion of someone wanting to play some kind of game..

I rarely speak much about relationships yet, being around other Aspies I don't feel like some joke or abstract anamoly.

With closing I would kindly wish any/all whom don't have a mate that it's never impossible so, may others out there realize Hapiness & Love can be found.

Professor X

It´s not that I don´t want to try and have a relationship but I am concerned about the "complications" that would entail. I know I would be a very difficult person to live with.

If I go single again I'm probably going to decide being single for awhile because relationships are very complicated. What I do isn't very good enough and I'm just too of an as*hole and I do a crappy job at caring. I can think of my lover and still do a bad job. My bf thinks I'm self centured and too immature just because I like a lot of kid shows and act too young for him. He's AS and I'm PDD and we might split up because of it. We're thinking of separating anyway due to moving.

Who is going want a woman who acts low function and is an embarassment to him and acts too young? I know, some guy who wants a baby girl (adult baby). I met plenty of men online who are into that daddy stuff or baby stuff. My bf sees me as a baby most of the time. Well he watches lot of teen shows so I can start saying to him he is too immature too and is still a kid in his teens and I don't like it and he is an embarrassment too. There, now we're even. I can say to him I can stop watching kid shows and he can stop watching teen shows and acting so young in his 20's instead of in his late 30's.

What I do isn't very good enough and I'm just too of an as*hole and I do a crappy job at caring.

likedcalico, I'll say this that I, myself was not that great when it came to emotions however, in your case, I'd not put yourself down just cause you have trouble for relationships are not 100% accurate as, when I was involved myself many years ago my former mate often would get angry with me for being a tadbit absent-minded/lost sometimes still I did try though. My point is never look upon yourself as being terrible at something cause, other people can be bad at things life as well.


Sincerely,
Professor X

I don't know, but until I can find me.

A girl who'll stay and won't play 'games' behind me.

I'll be what I am...

A Solitary Man (Neil Diamond but I hate him so happily, Johnny Cash did a cover).




I'm happy and I won't settle, so.

I'm generally a misanthropic, I have no desire to have children, and simply I couldn't respect a woman who would settle with me

Ive been single for the last 2 years after a long on and off relationship that drove me into the ground. I'm not sure if I want to be single , I guess it depends on meeting someone who isnt so completely messed up by other people that I dont get a chance to demonstrate how unlike the rest of those crazy humans I am.

Then again maybe thats something to do with the kind of people who would date me lol... everyone tells me Im good looking but I'm your stereotyped computer geek a lot of the time with no social skills unless I find another geek or someone into any of my odd collection of hobby subjects.

Still - one day I'll meet some spiritual computer geek without too much baggage that I can share my madness with untill then Im fine on my own.

I wish to stay single for many reasons, including freedom, solitude, peace & quiet, being accepted by everyone in the room, not having to quibble over money, schedules & plans, habits (being single means never having to ask if I can wood-carve in the living room on my coffee table), low stress (I have heart-attack heredity, so this is a must), no anxiety over her leaving or dying, no "implied" anything (like a certain general bedtime, etc)... I think that's enough for now.

We only get in romantic relationships because we're pumped full of hormones 24/7, and can't think outside of that motis operandi very well. Otherwise, the more social of us would get in simple friendships, rather than full "relationships".

Ragtime, I like the way you think a lot. Seems very similar to my own and possibly because we have both experienced long term relationships. I don't know if I have completely given up on relationships but it's certainly not a priority for the immediate future for the exact reasons you stated. It will take a very special girl to entice me out of the single life.

Slightly off topic, but your statement about word carving reminds me of when I used to turn the lounge room into my personal bicycle workshop or plastic model kit production line. Much to the dismay of my NT mother hehe.