Are all the good ones REALLY taken by 27?

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I think most women once they hit 27 or 28 feel the same way about men, I think you should abandon frivolous stereotypes and just approach dating with confidence.

This reminds me of the movie Idiocracy, where are the stupid people breed and the smart ones go childless-- it's not just science fiction/comedy, I think it actually happens.


This makes me think of the things we're doing with DNA, perhaps the arranged marriage of the future will have the "spec sheet" you mentioned. Not that I'm for children getting betrothed to other children, but there are some fascinating possibilities.

I am trying hard not to think that way but I have to admit that thought is slowly creeping in. There are many great women out there but of all the ones I know, they all got married in their mid-late 20s to equally great Husbands. I have also met a number of quality girls lately but they are either engaged/married or are far too young for me. I do worry that being a late bloomers means my ship has sailed but I'm not prepared to give up, except when it comes to online dating. The women on there my age group are something else and that's a subject for another day....

Having said all that, I'm sure there is a late 20s woman sitting in her apartment right now wondering if there are any decent men over 27 that haven't been gobbled up. I am waking up to the fact that online dating has warped my view of women as childish, self-centered narcissists with nasty, entitled attitudes but to be fair women have told me how online dating has warped their view of men as sex crazed lunatics who treat women as objects and have no interest in family or responsibility. I doubt either represents the majority of their gender.

Sounds a lot like my dilemma. It seems that many women get turned off by someone like me who takes a while to understand and appreciate. I imagine this is a societal problem in general in our instant gratification world. It almost seems like most women expect you to make a move almost instantly and I find that WAY too difficult given my Aspie dislike of touching people I don't know well. I've had a number of married women said that they did not know how to take me but at first but now realize what a great guy I am. I just don't know how to make that instant connection with someone. I do know that if I do eventually manage to get that relationship, it will be nothing short of a dream partnership for both of us.

No. There are quite a few that end up at this age for varying reasons marital abuse, school, personal choice are a few that come to mind. A portion of woman do not even want relationships in their early twenties the ones who wish to ?experience? life. Thus I would say many do not even become good until their late twenties. You also have a lot of people with mental issues that take extra time and there is always nature?s recycling when spouses die. So quite simply the answer is no. The number of available woman may shrink over time but so too does the number of seeking males.

My opinion, as someone who recently turned 30, is that 27 is young. If you are looking for a life partner, look for someone in her mid-to-late 30's. By that time, she will have a fully developed personality and probably know what she was wants. Also, if she had kids or is divorced, the kids are probably older allowing time for your relationship to grow. It seems to me that we are in a two-track society in the U.S. There are people who start having kids young (probably not married when they have kids), stumble through their 20's trying to raise those kids, and get married when they are in their 30's. Then there are people who postpone serious relationships and childbearing until they have established a career. These people don't even start seriously thinking about relationships until they are in their late 20's. I happen to be one of those people. I just started thinking about dating at age 29. It's a class thing.

A small segment of people find their life partner early in life (teens or early 20's), but that doesn't seem to be the norm. I don't know very many people who are like that, and if you look at statistics taken from the U.S. census, you'll see that the age of first marriage is going up. Where I'm from, single mothers in their late 20's are the norm (either never married or divorced).

Im left over garbage nobody wants something thats broken and needs a lot of fixing.

Self-concept counts for a lot. Say something good about yourself.

I'm not a fan of stereotypes, but this is mostly true about online dating - most sites are generally used as a source for superficial hook-ups. From my experience, the "Start off as friends" doesn't happen, and it's mostly about meeting someone you find attractive and just bullshitting each other enough until you get in their pants. At least at my age.

Well? I do have a heart and try my best to make people happy! Im also a savant at learning multiple languages I am a good snuggler as well but I do act chilish and get hyper.

that does seem to be the general thought of why men are on dating sights. majority of women's profiles will sepeficily list that they don't want hookups, fwb, one night stands, I also notice a trend of starting as friends only being added to them as well. I have noticed a few that list sexual hook ups as a option and fewer still stating it is their goal. This is in my area though. there is a bunch of current college students or graduates with 4-8 year degrees seeking a successful partner for a serious relationship. some don't plan to stay here though those i am confused as why they are seeking a long term relationship when they plan to move out of state in 4-12 months. there are a superficial women who seek men with objects though, I take from their profiles that men tend to be more about sex and body in this area but I don't tend to read men's profiles so i can say for sure. I've acatually turned more towards craigslist for my romantic hopes.

need a thread like this in heave , have people say good things about themselves.

Well, you live in California. Being childish and hyper is a normal variant there. So, you're good to go.

Extra perk is in the SF bay area in Silicon valley as well! People here dont look at me as some freak or judge me as much as other places i used to live in. Other areas people would tell me to grow the f up and ask me wtf is wrong with me or call me some ret*d or a freak! They would laugh at me for the way I walk *i tend to hunch as i walk* or talk crap about me or want to hurt me because im different but not here though.

On the subject of being called ret*d, I was in a bar in Iowa and three drunks tried spinning me in circles. The kept saying "You is a ree-tard, ain't ya?" Over and over again. I got out of there in a hurry.

I really really hate that! I hate being called a ret*d I had people call me that during Jr. High regardless of my intelligence just the fact I rode a short bus to school! The blatent ignorance of society when it comes to autism is they instantly assume mentally ret*d or rainman or freak or just plain ret*d and make fun and bully! I got bullied for years it did not help that my mom divorced my dad and remarried with a sociopathic abusive stepdad when I was 13 and had to deal with his ass for years and years! I got beat up and got in fights a lot in school because of these damn bullies sometimes id fight back and show them whos boss but then be the one in trouble othertimes id be the one brutally beaten and the bullies get away with it! Then when i get home my stepdad would laugh at how I got beat up!

i'm the only one to call me a ret*d. though i've heard others call aspies that . the plus to seeming normal I geuss.