The UCSB shooter--an Aspie with a rant against women
I would advice other males in similar position to simply take yourself out -- no matter how many people you kill you wont be able to change the world, and it's much worse to be a monster than just a lonely dead guy.
Also, can we expand males/guy to include females/gal?
I don't think most aspie women will fall to those depths because their reproductive abilities adds a lot of value in their desirability to a society...most of these shooters tend to always be males because of that.
Please, please stop this nonsense. It is hateful and hurtful.
Yes. Even within the insane nonsense itself -- I don't understand, in that crazy mindset, do women just vanish once they hit menopause? Or if they're infertile? Or is there some other bit of pseudoscientific malarkey that comes in to explain it?
Resentment comes from a sense of entitlement. Otherwise there is nothing to resent. He wanted something - thought himself entitled to it - and was utterly, gobsmackingly bewildered when he couldn't have it. This is not a rare thing, and is not formed in a vacuum.
If a person isolated themselves it wouldn't fix loneliness though, they're literally between a rock and a hard place. Lonelines is what leads to those attempts, which then led to rejections and a sense of powerlessness.
It's somehwat hard for me to divorse the want of a significant other from a sense of entitlement, it just seems to me that it comes with your humanity, you want to believe that there is a singificant other because there is a part of our brains that desires it with a passion. It's hard to seperate this intense passion from that longing, it's just a wild and intense thing by it's nature. Which is why these guys can't completely isolate themselves and be content in that... we're made to have significant others.
'We' are, perhaps, made to want SOs. Fortunately, we are also made such that we can pause and reflect and self-examine and engage with matters from a variety of angles.
Wanting something is not the same as feeling entitled to it. One can want something, not have it, and feel sad about the matter. Bereft, even. This is the gap between the world one wants, and the world one has.
Resentment comes where one expects - feels entitled to - a particular world. It's not just that one wants this world - where one is happy, or rich, or with a romantic partner, etc - but that one simply expects they should have it. Yet one doesn't. Entitlement does not form in a vacuum. In this particular case, Rodgers, as many, many, many men around the world do, felt entitled to romantic/sexual attention from women. This is the resentment, the rage. The world - in this case, women - are failing to live up to their side of the deal. That there is no such deal doesn't easily come to mind when so much is implying - or plain telling you - that there is.
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Of course, it's probably quite a bit more complicated than that.
You know sometimes, between the dames and the horses, I don't even know why I put my hat on.
Father Dougal: Did you ever see that film, Ted, where your man has his head transplanted onto a fly, and the fly's head was transplanted onto the man?
Father Ted: Oh, yes... what was it called...?
Father Dougal: Out Of Africa, I think. Anyway, your man has the head of the fly and he's chasing his wife all over the place and she's hiding the jam and everything so he won't get stuck in it...
Father Ted: I'll have to stop you there, Dougal.
Father Dougal: Yes, Ted?
Father Ted: No reason. I just have to stop you.
By screwing someone's wife, eh?
US women are not just a baffle to US men but they baffle the entire world when they go for douches, most of the MTV douches would be seen as vulgar and unattractive in other cultures and communities.
In Asia or certain parts of Europe, you will find a nicer women and there's a ninety five percent chance she will fulfil your desires better.
Please tell me you didn't just victim-blame those women Rodgers shot at and murdered.
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Of course, it's probably quite a bit more complicated than that.
You know sometimes, between the dames and the horses, I don't even know why I put my hat on.
Resentment comes from a sense of entitlement. Otherwise there is nothing to resent. He wanted something - thought himself entitled to it - and was utterly, gobsmackingly bewildered when he couldn't have it. This is not a rare thing, and is not formed in a vacuum.
If a person isolated themselves it wouldn't fix loneliness though, they're literally between a rock and a hard place. Lonelines is what leads to those attempts, which then led to rejections and a sense of powerlessness.
It's somehwat hard for me to divorse the want of a significant other from a sense of entitlement, it just seems to me that it comes with your humanity, you want to believe that there is a singificant other because there is a part of our brains that desires it with a passion. It's hard to seperate this intense passion from that longing, it's just a wild and intense thing by it's nature. Which is why these guys can't completely isolate themselves and be content in that... we're made to have significant others.
Only if you objectify the significant other. But this SO isn't an object, she's a person. You don't "get to have" people.
My dear, I am a 40something woman who works her ass off daily, on her own, without family, to raise a child and make sure that child can go to school and spend her own 40s and 50s doing something other than supporting her mother. I haven't lived with a man in nearly a decade; I've given up on the idea of finding anyone compatible. Do I feel entitled to have a man in my life, no. Of course not. Do I feel enraged when I go to pick up my daughter from a sleepover at a friend's giant house and chat with the friend's stay-home mom, christ no. I'm just glad that my kid gets to have such a good time in a nice place, and that someone's got leisure to arrange fun parties she can attend. (I also know that other people are actually people, with their own problems and hardships -- even stay-home moms with big fancy houses.)
You are not, repeat not, entitled to a woman in your life. Neither is any other man.
Doesn't matter how strong you are, you still have you moments of weakness where you wish you had a man, it doesn't matter how many years it can take for that moment to come or how strong you perceive yourself to be, you WILL want a significant other through various stages of your life, and without a doubt, his absence is felt. That part of your humanity can't simply be denied, some people break under the weight of its absense, others can endure it, but it's still very much felt.
If that intense want of love isn't entitlement I don't know what entitlement is. I just can't separate an intense want of love from a persons humanity, and please try because I simply can't conceive of the human that doesn't want love.
"I want" and "mine" are two very, very different things, and normally children learn the difference around the age of five or six. If you really can't tell the difference between these two, you're in line for some serious trouble, and potentially dangerous to others. I'd suggest you find a counselor to help you with it.
People all over the world want things badly that they have no right to, and won't ever have. Societies generally come to agreements about what people are and aren't entitled to. Normally the arguments are over money, health, and opportunities -- to go to school, to work, to own property (property, not people), to live in this neighborhood or that, to wear this or that, travel here or there, be supported in old age, have healthcare, have a place to live, be free from violence.
I can't think of anyplace in the industrialized world where the debates are over whether or not you get to have a spouse. Because they're people, not objects. You are not entitled. You may be consumed with longing, but no, you're not entitled, and neither am I.
How about this analogy, to put yourself in his shoes in a similar light, and imagine now your children cannot and WILL NOT love you, they don't want anything to do with you, despite all your attempts of affection, and aren't you entitled to their love as their parent? Thats why its hard to separate a want of love from feelings of entitlement, you're dealing with intense passion that's inherent in every human being, it's just something that defines our entire existence, and because it defines our entire existence, its nonexistence is going to manifest in some nasty shape or form in our society.... People who are separated from love will be more susceptible to the derangement caused by its lack of existence.
And Isn't a human being entitled to love when they enter this world? Isn't a baby entitled to love? Does the baby have to earn it? Sorry for preying on your maternal instincts but I think it illustrate my point... it's very hard to separate entitlement of love from your humanity, it's just something that human beings NEED and crave.
And Isn't a human being entitled to love when they enter this world? Isn't a baby entitled to love? Does the baby have to earn it? Sorry for preying on your maternal instincts but I think it illustrate my point... it's very hard to separate entitlement of love from your humanity, it's just something that human beings NEED and crave.
this is just false. desiring a mate does not define my existence--i'm not saying i'm not interested in possibly pairing up some day if the right person happens to come along, but if they don't, well, i have my own life to live, i have other interests, i have activities that i enjoy. i will not die from not being loved, because i love myself.
I watched the video. This is probably a matter far more complex than just what he mentioned. If his father is famous and wealthy, the shooter may have had a general sense of comparative failure. And, there could have been some serious family dynamics involved. Sometimes, people commit grandiose suicide to shock or shame others. We don't know everything yet, but I wouldn't be surprised if he did this, at least partially, to punish his parents with conspicuous and haunting shame.
How about this analogy, to put yourself in his shoes in a similar light, and imagine now your children cannot and WILL NOT love you, they don't want anything to do with you, despite all your attempts of affection, and aren't you entitled to their love as their parent?
No, of course I'm not. I hope my daughter will still love me when we're older. But I don't control her emotions and I have no right to her love. She's a person, not an object, and she doesn't belong to me. She's also a kind and loving person who, when she was three -- to my shock -- thanked me solemnly for giving her life.
Person. She's a person, not an object, not a possession. With independence, agency, all the rest. My job as a parent is to try to get her to a healthy and promising adulthood, teach her, care for her, back her, get her out of trouble she's too young to get out of herself. Give her what she needs to grow up, be there should she need to come back, help her as I can once she's grown. I owe her *my* love. But I chose to have her, not the other way around.
He was a misogynist. Have you seen the video? You could write up much of it as standard stuff on here (and elsewhere).
Transcript copy-pasted from the thread on the shooting in News:
"Hi, Elliot Rodger here.
Well? this is my last video. It all has to come to this.
Tomorrow is the day of retribution. The day in which I will have my revenge against humanity. Against all of you.
For the last 8 years of my life, ever since I?ve hit puberty, I?ve been forced to endure an existence of loneliness, rejection, and unfulfilled desires. All because girls have never been attracted to me.
Girls gave their affection, and sex, and love, to other men but never to me.
I?m 22 years old and I?m still a virgin. I?ve never even kissed a girl.
I?ve been through college for two and a half years, more than that actually, and I?m still a virgin.
It has been very torturous.
College is the time when everyone experiences those things such as sex, and fun, and pleasure. But in those years I?ve had to rot in loneliness.
It?s not fair. You girls have never been attracted to me.
I don?t know why you girls aren?t attracted to me, but I will punish you all for it.
It?s an injustice, a crime, because I don?t know what you don?t see in me. I?m the perfect guy, and yet you throw yourselves at all these obnoxious men, instead of me, the supreme gentlemen.
I will punish all of you for it. (laughs)
On the day of retribution I am going to enter the hottest sorority house of UCSB? and I will slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up, blonde slut I see inside there.
All those girls that I?ve desired so much, they would?ve all rejected me and looked down upon me as an inferior man if I ever made a sexual advance towards them while they throw themselves at these obnoxious brutes.
I will take great pleasure in slaughtering all of you.
You will finally see that I am in truth the superior one. The true alpha male. (laughs)
Yes, after I?ve annihilated every single girl in the sorority house, I?ll take to the streets of Isla Vista, and slay every single person I see there.
All those popular kids who live such lives of hedonistic pleasure while I?ve had to rot in loneliness for all these years, they?ve all looked down upon me every time I try to go out and join them. They?ve all treated me like a mouse.
Well now, I will be a God compared to you. You will all be animals. You are animals, and I will slaughter you like animals. I will be a God, exacting my retribution, on all those who deserve it.
And you do deserve it, just for the crime of living a better life than me.
All you popular kids. You?ve never accepted me, and now you?ll all pay for it.
And girls, all I?ve ever wanted was to love you, and to be loved by you. I?ve wanted a girlfriend, I?ve wanted sex, I?ve wanted love, affection, adoration, but you think I?m unworthy of it.
That?s a crime that can never be forgiven.
If I can?t have you, girls, I will destroy you. (laughs)
You denied me a happy life, and in turn, I will deny all of you life. (laughs) It?s only fair.
I hate all of you, humanity is a disgusting, wretched, depraved species. If I had it in my power, I would stop at nothing, to reduce every single one of you to mountains of skulls and rivers of blood, and rightfully so.
You deserve to be annihilated. And I?ll give that to you.
You never showed me any mercy, and so I will show you none. (laughs)
You force me to suffer all my life, and now I?ll make you all suffer.
I?ve waited a long time for this.
I?ll give you exactly what you deserve."
I feel weird. I was actually empathizing with him (NOT his actions) up until he said "College is the time when everyone experiences those things such as sex, and fun, and pleasure. But in those years I?ve had to rot in loneliness.". After that, I just felt more and more repulsed, especially when he verbalized his target: "spoiled, stuck-up, blonde slut". I cringed when I heard that. From the beginning, I pretty much could tell he was most likely autistic, but MAN is he also a narcissist. To him, he was entitled to sex, affection, and a relationship, but he didn't receive it. Now he will punish all women because they didn't give him what he was entitled to. Disgusting...disgusting....
US women are not just a baffle to US men but they baffle the entire world when they go for douches, most of the MTV douches would be seen as vulgar and unattractive in other cultures and communities.
In Asia or certain parts of Europe, you will find a nicer women and there's a ninety five percent chance she will fulfil your desires better.
Controlling men do this. They go to other countries where women are considered second class in order to "get" a woman to control. I see men do this ESPECIALLY in places where the women often have no choice but to either go with a well off abuser or die due to starvation. It's DISGUSTING, and these men are USERS AND ABUSERS.
US women are not just a baffle to US men but they baffle the entire world when they go for douches, most of the MTV douches would be seen as vulgar and unattractive in other cultures and communities.
In Asia or certain parts of Europe, you will find a nicer women and there's a ninety five percent chance she will fulfil your desires better.
Controlling men do this. They go to other countries where women are considered second class in order to "get" a woman to control. I see men do this ESPECIALLY in places where the women often have no choice but to either go with a well off abuser or die due to starvation. It's DISGUSTING, and these men are USERS AND ABUSERS.
Yep. Also, Archdevlious, tell me, when's the last time you were in "Asia or certain parts of Europe"?
And Isn't a human being entitled to love when they enter this world? Isn't a baby entitled to love? Does the baby have to earn it? Sorry for preying on your maternal instincts but I think it illustrate my point... it's very hard to separate entitlement of love from your humanity, it's just something that human beings NEED and crave.
Some of the best advice I ever received was "No one ever said your parent HAD to love you, but no one ever said you had to love them, either."
I think the problem here is psychiatry and psychology tends to attract lazy types, people looking for a lifestyle job. Not all of them, but too many of them. I've had several of them, some of who were good, some of who thought I was going to figure out things, and they sat back and laughed, enjoyed the money, etc.
Also, we should hear how tall he is. I in no way justify anything he did, but heightism against men is far more brutal than weightism against women, who can lose and change. We all know men NEED sex for mental health and stability. Heightism is almost as bad as racism, esp. because people can be heightist in public. He describes the view of him as a "mouse," "manlet," which implies he was small. Lucky for me, I managed to get laid, at 23, in a ONS, and I tried hard to improve. Something tells me this guy's therapist hasn't pushed him to change his personality/social flaws enough to get with anyone. UCSD is a big school: he should be able to get a ONS. I also lowered my standards, this kid doesn't look like he did at all. But still, heightism must be explored.
Also, we should hear how tall he is. I in no way justify anything he did, but heightism against men is far more brutal than weightism against women, who can lose and change. We all know men NEED sex for mental health and stability. Heightism is almost as bad as racism, esp. because people can be heightist in public. He describes the view of him as a "mouse," "manlet," which implies he was small. Lucky for me, I managed to get laid, at 23, in a ONS, and I tried hard to improve. Something tells me this guy's therapist hasn't pushed him to change his personality/social flaws enough to get with anyone. UCSD is a big school: he should be able to get a ONS. I also lowered my standards, this kid doesn't look like he did at all. But still, heightism must be explored.
human beings need sex for overall health--but they don't NEED sex with other people. if you have hands, you can provide yourself with an orgasm, which is all that's biologically required for sexual satisfaction. no one else HAS to be there. this is where your logic fails.
I really think there was a lot more going on, beside autism, rejection, and sex. I've lived in California several times and in either San Diego or Los Angeles I was always able to connect with a woman to date. Honestly, in California, being strange is seen as an art and craft. Basically, in LA, if you take a bath, wear a nice shirt, and have beer money ($5/beer) you can snag a babe anywhere from Marina Del Rey to Redondo Beach. In San Diego, just head for Pacific Beach. Most autistic dudes will do better than a drug burnt surf bum. There had to be significant additional factors.
Last edited by SoftwareEngineer on 25 May 2014, 12:29 am, edited 1 time in total.
I was thinking the same as well.
Absolutely.
Seriously?
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