Is being over 25 too old to still be living at home?

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ya life is cruel like that but definetly no doubt about it the sitgma looks worse in men than it does in women, men are expected to be on our own all the time

so you support killing millions of people?

I am unable to kill myself, though i suppose we could move to robbing people create gangs and mini socieities. or the gov could dispose of us thu genocide as some tea party people have suggested.

on another not my grandpa paid into the system his whole life including serving his nation and died before ever getting any of it, so i see it as I'm receiving his.

I would like to think it's more normal nowadays. I am 25 years old and I live with my parents. My plan is to move out once my college loans are paid off and I've secured a good, full-time job. I see nothing wrong with that. I think some people can move out too soon and struggle financially because they are underemployed and are in student loan debt. If anyone's parents offer to give them a place to live for a few more years to help them out, then they should take it.

Yes ending SSI would be so very wonderful ....sometimes I wonder why I even bother with life when I get exposed to the messege in society/the media/politics so often, that people in my position of being to mentally f****d up to work should just be cut off from government assistance due to being worthless burdens on society who just leech all the resources. Not only that but it would be very stupid to get rid of things like SSI... disabling mental problems combined with no access to mental health treatment or funds with which to live on would make for a very terrible situation.

If it wasn't for SSI and medicaid I'd have no way to really afford therapy and/or other treatments such as medications, thinking of seeing if the psychiatrist has any other suggestions for something to help the depression because its really sucking lately. Anyways I will also be paying rent to my mom to stay at her house and of there are plenty of other things one needs money for, not that a whole whopping 720 dollars a month gets you too far...though at the moment they are still processing updated information so I currently get lower than that for now.

As for the OP, no I don't think 25 is to old to be living at home with parents/family....even people who are able to work and have jobs or are going to college have difficulties being able to afford moving out. In some situations there might be females who would see that as a major turn off....but I am sure there are plenty who would be understanding of your situation and not judge you for it and would still be intrested.

I'm 32 and I'll be living with my mother till the first of us dies.

Apart from being unable to move out even if I wanted to (see: autism, disability and all that), it seems like I've got it made:

-My own room, bathroom, and such
-living where I actually want to live (rural in the sticks, so not many people around)
-my mother cooks for me, and she's really good at it (plus she's quiet and leaves me alone); plus she drives me everywhere (plus she's a nice person)
-I only have to do some basic chores to keep the place looking half-decent (inside and out)

I do have it made.

If it's the right girl, she won't have a problem at all with you living with your parents at 26. Like others said, it's very common in this day and age with the economy.

I moved out when I was 20, lived in another city for school/work for 3.5 years and am now back at my parents for a year to save money. I have girls interested in me even knowing my living situation. I'll be 25 in a month.

FWIW, I'm 31, at home, & single - however - I have had more than one guy (I'm gay) interested in dating me. They know my living situation at the moment and it's never deterred them. However, I'm not interested in dating any of those guys, so I remain single by choice. I'm more content being single and having a crush on my friend than dating someone I don't see myself being with.. but the option is always there, despite being 31 and living at my parents' place.

What? No it isn't. Everyone does this these days. Come back and speak for people in their 20s when you get there.

Its less about an stigma, but simply about the inability to know, if an person is able to live on its own or not. If a woman or a man already lives on their own, and you visit them, and see that everything is propper and ok, and that they pay their bills on time and are able to manage a budget on their own, ... you can be sure. that they are already able to live on their own and are not depending on others for basic stuff, so that they are mature and responsible person.

With someone still living at home, that person could be as well be able on his/her own: But how the hell shall you be able to tell that? Socks dont tell me, if they have been cleansed up and washed by Ma or by the one I am visiting. Fridges dont tell me, if its the Ma doing the coordination of the food budget on her own, or if the person I am interested in, is involved into it and can manage it as well.

It simply about self protection, because in the end, you can love a person very much, but still by logic, if that person is not able to do his share on responsibility on his/her own, the relationships makes no sense. So going on into an relationship, moving together, only to realize, that this person you love is not able yet to live in an relationship, hurts both affected very badly.

now I wonder if most girls want or expect a guy to be college educated, have a degree in order to be attracted to him, to consider dating him?

I'm 22 and I'm still at home and I think I'm still a year or 2 away from moving out because it costs a lot. I need to save up for a new car and an apartment so I wouldn't be ashamed or anything. I would definitely go back to school though to better yourself and give yourself a shot to have a nice career so you can move out on your own.

As for having a relationship...I don't think it helps, although I have some friends that still live at home and a couple that even got fired, failed a drug test, etc... and that didn't stop them from getting a girl.

In my own family, there's all sorts of different communions/combinations when one of the family members has trouble finding a place of their own. I currently live with my aunt and cousin, my mother, grandmother, and other cousin live with my other aunt. It's all just everyone helping each other out, and there's nothing wrong with that, as long as you can share the costs of living a bit. In fact, it's not even an obstacle for starting a romantic relationship with someone.

ya sometimes I feel I set myself back years with getting a girlfriend, yes I know people say its never too late or better late than never, you have plenty of time, its just I want to enjoy the rest of my youth, my prime years, and I don't want to reach a certain age, like well into my 30's and 40's and still wanting to date girls who are in their early 20's, I'm not fond of huge age gaps but unfortunately attraction is not a choice

I have a different angle - don't be a bum, while you're living at home. Do some chores and pitch in when you can. But, many people make the mistake of not saving money and investing early in life. If you stay at home a few years and save enough to pay cash for a car, that is really good. Then, you can get into a cycle of saving and buying with cash, which saves a lot of interest and loan processing fees over a lifetime. Plus, most young people are having trouble getting a downpayment for a home, plus enough to make it six months, if the economy goes in the tank. So, staying at home until you really need to move out can be part of a really smart economic plan.

If you are broke, but not in debt, you are a lot better off than many people who appear prosperous. I own both of my homes, cars, motorcycles, and everything else outright. I also spent most of my life doing things like watching off-air TV, instead of cable and washing my cloths by hand, instead of going to a laundromat. However, many of my friends who apparently had everything very early in life are finding themselves low on equity and high on debt. So, use your circumstances to set a pattern of thrifty living and save some cash. Do some math - you may actually be in better financial shape the those who seem to have everything.

I do have a car, drive at least, been a licensed driver since I was 18, and I do my share of household work around the house and outside the house, it is what it is but I will admit it is frustrating me being a guy, that we are pressured and valued so much on our future, long-term goals and career, job, occupation,finances, stability, income, but life ain't fair that way

Maybe, make up a written list of ways your situation is really smart. I know a girl who is a college grad, she has a house, car, furniture and all of the goodies. She is also continuously terrified because she has huge student loan debt, house mortgage, car payment, real-estate taxes, and lots of other expenses. And, she sees her parents in daunting debt. You can live in a nice house and have lots of stuff sitting around, but be absolutely miserable. From what I can tell, you are actually in great shape.