If you are single are you happy being that way?

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Hell no. I hate being single, but I always have been.

Well unless your asexual you do have a biological need to fulfill your sex drive, though various extreme outlets in culture have taught people to supress/deny it (religion being one of the big ones). Going a year or two might not be so bad for someone who'se been fulfilled their whole lives, but living your entire life in complete misery and plutony, and constantly being subliminally reminded your "not good enough" while your watching all your NT friends do it like it's nothing, and then you don't know if things will ever change for you or not, sometimes it makes me feel suicidal. However, I am reading through the mystery method and soon I'll finally have a chance to practice what I've been teaching myself. Hopefully it will work.

I'm single, but I try not to think about it. My guitar keeps me company .

Baby gators aside.... the only thing worse than being without a woman, is being with the wrong woman. Lord knows I want to share my life with some one, but not at the expense of what might be left of my sanity.
damocles

Me, I'm Single and I have no problem with it. It's not like I act as if it is the end of the world just because I am Single. But I would enjoy the acquaintance of a beautiful girl who would cheer me up when I down, or a person I can spend time with by going to the beach, movies, dinner, theme parks, etc and someone who can understand me as well.

I'm single and I'm not happy. Don't know if it's because I'm single. Probably just because I'm bored all the time.

Nope. I crave romance, haha.

Im single and I resent it.

Worst thing is im too 'weird/different' for NTS but not geeky/nerdy/aspie enough for the 'Misfits'.

So Im probably gonna be on my own forever.

Obviously I rather be alone than with someone I don't love
But I want someone to love but not just a random anybody.

I want to say something else with that but I don't like how you can't edit/delete posts after a certain amount of time and then it's stuck there and if somebody I know find this account and read it's posts , well...

I'll hold it in forever then.

That's the approach i've adopted. I'm perfectly happy being alone. Not going to seek out romantic companionship just to not be alone and I think i've learned and seen enough to be able to recognize the possibilities of love so really dont feel any need to try on every opportunity i see. So I'm happy being alone and would be if I am my whole life, or i might meet that perfect someone some day ;p. Only the gods know!

I can see both advantages and disadvantages to being single and being in a relationship.

No, I'm so miserable that I constantly - gleefully! - contemplate suicide. The agony of my loneliness is so profound that quite often, the pain is actually physical. It's excruciating for me to see the generic, homely, intellectually-inferior masses getting on with things and "happy," when I can barely force myself to get out of bed every day. I'd give anything for just a *hug* from a guy I fancied, at this point.

I don't particularly have a need for a serious "romantic" relationship (*cackles*); if it were possible (in a "perfect world"), I'd probably be polyamorous. I've plenty of platonic male pals, online and off, with whom to share deep philosophical conversation and the like, so I wouldn't necessarily require that from a partner. What I REALLY miss is the sex; it's been years. I fear that I'll be driven mad, soon.

i have an apparent girlfriend, and she says that we are boyfriend and girlfriend.
she clings to me like an oyster and does not care much about my lack of romantic input. she is just glad i let her come over once per week for 18 hours.
when she comes here she feels liberated and happy that she is not in the restraint of her parents morality (she lives with her parents). she likes to swear and get undressed and she often says impromptu speeches to her mother as though she was here. like "well mum! what would you f*cking think of me if you saw me doing this?"

i am not really interested in her exhuberance for release from parental constraints, and i wait for her to calm down and then we talk.

all she is interested in is getting married and having a grand wedding etc.

i want to have fun with her but she has her own agenda which is alien to my desires.

she likes things i do not like and her taste in music is atrocious and we listen to her music and i try to play to it but i start feeling cramped and i think "i will be glad when she goes home tomorrow".

i have no desire for permanent company so after tammy loses interest in me (which she must eventually), then i will not pursue any other invitations to closeness.

humans are very complex pets to keep.

b9, it sounds like you need to find a girl with whom you're compatible on multiple levels. Your "girlfriend" sounds NT. Is this the case? If so, why are you continuing the ruse? Either one or both of you may end up hurt when things go south. Have you been honest with her?

i do not think i need to find anyone. i do not really need anyone.

she is very NT like, but she has a mental handicap. she says she is MFA (medium functioning autistic) but i am not too sure she is correct.

she likes to live in her parents house as it is always busy with social traffic, and "friends" always drop in for lunch etc..

her mother is always on at her to get up and to have a shower etc.

at my place, i give no directions like that, and tammy may feel liberated at first, but eventually she feels insecure and aimless because i pay no attention to what she does.

she is not very smart and loses interest rapidly in most of what i say.

when i first met her, i was walking back to my car past a bus stop where she was being made fun of by youths. she was fat and stupid in their minds.

i said i will give her a lift to the next bus stop if she wanted. she said yes and she felt very comfortable with me and i gave her my number and she fell in love with me.

she has not flinched in that trust she has for my desire for her welfare ever since i first met her.

she sees no one else but me in her future as her husband and the father of our children, but i just can not be involved with anyone for 24 hours in every day.

especially someone who does not understand or care what excites and interests me.

but she is so innocent of harmful intentions, and she has locked on to me, and i can not say to her that her dream is over.
i love her. she is pure.

anyway this is a bit soppy and i am wanting to return to something else so bye..

Mmmm...unless I'm misinterpreting, it sounds like you're taking advantage of her relative helplessness and neediness...