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18 Aug 2014, 9:24 pm

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after you break her heart....in order to win her back ;)


which brings us back to fear number 1 I have: They wouldn't believe me when I said it.


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18 Aug 2014, 9:48 pm

there are right and wrong ways to say it.



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18 Aug 2014, 9:52 pm

I had that fear a few years ago, Until a friend of mine took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
Rule 1. DO NOT CARE WHAT A FEMALE THINKS... females dig confidence, females thrive under rejection
if you show a female you dont give a crap they will chase you to the 4 corners of the earth
Rule 2. DO NOT SAY I LOVE YOU UNTIL THEY HAVE SAID IT... they will think you are clingy, and to them that is a turnoff
you might be a really nice guy deep down like me so this will be hard...BUT DONT SAY IT
Rule 3. DO NOT TRUST A FEMALE UNTIL YOU ARE CERTAIN THEY ARE TRUSTWORTHY.. ive dated girls who promise the world, and swear they are innocent. Only to turn out to be dirty skanks flashing their gash for cash.
Rule 4. If they 'put out' straight away THEY ARE NO GOOD... you do the math.
i could continue ranting on until the emus come home to roost, but that will only bore you!
just take this advice and try and put it into practice... it has helped me beyond comprehension..
oh and one last peice of advice... dont chase after the glamorous girl.. they are usually the 'damaged good'
chase the girl who you can talk to and whom understands you... ive stuffed up many times disreguarding the good ones for the 'sexy' ones and it has landed me in hearache



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18 Aug 2014, 10:16 pm

You may not be familiar with the people that post here yet, but you will be. And you may not have understood my sarcasm in my response to you (perhaps I should have been more clear and that would be my responsibilty).

It also seems like you are making assumptions that my relationship is fresh. It has been almost a year and a good woman you might want to keep.... They all want reassurance of where things are going. I know exactly what we are going to be talking about when we see each other next. I can tell you that I'm sure doing something right, otherwise she would be long gone.

Now my question to you is: do you consider yourself a player?


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18 Aug 2014, 10:30 pm

Unless you think she wants you to put a ring on it, then never.

As much as it goes against everything in my being, I need to stop having feelings. I wish that one day I can tell a girl I love her without having to add "I'm sorry"

You know? I just wish that I could be either an emotionless autistic robot, or a human being, but not a mutant hybrid of the two.


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18 Aug 2014, 10:42 pm

aspiemike wrote:
You may not be familiar with the people that post here yet, but you will be. And you may not have understood my sarcasm in my response to you (perhaps I should have been more clear and that would be my responsibilty).

It also seems like you are making assumptions that my relationship is fresh. It has been almost a year and a good woman you might want to keep.... They all want reassurance of where things are going. I know exactly what we are going to be talking about when we see each other next. I can tell you that I'm sure doing something right, otherwise she would be long gone.

Now my question to you is: do you consider yourself a player?


Firstly, You are asking when to tell somebody that you love them... That kinda paints the picture your relationship is fresh. My apoligies.
Secondly, that definately didnt register as sarcasm to me.

Now in response to your question... Once upon a time yes.
Why do you ask?


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18 Aug 2014, 11:17 pm

It was definitely the right time to say it in reply to hearing those three words from my almost 7yo God daughter on the phone a couple times in the last couple days.. she usually ends our conversations with "I love you," & I respond with "I love you, too. :)" Can't go wrong with those words with some ppl in your life, i.e. babies/kids.* If only it were anywhere near as simple when it comes to the romantic type of saying "I love you."

*Disclaimer just in case someone here needs it: I mean little kids that are in your life that you have a close loving relationship with, not random other peoples' kids that you don't even know.. telling random kids you love them could get you into some pretty deep trouble.


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19 Aug 2014, 2:26 am

italstallianion wrote:
Unless you think she wants you to put a ring on it, then never.

As much as it goes against everything in my being, I need to stop having feelings. I wish that one day I can tell a girl I love her without having to add "I'm sorry"

You know? I just wish that I could be either an emotionless autistic robot, or a human being, but not a mutant hybrid of the two.


feel that. still hoping for Equilibrium drug from the movie. i mean some bad stuff happen in the movie, but that doesn't relate to the drug. I would probably be willing to take it. no happy no sad, no love, no compassion. just existence.



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19 Aug 2014, 6:35 am

fabzilla wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
You may not be familiar with the people that post here yet, but you will be. And you may not have understood my sarcasm in my response to you (perhaps I should have been more clear and that would be my responsibilty).

It also seems like you are making assumptions that my relationship is fresh. It has been almost a year and a good woman you might want to keep.... They all want reassurance of where things are going. I know exactly what we are going to be talking about when we see each other next. I can tell you that I'm sure doing something right, otherwise she would be long gone.

Now my question to you is: do you consider yourself a player?


Firstly, You are asking when to tell somebody that you love them... That kinda paints the picture your relationship is fresh. My apoligies.
Secondly, that definately didnt register as sarcasm to me.

Now in response to your question... Once upon a time yes.
Why do you ask?


Rule number 1. After that you mentioned something about women chasing you. That may be fine in a courtship sense. But I find in a LTR, if you can't reassure her and she is always chasing you, she will leave. If you have been on the other side and I initiated lots of conversations with women in the past like I did and they never do it back, you'll start to understand why someone would walk away. At least I did.


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19 Aug 2014, 7:50 am

aspiemike wrote:
fabzilla wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
You may not be familiar with the people that post here yet, but you will be. And you may not have understood my sarcasm in my response to you (perhaps I should have been more clear and that would be my responsibilty).

It also seems like you are making assumptions that my relationship is fresh. It has been almost a year and a good woman you might want to keep.... They all want reassurance of where things are going. I know exactly what we are going to be talking about when we see each other next. I can tell you that I'm sure doing something right, otherwise she would be long gone.

Now my question to you is: do you consider yourself a player?


Firstly, You are asking when to tell somebody that you love them... That kinda paints the picture your relationship is fresh. My apoligies.
Secondly, that definately didnt register as sarcasm to me.

Now in response to your question... Once upon a time yes.
Why do you ask?


Rule number 1. After that you mentioned something about women chasing you. That may be fine in a courtship sense. But I find in a LTR, if you can't reassure her and she is always chasing you, she will leave. If you have been on the other side and I initiated lots of conversations with women in the past like I did and they never do it back, you'll start to understand why someone would walk away. At least I did.


Im not in your shoes so I dont and wont fully understand your predicament. The way I see it is there are 2 reasons for a woman not engaging in conversation.
1 they are either snobs.
2 women get hit on all the time by sleazebags and wierdos, so their initial response is to ignore or act distant.
Im not a woman so I cant exactly speak on behalf of them, But in my experience Ive tried to engage in conversation but failed.. only to have them eventually open up later on. But thats me eh?


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19 Aug 2014, 2:09 pm

I think if someone is 'on the same page' as you or 'like minded' you cant really get it wrong, I think if they are not happy or do not reciprocate your feelings when you make a love declaration it is a sign that they are too different from you and things would not have worked out anyway.



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19 Aug 2014, 3:28 pm

When you're absolutely certain they'll say it back - but how can I be absolutely certain about that? :?