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09 Nov 2007, 1:27 pm

ive tended to like older guys. am hopelessly lost over one that's 14 yrs older than me atm... have loved up to 20 yr+... most have been about my age though.


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09 Nov 2007, 2:05 pm

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when my ex girlfriend and me came together, i was 21 and she was 14. hows that?


Answer : Pedophilia/Ephebophilia tendency



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10 Nov 2007, 10:08 am

LePetitPrince wrote:
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when my ex girlfriend and me came together, i was 21 and she was 14. hows that?


Answer : Pedophilia/Ephebophilia tendency


not really...
girlish sexiness is just one kind of sexiness. ephebophilia, on the other hand, implies a primary sexual attraction to girls in the process of puberty.

and she wasnt the girlish type of cute/sexy.



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10 Nov 2007, 10:49 am

It's not a preference or anything, it's just that all the women around me are hovering around 30, so what else am I to do?


I'm 24 minus 31 days BTW.


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10 Nov 2007, 12:10 pm

gekitsu wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
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when my ex girlfriend and me came together, i was 21 and she was 14. hows that?


Answer : Pedophilia/Ephebophilia tendency


not really...
girlish sexiness is just one kind of sexiness. ephebophilia, on the other hand, implies a primary sexual attraction to girls in the process of puberty.

and she wasnt the girlish type of cute/sexy.


yea ....right

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10 Nov 2007, 12:56 pm

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This reminds me of something I read in a religious book. A 17th-century rabbi once said: "If a child is not allowed to play during childhood, he will play when he grows up." Do those younger women possibly represent something that was missing in your childhood or another part in your early life? (On a side note, there's nothing wrong with that, as long as she's at least 18 ). I think that's the case for me. But maybe that's just a phase that'll pass in a few months. As long as no one's feelings get hurt as a result, someone 24 dating someone who's 18 is perfectly acceptable.


Hmm, that's interesting. I can't say I wasn't allowed to play growing up. I was basically allowed to do whatever... within reason.

Actually I was never forced or told, this is what grown ups do... do this now, stop acting like a child. I've always been slightly more mature, I've never been a crazy party animal... but I've maintained a childish creativity and my goals and desires are fairly childish.


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10 Nov 2007, 1:10 pm

My boyfriend is 9 years older than me. I wasn't planning it that way - it just happened that the guy I feel in love with was also older than me.



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11 Nov 2007, 10:35 am

Aspie1 wrote:
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However, the youthful silliness of younger women is attractive too. I am a very silly, easy going guy... and joke around often... it seems like this side of me is perpetually of a more childish younger mindset.

This reminds me of something I read in a religious book. A 17th-century rabbi once said: "If a child is not allowed to play during childhood, he will play when he grows up." Do those younger women possibly represent something that was missing in your childhood or another part in your early life? (On a side note, there's nothing wrong with that, as long as she's at least 18 ). I think that's the case for me. But maybe that's just a phase that'll pass in a few months. As long as no one's feelings get hurt as a result, someone 24 dating someone who's 18 is perfectly acceptable.


Hmm... iirc the pedo laws were put into place because it was just too easy for a 21 year old to take advantage of a 14 year old... that is, assuming both are NT. A 14 year old NT could probably walk all over a 21 year old aspie if said NT was a mean person and the aspie didn't have enough social training to see manipulation...



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11 Nov 2007, 1:57 pm

When I was 23, I went on a date with someone 8 years older then me. When I was on plentyoffish.com (I'm no longer on there), I was almost asked out by a 37-year-old earlier this year. I wasn't interested in her because she was into BDSM.

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