Dating outside of your social class

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I don't really know what 'social class is'. I don't come from a wealthy family, my parents were both teachers. I would say I come from a middle class highly educated family. However, family on my dads is well as my my moms side is probably upper-middle class. They live in other counrties. All of them live in villas and good neighbourhoods. They are pronounced doctors, lawyers, real estate managers, hotel managers, etc.
So far I've dated two guys both of which come from upper middle class, highly educated families.
I wouldn't mind to date someone that is not from a middle class or upper middle class family, but I strongly prefer that person to be ambitious and highly educated, like me.

If you want to try and make a scientific approach to it, one way is to look at what factors seem to influence longevity or divorce in marriage. Marriage isn't the only form of relationship of course, but does have the most statistical study.

Anyway, in reviewing the top 15 reasons that increase the chance of divorce I saw none that involved differences in social class.

Can you elaborate on those reasons?

You haven't been around the truly wealthy US families I see. Believe me, it's there in all its glory.

There is also a cultural barrier between the socio-economic classes... I think the best way I can put it is that those of us who are not rich think in practical terms whereas those raised in great wealth think abstractly.

There's a scene in an old Woody Allen movie 'Manhattan' where Woody is with his GF visiting a museum of art and one of Woody's friends comes in with his date. That date is a girl from a really wealthy family. They start browsing the museum together and Woody & his GF & his friend see art in practical terms. Like, a big metal cube sculpture is seen by them as 'nice' and 'its a cube, I don't see the effort the artist put into this' or 'im not sure why this is art' . The wealthy girl looks at the cube and starts saying that it was marvelous how the artist 'used negative space' and 'its so textural' .... leaving the rest very confused.

That scene is a perfect comparison between mentalities. The wealthy girl was never raised in a background of 'need'. Aka no need to save money (buy the cheaper shoes instead of designer ones), no need to work for a living, no need to worry about their future prospects,etc. Woody's group simply could not process or assign any value or purpose at all at a metal cube. Not even artistic because to them it *IS* a metal cube and nothing more. To the wealthy girl, who does not think in practical terms, she does not see the physical cube but rather an abstract interpretation of it.

Different worlds, different mentalities despite both being American.

Artists themselves are certainly not limited, or even mainly from higher class. Their sponsors usually are.

Interesting. But does that mean most people who grew up in poverty cannot appreciate art?