Pretty sure I got stood up

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^What they said. Also, I don't subscribe to the idea of sin.

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Wait a minute, I'm going on the assumption that she had accepted a date and then backed out at the last minute. He didn't specify that in the original post, so now I want to ask if that was the case or if he had invited her over and was waiting on and answer and then she said no a few minutes before he was expecting her. Either way could be the case, so I'd like to ask Brian to clarify that please. Is this a case of her changing her mind or a case of her not answering until the last minute?

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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I find statistics meaningless in an individual dating context.

Individual men and women are not statistics.

Exactly fellas, people overreact when frustrated or very upset; it's called overreaction because it's not based on good reasoning.
Remember that this was not just a direct rejection, from his post it seems that she "accepted" first then she canceled it after him getting his hopes high for the date.

it's really funny how the general reaction on this forum depending on the OP's gender even if the one venting about the same thing is female, everyone is with her, no one question her, but if he's male then they start questioning him; this thread linked me to another thread started by a lady complaining about her date who stood her up:

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She called him a woman-hater and never forgiving him for standing her out DESPITE that he saw her again after that, accusing him of playing a power grip game for not contacting for a while possibly few days....but what's funny is how the users reacted differently:

- No one said that he really possibly could not have signal on his phone, or he got too busy later to text her daily, everyone seemed to be quick on going on the bandwagon of insulting him. Typical when the OP is female complaining about her guy.

- She was told that he SHOULD explain himself. No one demanded any of brain's or any guy's date on WP to explain herself.

- Everyone sympathized with the OP, no one ever said that maybe....just maybe she was unfair about him.

It was always this case on WP It can't be more obvious than that.

Bingo, Boo. You did it again.

The irony of the "praise women no matter what they do" thing? Well, it shows sexism. People are basically saying to them that they are weak and thus deserve to be coddled.

While at the same time, praising women and denouncing men for doing the same thing......also shows sexism towards men.

It really is very different how people interact with women compared to men. Men can't complain about anything. Even if they have a valid reason to. Say a man's ex was about to kill him, just out of the blue, do you know what would happen if the man posted about it on here? 99% of the members would say (just like others in real life), "what did you do? You musta done something to deserve it."

Now if it was a woman in that situation, everybody would be throwing well wishes and sympathy her way.

Biases against women are a crime against humanity. Biases against men are humorous.

That's just the way it is. Some things will never change.

^Using death is a pretty extreme example.

As for the link, I noticed I pretty much told her the same thing I told Brian in this thread. I knew the OP's content looked familiar when I started reading it.

I used an extreme example because, sadly, that's how it works. A man can do absolutely nothing wrong, then stare down the barrel of a shotgun at the hands of a woman a second later. But what will happen after that? The man will hear phrases like:

"Oh, what did you do? You musta done something to provoke her!"
"Right on, she was right to do that!"
"Damn, you must be the world's biggest tool!"

.....and so on and so forth. But nobody will point out the elephant in the room, that the woman pointed a weapon at him in the first place.

This doesn't just happen for situations like this. It could be as simple as a small disagreement. Woe betide the man who ends up being right in an argument against a woman. All the white knights and "go 'head girl" people will come out of the woodwork at that point.

It's really goddamn stupid.

If we want equality, we have to aim for several things:

1. Better equality in divorce courts so that women don't end up cleaning up damn near every single time (fault of politics, not women themselves.)
2. Better equality in how people act around different genders
3. Better equality in law period so that people, whether male or female, can't get away with a crime just because of their gender
4. Better implementation of places like rape clinics

I mean, I'm sorry I went on a diatribe about this, but I really hate inequality and double standards. I try not to practice them in my day-to-day life.

Being stood up sucks. Just today my long time boyfriend didn't show. Not for the first time. I gave him an hour and called. He had fallen asleep and sounded terrible - the flu. So you never know. At any rate, no sense giving up because of this. Just another experience.

Thanks all for the supportive comments. And for the ones not supportive, the ones who make assumptions and accusations, well you know where you can go.

I don't call her worthless. I call LIARS worthless. Because once a person has lied to me, I don't know what I know about them. They're entirely suspect. And I can't have a person like that in my life. And the girl who stood me up IS a liar. Because she's not responded to me since she suddenly broke off our evening at the last minute feigning sickness. Yeah, right.

I had a great evening planned. I had food, I was cooking her dinner, it was going to be wonderful and I was going to be a perfect gentleman. I so yearn to find that person I can love and take care of and just give my absolute best, really prove to her that I'm worthy.

And this woman just blew that off. She was disrespectful and discourteous. All I ask of someone is that they be honest with me. That they be open. That they call once in a while. I'm so sick of always being the one to call or text. They do nothing, I do everything. Well to hell with her. I'll find someone someday who'll appreciate and actually want what I have to give.

As slow as it may be moving, I'm delighted to report being unable to think of any legalese relating to my dating life. Joy of joys!

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos