Does anyone here feel ugly?

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When I was a kid, through high school, I didn't really care much, but I didn't think I was particularly good looking. Not UGLY, just plain, I guess. Now, I know I'm somewhat pretty, not beautiful, but I'm overweight (I have 3 kids, that'll do it.) When I'm depressed I feel very fay and ugly. When I'm not, I can see that I'm a little overweight, but not obese, and I still have nice features.

- so you have a face only a mother would love (only joking - if that's you in your avatar, you do look attractive, not that I'm any authority

"i would have dated you, but we have been friends for too long, i wouldnt want to ruin our friendship"

I still hate those words. Even seeing them in text, not spoken, I hate those words.

"never actually had anyone express an interest, i'd give up if it wasnt for the fact that i can't - my heart wont let me..... stubborn heart"

Don't give up. I found a girl who loves me when I was 26. Since then there were women (especially when I got into my 30's) who even I noticed made passes at me. I don't know if it was because I seemed more confident, or because another women found me attractive I was more attractive to others, or if in their 30's women just get more desparate

another 6 years of NT enforced Celebacy for me then...

It's the most ridiculous thing. I suspect that I give off better signals when I'm comfortable with someone. Maybe there's just not the desperate longing look. I don't know. Maybe it's that I don't mind flirting, if I know it's not going anywhere. Anyhow, I only seem to get chances when I'm already attached.

I feel ugly, but I've been told that isn't the case. People tell me that girls hit on me all the time, I wish I could tell when if that's actually the case. I don't know how to judge male attractiveness anyway.

Yes, but that is my own problem, not anyone heres.

You need to figure out what you need to do to feel good, and them implement it.

So why tell us?

Because I'm informing people that I don't want anyone to think they have to post any complements about me.

I think I'm fat, although I am probably just "a little pudgy".

Tim

is this that reverse psycology thing? well i'd compliment you, but ive never seen you, but im sure you are really attractive

I believe that all men are ugly. When I see a woman dating a man, or even actually doing sexual with him, I believe that they're being tricked and used somehow. I don't think that, though.

Intellectually I know that's not true, and that they do love and desire the men they're with.

would you feel that way if they wanted to date you?

I know I'm not ugly... but I often feel like I am.

The combination of having trouble discerning positive reinforcement (flirting, glances, etc) and always being rejected when I do make an attempt really plays with my mind. So, I end up seeing almost nothing but the bad side. I just have to trust what everyone else says, but that's not an easy task.

Not at all, I'm completley serious. I am very against pity complements.

tell you what, e-mail me your picture and ill give you an honest amswer, prefer that?

She's in the pictures. You can look without having to say anything.