sly279 wrote:
Its hard for me. I do disagree with people and it upsets me a lot some times, but I also have a strong urg to make people happy which means i don't' want to hurt people. I suppose i tend to then internalize and start to hate myself for other reasons they say, perhaps this is on reason why I take what people say to heart. idk. I wonder how buddist monks do it.
I understand Sly, it is sometimes very hard to not feel bad if someone disagrees in a mean way or says stupid things. The only thing that works for me is to try and think that I'm not responsible for other people's words and opinions, only for my own. And remember that if someone says someting stupid or mean then it doesn't make it true. Some people are often mean because they are so miserable with their own lives. Can you imagine a truly happy person spending time hating people all the time? Their words are a reflection of themselves, not anyone else.
28 May 2015, 1:09 am
