Why do girls stop talking to me on Tinder? Wtf?!

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Many people use Tinder not for the purpose of actually meeting up but just to see how many girls/guys like them back.

That's why these Hot or Not apps are popular because people are curious to see if they're attractive or not. Tinder is like a validation seeking app for many people.

And some girls/guys are obviously too shy to meet up with someone they just met.

Yeah...McDonald's is definitely not cool. I rarely ever step foot in them any more.

A place like Applebee's is pretty inexpensive. You could get the 2 for $20 special--and get waited on by waiters/waitresses who treat you well.

Girl 1. You should have spiced up the conversation by changing the topic to Shellder clamping onto a Slowpoke's tail, or something like that. She mentioned her vagina, so she expected you to start talking more "dirty" or "spicy". You also insulted her as she wrote that she liked Shellder because it reminded her of her vagina, and you said that Shellder is crap (= her vagina is crap as well). I know that you were joking, but she didn't get the joke.

Girl 2. Overkill. Too much details at once, you explained what is bluegrass screamo in the same message in which you mentioned it. It means you assumed that she didn't know what it is. Maybe she actually knew? You should have just said "Bluegrass screamo, what about you?" - she would have asked you what bluegrass screamo is in her next message. Let her be curious and don't explain too many things in advance before she asks about them.

Girl 3. It was not too fast (contrary to what other people here claimed), because she was the one who suggested to hangout first. The main problem is that you offered her a Happy Meal. It is mainly for children, and not everyone likes it. She likely thought that you insulted her by treating her like a child. Even if she wanted to go to McDonald's, she probably didn't want a Happy Meal, but something else. You should have just asked her "Sure, let's hangout, what do you want to do?". Or "How about going to McCafe?". Give her some options to choose from.

For the first one you asked what her favorite Pokemon was, and then when she told you...you ripped on that Pokemon and essentially told her she was wrong for liking it. Wouldn't you find it kind of off putting if someone asks you your favorite of something and then when you tell them what it is they proceed to dis on it?

For the second one I imagine she doesn't like 'bluegrass screamo' so wasn't interested in continuing the discussion.

And for the third one, 'let me take you out to Mcdonalds(the cheapest/grossest fast food) and get you a (children's) happy meal.' kind of speaks for itself. I mean why McDonalds? and why on earth did you think offering a happy meal would be a good idea?...she's not a little kid she was a woman expressing interest in you.

Also ghosting is when you've actually had some contact with a person, like lengthy discussions or met in person and they just abruptly disappear from contact....not if you exchange a couple messages and the conversation doesn't go anywhere and they opt to stop messaging you.

The thread was not serious - come on.

Anyway; for guys who have the same question:

Because all dating apps are sasuage fests like 9 to 1 or even 20 to 1 in some.

Guys; you have no value in dating apps; you're like spermas, so common hence your value is cheap there - while women there are rare.

That means women have too many options so most will often end up finding better options than you in a tick and therefore stopping to talk to you.

I rarely use a tablet, so I don't use Tinder. However, I can definitely relate to you. Many of us Aspies are just dying for a relationship when we get mature enough for one. I tried way too hard for a long time, and all it did was devastate me more and more. I recently looked back at my posts years ago on a dating site, when I was going through this more confused time in my life, and I could not believe some of the stupid things I said to women. Yet I was always so hurt when I was rejected. I feel that today, I might be able to, at least on a few levels, be able to communicate with women better, but I'm kind of afraid to attempt again, which has been my stance since I came out of my depression for a good while in 2012, since I'm afraid I might be hurt by the rejection that you are describing in your main paragraph, which is always something pretty much anyone will be faced with on dating sites, Tinder, or anywhere that you are trying to talk to women. And when someone has Asperger's, it is much harder to be able to say the right things to women, or initiate a conversation better.

Girl #1: She made a joke. You didn't laugh and followed it up with something long, cringe and undermining.
Girl #2: Should've just said Bluegrass. Lots of words = perception you're obsessive, intense to normal folk.
Girl #3: A happy meal?! That sounds like you were either being sarcastic and negging her maturity (which I kinda found funny) or a creepy come on. Happy meals aren't intended for adults, even if some of the toys are cool...just ask a girl if she likes burgers or pizza or something and then say you'll go to X or Y place.

This thread wasn't serious, and the guy who posted it has been long since banned.

Locked.