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I thought it means "blushed".. a bomb? I don't know what you mean by that..

I don't see how lovemaking is bad--except if it's "bad" in a good sense.

Kraftie, you're messing with my head! What exactly are you saying?

During the last generation, there were people who thought something very good was bad

Bad meant something like: It's the bomb or some such thing. Also like: cool, wicked, rad, etc. It stemmed from a sense of irony.

I don't think lovemaking is inherently bad in a bad sense. As long as you use protection if you don't want to have kids.

It could be said to be naughty in a delicious sense.

Oh, okay. Sometimes it seems like the kids at my school are speaking a different language because I often have no clue what they're talking about! Anyway, I'm asexual and don't like physical contact to begin with [as if finding a romantic partner wasn't hard enough...]

The 'bad' i mean is not really bad, so much as not moral. A cat ripping open a mouse, or a plague, or painful death from illness, just happen. Sex is part of that, and part of warm feeling of the sun on the skin, and delicious food. All those things exist outside of a moral framework, when people get together or sex becomes involved, it becomes in truth i think not properly able to be integrated into human morality framework. We tell ourselves lies in order to believe we are still the moral people we imagine (if we do).
How many times have you had sexual thoughts that are at odds with how you would like to seem to yourself or to others?

I have had no sexual thoughts whatsoever, but that doesn't mean that I've never been attracted to someone. I always try to stay true to myself. I know that sounds like a cat poster, but it's true [imagine me saying that like Morgan Freeman!]

Sex is only immoral (in and of itself) if it is deemed so by some moral authority. I don't find it immoral in and of itself.

If you don't use protection when you don't want kids, then it become immoral. If one partner does not desire it, then it's at least immoral, quite probably worse.

There are just so many little twists and turns in sexual relationships, power games, lies, jealousy, rejection, lies to oneself, compromises. I know all that exists in life and other relationships, but there is something at the heart of sexual desire. Objectification for the purpose of orgasm, what we project onto a person in order to desire them, which is so far removed from what that person is. I'm doing a pointless ramble again, apologies.

We all objectify each other when we desire each other. As long as the respective partners don't mind it, there's nothing wrong with it.

When a guy "objectifies" a woman in the sense of looking the woman up and down for purposes of demeaning her, then it's wrong.

I met my wife through a 12 step organization. I met my one previous long term relationship through a campus church organization when I was in graduate school. Those were two places I never thought I would met a girlfriend at. Shows what I know about how the dating world works.