Is a 4 year age difference too much?

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Pedophilia is the act of being sexually attracted (liking) someone significantly younger, or less experienced than oneself.

So, are you not a pedophile?

At your age, yes, 4 years is too much. In your 20s, it becomes more acceptable, in your 30s, that's nothing.

I don't think he's a pedophile. He's a young kid himself in lots of ways. If he were the maturity of an 18-year-old, say, he would definitely be a pedophile.

Or a hebephile. Or an ephebophile.

Either way, the whole idea and concept in general just sounds uncomfortable to me.

Befriending younger females for the sole purpose of hoping to try for a relationship once they are a few tears older doesn't seem right.

Besides, Monstercrack, what is your plan once they are older? You get older as well.

This is why a 4 year age difference won't work for you. When you're 18 she'll still be 14 and that means you are friends with a 14 year old female for the purpose of a possible relationship in the future. When you're 20, she's 16. And so on.

You'd have to wait until she's 18 (6 years) before it becomes even the least bit acceptable (you being 22).

This is a botched idea/plan from the very beginning. A lot of your posts frequently indicate that you frequently move on to other people and between people for possible friendships in extremely short amounts of time - some posts I've seen from you basically say one month you've made a new friend, the next they hate you or you've broken contact with them.

If you don't have the ability or patience to consistently wait and maintain a friendship for at least 2 years, how do you expect to do so with a younger female for 6 years until she's 18?

And I'm not tying to be overly critical, harsh, or judgementel, but actually encouraging you to reflect on just what your own ideas/plans are.

And this is coming from someone who relates. My current girlfriend is a year younger, my ex was 19, I have a 19 year old friend, and a 14 year old friend. I always struggled with making friends a similar age in the past.

Im not sure what to say about this really, if you just want to be friends with her and can control yourself I don't think its a big deal. I will say be very careful though, if you're just friends that means shes going to become interested in other guys and that might make you pretty jealous, or you might confuse what she wants from you. The older you get the less age difference matters, and a lot of it comes down to the people involved. Especially if you're not sexual together its not as big of a deal. Im 25 and my current girlfriend is 20, but the girl I dated before her was 18. I don't usually date women that much younger then me because of differences in maturity and what you want in life, but we both wanted to be with each other and didn't really even think about the age difference until something made it obvious. Neither of us were bothered by it though.

Under different circumstances this wouldn't be an issue. There's 10 years between myself and a girl I'm seeing but she's 20 and I'm 30.

It really depends where you both are in your lives in my opinion. 11th and 7th grade....this is a problem as she is a minor and you are befriending her on the off chance you will get to date her and such. I'd reconsider your thoughts if I were you.