Amount of effort required for men to be appealing

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I wouldn't look for the youngest woman possible. In fact, when I was young, I tended to look for older women.

It seems to me that there's a contest between who has it harder, men or women. But in either case, I would say that minimum hygiene standards, like the checklist given earlier, is a very helpful thing to both autistics and non-autistics, Aspies and non-Aspies, alike. Having said that, I've read comments on other threads in Wrong Planet that talk about the challenges of keeping up with hygiene, whether it's due to hygiene or other factors. Your thoughts, everyone, as this is a subject I'm interested in.

She's older.

I've gotten turned on by women whom many wouldn't find attractive.

Diana Keaton looks sexier now than she did in the 70s

Some people think I'm younger than I am, but others think I'm older than I am.

I'd say someone who is making the effort to do the exercise RIGHT are the ones putting in far more effort than those who don't, both physically and mentally.

Proper form takes focus, concentration, and, because it correctly activates the muscle during movement, is more physically exerting than doing the exercise poorly.

And I agree with Noturnus.

I don't actually understand why some women feel the need to cake their faces in makeup and spend so much time and effort on their appearance.

There are a few males who like their women that way but I'd say a fair amount of males are perfectly fine with just a natural, ordinary woman. Let's see what the other aspie males here have to say.

It's far more appealing if she gets all fancied up on rare occasions than ALL. THE. TIME. It is against the scarcity effect, making it lose all value.

I see the typical 'hot, popular' females who put so much effort into their appearance as...boring and sterile - they're EVERYWHERE, it's not like your anything special. You'd only 'wow' me if you could look good naturally even with the 'unkempt' look.

When I did a Karate tournament and grappled with the boys, despite all of my efforts they still pinned me. Then again, almost everyone there thought I was a boy...

Oh well. I won Gold, but only because I was the only girl there.

I can see where you are coming from, we all feel under pressure no matter what gender we are to look good but girls hit the gym too, we don't just diet, we have to tone up too which takes lots of work and our routines are pretty much endless, hours out of our day or an entire day. I would say we have a lot more to take care of than men, being worried about body image is a two way street, but being a girl, I can honestly say I often have a tough time keeping up with appearance because we have more available to us that we feel the need for, eyelash extensions, make-up, having to shave our legs, hair extensions etc, If anyone says otherwise, I will post my morning routine which will extend beyond any examples of routines or checklists that have already been posted. Also shout out to a girl at my college who spends 3 hours on her make-up each morning!

To be honest if a guy is genuine, he needs to be with a girl who is the right person to improve for, this is somebody who will love him and appreciate him for who he is, who isn't primarily focused on how much he flexes at the gym, how much money he has in his pocket or materialistic aspects of the relationship. Good hygiene is very important, I love a well trimmed beard, a guy who smells good and who presents well but some men feel like they have to appear outstanding to be liked and accepted but really the women who will take care of you will be more drawn to your character.

To be fair I'm just one of those girls, sure I have standards but I really don't care how much my guy flexes at the gym or the amount of money in his wallet, all I need is somebody sweet, kind, supportive, attentive, who works a reasonably decent job and who is willing to stick by me and not play any games.

Not all of us are relatively slim, I'm a dress size 12-14 in the UK because size can be different for those living somewhere else in the world. I'd say I'm slim, curvy but pudgy in places and feel the need at times to put myself on really strict diets and tone up. Other women can get a lot of criticism for their weight too.

Women have all kinds of stress but it's very personal things for them to talk about often too.