Hate the stress of love and dating

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25 Feb 2016, 6:29 am

You need to tell him that you love him in texting like this guy:

Translation:
-Him:Yasmin
-Her:Yes?
-Him:I love you a lot! and my love for you grows everyday!
(Failed to deliver)
-Him: Do you know the Koala sleeps 23 hours and wakes up one hour a day just to eat?

Aspie fail :heart:

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25 Feb 2016, 6:34 am

Hey everybody please stop stressing about hate. PLEASE. <3 Hate is just pain, nothing more. You'll all see some tats about that on my hands soon.

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25 Feb 2016, 6:37 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

...and remember yellowtamarin, not everyone like FWBs, so yeah, they would take dating more seriously than you do.

Maybe hurtloam wants a forever relationship, like some of her friends.

Maybe she is a part of a community that would look lowly at her if she goes into FWBs relationships, Australia is not like everywhere.

those things are to be considered.

Haha Boo you keep confusing me with someone else. I want a life-long partner (forever relationship), not a FWB. I just sometimes don't mind if other types of relationships come along in the meantime.

I actually thought the OP was from Australia but I don't know where I got that idea from.

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25 Feb 2016, 6:42 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Nawww, he would have won me over with that (the koala fact not the declaration of love).

Koalas also wake up to make horrible grunting sounds and occasionally screams that sound like a dying human.

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25 Feb 2016, 6:46 am

They evolved to sleep a lot to digest their solely poisonous food without dying and to reserve whatever little energy these leaves give them.

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25 Feb 2016, 6:52 am

I shall do as the Koalas do because eating, shooting & leaving is just I.T. drudgework.

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26 Feb 2016, 9:44 pm

hurtloam wrote:

It's so stressful! Trying to work out if someone actually likes you or not. Sometimes they do things and you think, "oh it's obvious", but then theres the second guessing, "maybe it's nothing. Maybe I'm seeing more there than there really is simply out of wishful thinking."

From an acorn of interest I will grow whole forests of affection.

Then there's that wondering how much you should give away? Do you let them obviously know you like them? Or do you hold back a little and gauge the situation?

It's worse if you see them on a regular basis. If you just tell them and they aren't sure yet. That's a jolt. Like trying to force open a flower bud. If you tell them and they are not at all interested then you've still got that cringe worthy meeting them all the time. That tension, things have changed.

Or there's the, they were only having fun and enjoying your attention. They were never wanting anything serious and you've fallen for them like a naive simpleton. Silly innocent naive girl. Why would he want you?

All of this just feels like ongoing and complete humiliation and I hate it. Happens every time for me.

I wish it was more simple.

I very much understand that! It's the same for me! They do things and I think it's obvious, and then...nothing so I don't understand and I feel stupid. And when other people react with a shocked face like this

because it's so obvious for them, it makes me feel like I'm an insane person imagining stuff out of absolutely nothing, dreaming things that don't exist when it's so ovbiously no for them, or like a stupid simpleton who doesn't see a nose in the middle of the face when it's so obviously yes for them.....

And yeah, I agree it feels like a complete humiliation.

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27 Feb 2016, 4:11 am

I've discovered that it's not so humiliating if the guy is decent and treats me like everything is fine. Normally that doesn't happen. Either they are oblivious and all my friends know and that hurts - everyone is all like, awh poor lass getting her hopes up again and he doesn't like her. Or the guy totally ignores me because he knows I like him and the best way to get rid of me is to ghost me.

It's rare that the chap engages with me and makes me feel less bad about being awkward.

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27 Feb 2016, 7:28 am

^ Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't like you back.

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27 Feb 2016, 7:34 am

This may sound harsh but I am pragmatic like that even with myself:
...and if that always happenes then maybe you're aiming high.
You referred to this guy as "alpha" and desired by a lot of girls, is he the one who's ghosting you?

Fact: Alpha guys only accept alpha girls as partners, they may fool around with others but not seriously.

Aim lower.

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27 Feb 2016, 7:57 am

Online dating would feel like cheating to me. What is hard in real life is probably meant to be hard.

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27 Feb 2016, 8:31 am

However, my theory "girls who whine on WP always get bf after a short while"... may happen again, soon.

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01 Mar 2016, 2:38 am

"a short while??"

I've been on this website moaning about my life since 2011.

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01 Mar 2016, 2:50 am

hurtloam wrote:

"a short while??"

I've been on this website moaning about my life since 2011.

Nope, you've never sounded really whiner that much, not as much as those other girls.... not even close.

You need more wine...

..or whiskey.

I mean...whine more.

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02 Mar 2016, 12:09 am

I agree actually. Maybe I just didn't notice it, but I was surprised to hear you with such a defeatist attitude lately, because I didn't think you normally came across that way. That's just an observation, though. I'm not going to make any claims about what that means for your dating prospects in the near future

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02 Mar 2016, 1:58 am

^ We agree on something! So from now I wouldn't mind to be your FWB, yellowtamarin - for the lolz only, you know.

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