Male fashion and style of dress feedback?

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Boo's sister here :*

Thanks for pointing that out, Boo.

It was funny the first time.

Being funny wasn't the point.

I can't imagine what possible reason you could have to make an utterly pointless comment like that in this thread if it wasn't for a laugh. So if you're not going to explain what this "point" was then I'm just going to roll with it being a bad joke.

What if all this was REAL and not a joke...? Hmm?

I know, otherwise you'd be dead.

Btw, do you really have a sister?

^ Yes, and it was her who typed this! (Chuck Norris never beats women, doesn't he?)

How old is she?

Would she do stuff like trying to change the radio station while he's driving?

Tried to post the one pick of you with the jacket and dress pants but that site has viruses...Anyway, that style looks good on you, but those sunglasses are junk. Go buy a nice pair of aviators, or navigators. They're nice, stylish and masculine.

You know how Sam and Dean Winchester in Supernatural dresses? Dress like them, seriously. Plus add some aviator shades. That'll attract more mature women though and not the YOLO types. Personally, I despise those types.

Also, athletic wear is good, but you need the build for it. Plaid button ups are great and you can't go wrong with an army surplus jacket.

If you want to look less "bro", then wear less "bro" clothes. You can still put care into your clothes (making sure they're clean, wrinkle-free, etc.) without looking "bro" if they're not "bro" clothes. For example, what's wrong with a casual t-shirt and normal jeans? Like this: http://s3.amazonaws.com/rapgenius/44719 ... -jeans.jpg Just simple, casual, not "bro" at all. If you want to look non-"bro", wear non-"bro" clothes. Or go for a different style. Not sure if they have it in Australia, but something like Hot Topic or its equivalent. If you went in there, bought a shirt and jeans, and wore them for the next week (wash every night ), I guarantee you that you'd find people perceived you differently. Even if you put the same care into those clothes, it's a very different style so gives off a very different feel.

As to the girls you're attracting, it may not be that the "normal" girls think you're too attractive or that you're out of their league, but rather that you're in a league they don't desire. Personally, I've always found anyone who gave off the "bro" feel to be very unattractive because in my experience (the "judging the book by the cover" thing again) they were usually arrogant jerks that wanted to sit around and stare at their model girlfriend while she sat there and ooo'd and aww'd over their biceps and six-pack. Again, just my experience, but in said experience, they were shallow, uninteresting, and basically everything you describe the girls from that circle as being. So, these guys held no attraction for me, and no interest either. Not that I don't like biceps, but I don't like "bro"-displayed biceps.

So maybe the reason you attracted superficial girls is cause you make yourself look superficial, and maybe if you made it look like you cared about more than your looks, then you'd be attractive to girls who also cared about more than their looks.

Personally, if my self-care routine consists of a shower and 5 minutes in front of the mirror to comb my hair and do minimal makeup, then I'm probably going to (even if it's judgmental - I fully admit that) think that a guy who spends 3 hours getting ready in the morning is shallow. I have better things to do with my time, so if he doesn't, then I'm probably not interested. Again, this is judgmental, and if you're Aspie, I'm sure you're deeper than that. Maybe you spend 3 hours getting ready in the morning (and maybe not ), but maybe it's for different reasons than the average guy who does. But if you're making yourself look just like all these shallow guys, then girls are going to make the same 2-second judgments about you that you make about them. If they end up in a situation where they're in a conversation with you, they may find out differently, but it's hard to end up in that situation if the initial instinct is to walk away.

6 years older than me.

But even my 'casual' style looks bro-ish, in fact it's my most 'bro-ish' look of all!

Did you see 'regular style 2'? Here it is again: http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc

In Australia, this is the fashion for males, especially bro ones. Laidback board-shorts/shorts, a regular t-shirt or v-neck shirt, sneakers.

Another user agreed I look 'bro-ish' and did say it's probably my facial hair and head hair more than anything else.

I don't think replacing the shorts with jeans will make much of a difference.

You tell me: http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc

And, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to say it in an arrogant way. I retract my original statements and what I meant to say is leagues isn't about being 'above' or 'below' anyone else, it's just difference.

And in my experiences this is all too true. Nerdier females here in Australia at least, seem to desire a more effeminate male, one who is very silly and playful, and just as Feminist as they are. Nerdy females are extremely feminist here, at least all the one's I've met. The relationship dynamics I've observed among almost all of them is both of them being very untraditional, the male having many feminine traits and the female many traditionally masculine traits.

Me? I can be silly and playful, but not in the same way they are, and I'm more traditionally masculine but like dating headstrong, independent women.

And, yes, most bros are douches, in my experiences. I still like to be friends with them, they're decently fun, but they're rude, inconsiderate, etc. and too often I find myself being the most calm, relaxed, level-headed one of every 'bro' group I've ever hung around. I usually subtly try to stop them when they're doing something rude without directly trying to cause conflict.

Well, that's what I do want to ask: Do I come across as one of the 'jerkier' males, or do I appear more neutral than that?

Forget about the crappy shades. Let's say I've removed them, ironed all the clothes, and walk confidently/normal (no head down, no arms crossed or anything, but a light smile, head slightly up, chest a little out, arms a bit open and free) wearing exactly the type of outfits I've shown now.

How do I genuinely come across? What can people predict in that two second time-frame, before I make any sort of actions or say any words?

And, how do you make it look like you care about more than your looks? I genuinely do, but still care about my looks strongly!

But, like said before, even when I don't care, even when I just throw whatever clothes my Mum bought for me a few yeas ago, I look like this: http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... t1yNSjZgfM

I like to think that's a neutral, normal look, but the actual attention I recieve doesn't make me think this as much anymore. When I dress like this, it is always the bros who instantly approach me.

^ It looks this way because it's not nearly as casual as you may think. A casual/"plain" guy (the type who gets the independent, intelligent girls) wouldn't wear a t-shirt with zig-zags with very dark jeans. You would need a truly plain t-shirt (no v-necks, no cuffed sleeves, not too fitted or too loose) and jeans that look more worn-in, that are a few shades lighter. Alternatively, a clever t-shirt that makes you think or references a cult-classic show or movie, works too.

For instance the way this guy dresses is what I (as an independent, smart, quirky girl) would like:
http://www.thinkgeek.com/images/products/zoom/irqq_bounty_hunter_exc_mb.jpg

Or this guy in the orange:
https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/enhanced/web04/2012/2/2/12/enhanced-buzz-10515-1328205332-57.jpg

Or this guy's sporty/practical clothes (plus a cat; when in doubt wear a cat!):
https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/enhanced/web03/2012/2/2/13/enhanced-buzz-384-1328205601-18.jpg?no-auto
I'd imagine it's accompanied by a plain t-shirt and practical pants.