People bore me

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People bore you because they can't comprehend your more complete understanding during your social interactions. Maybe you should seek out some forum populated with those that possess your understanding and/or those that have more in depth than your own. If 1% of the population have any chance of comprehending your logic you should expect 99% of your social interactions to fall short, unless you seek out a forum based on your own intelligence quotient filled with 1% of the population. In short, if you want satisfying intellectually stimulating social interactions you must actively seek them out. This logic is likely coming from a much less informed and generally inferior understanding than your own.

I myself find people and life in general rather boring but perhaps for different reasons. Whilst I do not want to be alone for the rest of my life, I tend to see people as obstacles that I aim to bypass. It's why Christmas day is usually a torturous occasion for me. I hate being in a room with many others.

I'm not sure I worded this correctly but I am sure you misunderstood my reply to the OP.

He said people bored him but he wanted to connect with people so I asked him the same thing I've asked myself:

"Why do I want to connect to people if I find them ultimately boring?"

that is what i assumed you said (so i did not, in fact misunderstand), but the way the pronouns were chosen and placed implied people should consult OP on that person's boringness before moving forward with a relationship.

which doesn't make much sense. there appears to have been a disagreement of pronouns. it happens!

i knew i should have read that as "why would anyone want to connect to people they find boring" OR more specifically "why would he/she/i want to connect to people he/she/i finds/find boring?"

to make clearer your intended message.


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sorry, i'm not usually this much of a pedantic wag, it just caught my attention.


welcome to WP.

Thanks!
Sooooo..... Care to actually answer the question: "Why do people who find people boring want to connect to people they find boring?"

I'm curious as I ask myself this question. I'm looking for answers other than "studies show humans need to connect" type replies. I also often wonder if one can be healthy and not connected with others or do we at the very least require feedback outside of ourselves? I suppose the topic of boredom is a special interest of mine.

A lot of people don't have anything to say but they say it anyway. And I participate because they're humans and so am I.

Last week I spent a half-hour with women debating the wisdom of getting a bagel-slicer. I said, "Only if he's tall and handsome." But that ended their conversation and everybody went silent and I should have just taken sides with the bagels.

I'll answer my own queries relating to why we want to connect to others despite the fact that they mostly bore us and posit that one of the reasons we want to be around people is for the possible LOLz.

Hilarious post btw Claradoon!

Lots of times I find myself watching sitcoms (both new and old) and rolling my eyes at the acting, subject matter, costumes, etc. but happy to sit through an episode just for the wonderful effects the few belly laughs I get from watching. Despite the bad acting, etc., a good joke is a good joke and the one thing most of us really can't do to/for ourselves is to make ourselves laugh.

Well maybe that's the answer then? It's a boring answer but it fits. It's not that a person wants to connect with boring people, rather that because a person struggles to connect with anyone they just decide that all people are boring.

Exactly what I was going to say.

Besides people are curious creatures that are fun to watch.

To find others boring also sometime's suggests you find them boring because they are not 'at your level' which is perhaps a more arrogant view of the matter

I can interpret your answer in two ways--both of which attempt to answer my question!

In other words, are you saying that "studies show humans need to connect" is one of the answers (or perhaps THE answer) even though it's, ironically, a boring one?

and/or

Are you suggesting that the actual struggle to connect is interpreted as "people are boring" in one's mind?
And, if this is true, is "the frustration of struggling to connect" in of itself an issue we've been dealing with since Day 1, anyway?

Also, thanks for your reply

I agree with you but will add that sometimes people seem boring because they're predictable plus, the older one gets, the more predictable (i.e. boring) people become.

He certainly does come off as arrogant, but it seems the type of conversation he is looking for is rare. Eleanor Roosevelt said it best "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." A lesson in humility can go a long way, so I will leave with this phrase. "I know that I know nothing."

I do think people can suprise you sometimes. You sit and watch and predict what they will done and sometimes they do something you don't expect. I would love to be able to see into the minds of others.

The word boring is perhaps not what the OP meant maybe he mean apathetic towards people

Ideas, events, and people can be intervoven in creative ways.

even boring people can have a wealth of stories, lessons and connections that you can benefit from, if only you get to know them.

they may just not present it in the most exiting way.

In other worse, because they're not boring?

Actually, boring people are, by definition, boring. Seems everyone here is arguing that people aren't boring. Some are. We all agree on that right? I'm not talking about the people who share and interact. I'm talking about the ones who are boring and don't seem interested in anything and who don't share much other than generalities. And that's most people. And again, I'll stress that as you age, people become more and more predictable and less interesting. So if you're in you're under 50 arguing that people aren't boring, I agree but please understand that things lose their shine as you age.

Best I can figure is that people hang out with boring people in the hopes that they'll actually say something of interest at some point because there are so few truly interesting, interactive, and honest people out there willing to kindly discuss topics that most "normal people" have zero interest in and vice versa. And people do. That's why I engage people who seem boring. Sometimes I don't get much back and sometimes they open up and surprise me with amazing insight, facts, a hilarious joke, or just personal stories. And sometimes they don't. Sometimes it takes time before someone opens up and gets interesting and the wait is worth it. Sometimes it's not. All good imo. Thanks for the feedback.