0_equals_true wrote:
muffinhead wrote:
I'm not talking to her again, it's that simple. I'm majorly p#!$$% off by this but won't give her any more attention, as she's obviously not interested in any sort of further interaction with me. I hate situations like these with all my heart but I need to practice moving on and staying positive, as well as learning. Thanks for the input, guys.
Don't beat yourself up or waste any energy getting angry.
She could have said no straight away. That might have been easier, but you got that far.
I think this is good advice (not to get angry and worked up over it).
To be honest, I really don't understand that reaction to rejection. I have been rejected lots (not just by guys in romantic situations, but by friends and relatives too) and it always makes me feel hurt and embarrassed but not angry. I don't understand anger as a reaction to being hurt in this way, it's just not something that happens to me. Not that I don't get angry (I have a temper), just not for someone not wanting to be around me. I get angry when someone is unfair or has intentionally done something to hurt me--not liking me isn't doing something to me intentionally to hurt my feelings. I have not liked people before, and I didn't not like them because I wanted to hurt them, I didn't like them because they weren't likeable to me. You can't really control who you like or don't like, it just kind of happens. It's not something to get mad at people over.
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05 Apr 2016, 4:09 pm
