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26 May 2005, 11:56 am

better. better get a bucket.

i have gone very pale and quiet...

actually, i think i will rephrase things, slightly...

when there is a general consensus about what a male psycho hose beast, could i have a gander, a serious think, and then could you have him washed and brought to my tent if he meets with my approval? please?

i thank you.

duncvis, you are an absolute cad for that one. i shall take as long as i need to plan my revenge...



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29 May 2005, 11:32 pm

:lol: I'll gladly take the next one, please.


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30 May 2005, 1:58 am

I wouldn't do it just because I know its one thing for someone to see my personality posted all over awell-written blog page another to see me IRL. Not that I'm specifically that bad, just that I have this magic blandspot in my personality *right* where it counts the most in actually landing and keeping a relationship. In my opinion there is no girl built like I am psychologically in my general area who isn't having more than enough luck with NT guys who unlike me don't have a muzzle strapped over the parts of their brains that women need the most (sometimes its as bad as being the guy at the end of Being John Malkovich, sometimes I'm completely numb, but regardless I can always feel the damage being done just by what my nervous system is failing to let me do).

That's the problem, I think even though I make less contacts IRL and have less potential, it also goes both ways: the kind of girl who could enjoy my company enough to really wanna be with me may also be completely neither here nor there on a dating profile I'd have on line. Just like a girl who'd love what she sees online could be completely at a loss when she sees me IRL. At least when its face to face you can sort all that out a lot more easily and you don't get false hopes going as often. As for that inside-outside disparity, never put that past an NT - you could explain it to em so well to em that they could cognitively understand it better than you do: at the end of the day though they still have their needs and regardless of how much they know its not intentional on your part, their needs aren't being met.


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30 May 2005, 3:08 am

timidme wrote:
:lol: I'll gladly take the next one, please.


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30 May 2005, 8:30 pm

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
I wouldn't do it just because I know its one thing for someone to see my personality posted all over awell-written blog page another to see me IRL. Not that I'm specifically that bad, just that I have this magic blandspot in my personality *right* where it counts the most in actually landing and keeping a relationship. In my opinion there is no girl built like I am psychologically in my general area who isn't having more than enough luck with NT guys who unlike me don't have a muzzle strapped over the parts of their brains that women need the most (sometimes its as bad as being the guy at the end of Being John Malkovich, sometimes I'm completely numb, but regardless I can always feel the damage being done just by what my nervous system is failing to let me do).

That's the problem, I think even though I make less contacts IRL and have less potential, it also goes both ways: the kind of girl who could enjoy my company enough to really wanna be with me may also be completely neither here nor there on a dating profile I'd have on line. Just like a girl who'd love what she sees online could be completely at a loss when she sees me IRL. At least when its face to face you can sort all that out a lot more easily and you don't get false hopes going as often. As for that inside-outside disparity, never put that past an NT - you could explain it to em so well to em that they could cognitively understand it better than you do: at the end of the day though they still have their needs and regardless of how much they know its not intentional on your part, their needs aren't being met.


Are we back to topic now?



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30 May 2005, 11:55 pm

NYAspie wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
I wouldn't do it just because I know its one thing for someone to see my personality posted all over awell-written blog page another to see me IRL. Not that I'm specifically that bad, just that I have this magic blandspot in my personality *right* where it counts the most in actually landing and keeping a relationship. In my opinion there is no girl built like I am psychologically in my general area who isn't having more than enough luck with NT guys who unlike me don't have a muzzle strapped over the parts of their brains that women need the most (sometimes its as bad as being the guy at the end of Being John Malkovich, sometimes I'm completely numb, but regardless I can always feel the damage being done just by what my nervous system is failing to let me do).

That's the problem, I think even though I make less contacts IRL and have less potential, it also goes both ways: the kind of girl who could enjoy my company enough to really wanna be with me may also be completely neither here nor there on a dating profile I'd have on line. Just like a girl who'd love what she sees online could be completely at a loss when she sees me IRL. At least when its face to face you can sort all that out a lot more easily and you don't get false hopes going as often. As for that inside-outside disparity, never put that past an NT - you could explain it to em so well to em that they could cognitively understand it better than you do: at the end of the day though they still have their needs and regardless of how much they know its not intentional on your part, their needs aren't being met.


Are we back to topic now?


Lol, I have a way of posting to threads like this just off the initial posts. Please, by all means, feel free to stay off topic :D


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