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Alliekit wrote:
Aristophanes wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
My main reason for online dating was because I was far to shy to ever be able to talk to anyone new in real life. They would never be able to see my personality
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
Well, if your avatar is your normal style, then I would say RED: there's a lot of red in your photo, which is a very aggressive color. That may be playing into that "vibe" that you give people.
Because of the red hair? Usually I where blues and greens
I'm more of the timid please don't talk to me because I'm frightened and that's just not attractive. My mum sais that when ever people try to talk to me I look all wide eyed and like I'm going to run away.
Although I can be very passionate when it comes to justice and being fair
To me, you look "aggressive" as in, "We both know I'm far too good for you, so save your energy, stay away and let's not make things any more awkward than they need to be". Unfortunately, that's not saying much---it's the way most women look to me
22 Apr 2016, 1:06 am
Spiderpig wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Aristophanes wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
My main reason for online dating was because I was far to shy to ever be able to talk to anyone new in real life. They would never be able to see my personality
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
Well, if your avatar is your normal style, then I would say RED: there's a lot of red in your photo, which is a very aggressive color. That may be playing into that "vibe" that you give people.
Because of the red hair? Usually I where blues and greens
I'm more of the timid please don't talk to me because I'm frightened and that's just not attractive. My mum sais that when ever people try to talk to me I look all wide eyed and like I'm going to run away.
Although I can be very passionate when it comes to justice and being fair
To me, you look "aggressive" as in, "We both know I'm far too good for you, so save your energy, stay away and let's not make things any more awkward than they need to be". Unfortunately, that's not saying much---it's the way most women look to me
That makes me a bit sad because I've never thought that about anyone and certainly wouldn't want someone to feel that way
If anything it's usually me who doesn't feel good enough
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22 Apr 2016, 1:15 am
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I'm 'mainstream'? 
Never gotten that one before.
I like electronic music, but most of the stuff I listen to is classic '90s Trance, not many trance fans left today, at least young ones, and modern Trance (again, relatively on the less-mainstream side of things).
Every young person today i meet who likes electronic only seems to like either Dubstep (decent at best) or generic mainstream house (which I mostly dislike). I'm not a trendy festival bro who likes popping pills and listening to cr*p 'bass music' drunk/high, never will be.
I enjoy working out casually, but am not a gymbro and that'll never be my goal. Amatuer bodybuilding is trendy here among young males, but they usually try to get ridiculously big and beefy. Not my goal. I don't even want to have to deal at all with their elitist attitude, because all the time I observe them criticize their skinnier male friends for being weak. I'm not f*cking weak, mate, I'm lean.
Swimmers typically have the 'thin-but fit' physique: http://news.xinhuanet.com/english/2008- ... 081592.jpg
https://static01.nyt.com/images/2008/08 ... 01_650.jpg
The popular sport here is rugby football and AFL (other kind of football), Swimming unsurprisingly isn't all that big.
I enjoy basketball and parkour as well, and they're mildly popular i guess.
Hmm...what else is popular here? Indie music, not my type.
What I consider mainstream, is being a nerd/geek. It's considered 'cool' today to be one but I am not really one at all. Being a 'hipster' is also in-style and I don't relate to them either.
I've never felt like I had a crowd, because even if I'm slightly into fantasy, sci-fi and superheroes, the nerds are too nerdy for me, even if I'm sporty and like trendy music, the bro's are too broish for me, even if I like environmentalism, New Agism, spiritualism, etc. the hippies are too hippy for me (aka can't accept a meat-eater because they're vegans), even if I like anachro-socialism, conspiracy theories, etc. the conspiracy theorists are too crazy for me, even if I am a musician and make my own music, other musicians are either too different or too snobby.
Might seem silly of me to be thinking so black-and-white, but many people I have met were never much beyond a specific stereotype e.g. nerd, jock, etc. and this is what made me struggle to relate to them.
I guess...a positive is I can get along with a more diverse range of people....to an extent....
Never gotten that one before.I like electronic music, but most of the stuff I listen to is classic '90s Trance, not many trance fans left today, at least young ones, and modern Trance (again, relatively on the less-mainstream side of things).
Every young person today i meet who likes electronic only seems to like either Dubstep (decent at best) or generic mainstream house (which I mostly dislike). I'm not a trendy festival bro who likes popping pills and listening to cr*p 'bass music' drunk/high, never will be.
I enjoy working out casually, but am not a gymbro and that'll never be my goal. Amatuer bodybuilding is trendy here among young males, but they usually try to get ridiculously big and beefy. Not my goal. I don't even want to have to deal at all with their elitist attitude, because all the time I observe them criticize their skinnier male friends for being weak. I'm not f*cking weak, mate, I'm lean.
Swimmers typically have the 'thin-but fit' physique: http://news.xinhuanet.com/english/2008- ... 081592.jpg
https://static01.nyt.com/images/2008/08 ... 01_650.jpg
The popular sport here is rugby football and AFL (other kind of football), Swimming unsurprisingly isn't all that big.
I enjoy basketball and parkour as well, and they're mildly popular i guess.
Hmm...what else is popular here? Indie music, not my type.
What I consider mainstream, is being a nerd/geek. It's considered 'cool' today to be one but I am not really one at all. Being a 'hipster' is also in-style and I don't relate to them either.
I've never felt like I had a crowd, because even if I'm slightly into fantasy, sci-fi and superheroes, the nerds are too nerdy for me, even if I'm sporty and like trendy music, the bro's are too broish for me, even if I like environmentalism, New Agism, spiritualism, etc. the hippies are too hippy for me (aka can't accept a meat-eater because they're vegans), even if I like anachro-socialism, conspiracy theories, etc. the conspiracy theorists are too crazy for me, even if I am a musician and make my own music, other musicians are either too different or too snobby.
Might seem silly of me to be thinking so black-and-white, but many people I have met were never much beyond a specific stereotype e.g. nerd, jock, etc. and this is what made me struggle to relate to them.
I guess...a positive is I can get along with a more diverse range of people....to an extent....
You have said you tend to dress in a more mainstream fashion, so I figured it's possible you don't come off as someone all that different than your general college/high school graduate aged person. I didn't mean all your interests must be mainstream or anything...I just imagine your outward appearance doesn't scream any particular subculture so typical people might be initially friendlier. The more obvious your differences are the more people initially shun you in my experience.
I've used that as sort of a filter, I like to wear t-shirts or something that shows an interest I have...to keep away people who would maybe befriend me and then find said interests stupid or something, plus I just like to be expressive about dressing.
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22 Apr 2016, 1:23 am
Alliekit wrote:
Spiderpig wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Aristophanes wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
My main reason for online dating was because I was far to shy to ever be able to talk to anyone new in real life. They would never be able to see my personality
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
Well, if your avatar is your normal style, then I would say RED: there's a lot of red in your photo, which is a very aggressive color. That may be playing into that "vibe" that you give people.
Because of the red hair? Usually I where blues and greens
I'm more of the timid please don't talk to me because I'm frightened and that's just not attractive. My mum sais that when ever people try to talk to me I look all wide eyed and like I'm going to run away.
Although I can be very passionate when it comes to justice and being fair
To me, you look "aggressive" as in, "We both know I'm far too good for you, so save your energy, stay away and let's not make things any more awkward than they need to be". Unfortunately, that's not saying much---it's the way most women look to me
That makes me a bit sad because I've never thought that about anyone and certainly wouldn't want someone to feel that way
If anything it's usually me who doesn't feel good enough
I am sure any females who have pictures of themselves here look like that to him, so try not to take it to heart. I mean you're not even looking at anyone specific in that picture aside from maybe who ever is taking it.
22 Apr 2016, 2:04 am
What might these looks say about me, if anything?
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... xnOXijZgfM
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... xnOZCjZgfM
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... xnOeCjZgfM
In the process of experimenting with all kinds of different styles, and these are my three favorites.
The bottom one is, apparently, supposed to be my 'neutral' look.
Some reddit commentators, when I asked, said I have a 'generic Wii ad kid' look.
22 Apr 2016, 2:58 am
Spiderpig wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Aristophanes wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
My main reason for online dating was because I was far to shy to ever be able to talk to anyone new in real life. They would never be able to see my personality
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
Well, if your avatar is your normal style, then I would say RED: there's a lot of red in your photo, which is a very aggressive color. That may be playing into that "vibe" that you give people.
Because of the red hair? Usually I where blues and greens
I'm more of the timid please don't talk to me because I'm frightened and that's just not attractive. My mum sais that when ever people try to talk to me I look all wide eyed and like I'm going to run away.
Although I can be very passionate when it comes to justice and being fair
To me, you look "aggressive" as in, "We both know I'm far too good for you, so save your energy, stay away and let's not make things any more awkward than they need to be". Unfortunately, that's not saying much---it's the way most women look to me
Disagree. She doesn't look aggressive, and not all girls will judge guys like you think they do above. That's a bad attitude you have that's not going to help you in finding a girl. You need to work on distinguishing aggression from being timid / shy, and also stop thinking every girl will think she is "better than you", because that's not likely to be the case.
22 Apr 2016, 3:19 am
Spiderpig wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Aristophanes wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
My main reason for online dating was because I was far to shy to ever be able to talk to anyone new in real life. They would never be able to see my personality
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
I acidentally send off a 'please don't talk to me vibe' and found the only way to get over this was to get to know someone before meeting them.
Well, if your avatar is your normal style, then I would say RED: there's a lot of red in your photo, which is a very aggressive color. That may be playing into that "vibe" that you give people.
Because of the red hair? Usually I where blues and greens
I'm more of the timid please don't talk to me because I'm frightened and that's just not attractive. My mum sais that when ever people try to talk to me I look all wide eyed and like I'm going to run away.
Although I can be very passionate when it comes to justice and being fair
To me, you look "aggressive" as in, "We both know I'm far too good for you, so save your energy, stay away and let's not make things any more awkward than they need to be". Unfortunately, that's not saying much---it's the way most women look to me
I just see a very attractive young woman, I don't see any aggressiveness in that picture.
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