Serious issues with L&D Forum

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Sly, stop beating yourself up! There's nothing to forgive.

Just learn for the next time.

Example of misconception

I says lot of women will only date guys who have a decent job

They think in saying all women only date rich men.

I don't consider middle class people rich. Rich people make thousands an hour.

They say they'd only date someone finically stable which is the same thing I'm saying.

Finically stable is generally middle class or 18-28 an hour or more. At least by societies standard and rich economists.

So we end up fighting over the word use and assumptions

Developing on the ban votes idea.

Let the mods create a candidate ban lists (I might be one of them, I dunno) of who they think are the troublemakers, and let the people of the UNITED STAT-...I mean of WP, or better members of the opposite sex of the candidate, to cast their votes in polls.
Not sure how technically this can be done tho.


Hmm...that would be fun.

Poor sly, Alex makes a thread asking how to fix L & D and everyone points to sly

Boo raises a point though. Alex, you want to make this place change for the better.
But may I ask, through what means? Board features, or moderation, or a bit of both?
It looks like more board features could be used to detect bad threads or behaviour, and additionally the rules could do with an update.

Also, kudos for the Trek references!

The problem is more endemic than any one member's behaviour. It might be more productive to focus on an overall code of conduct for the forum and how that could be implemented rather than rehashing old stuff.

The problem is that when you have people that are desperately lonely and sexually frustrated for a very long period of time they're inevitably going to get all sorts of strange ideas into their heads. Even if it's sub-consciously.

They're going to need an alternative explanation as to why they're single than just "you suck". So that's when you start seeing reasoning like "all women want is wealth" and "all men want is a supermodel". And of course, they'll focus on the small minority that genuinely feels that way in ignore all the people who aren't shallow, again, probably without even realizing it.

I see two possible solutions.
1. Find every lonely person a suitable partner.
2. Preemptively ban everyone who's lonely just to make sure nobody bitter shows up.

I don't think there should be censorship. But I believe people should stop when told to stop. If the person doesn't stop after being told to stop, this person should not be allowed to post for a little while in order to cool off.

People have to have disagreements in life. We can't avoid them.

Also: the part about attacking the IDEA, rather than the PERSON, should hold sway, like it does in PPR.

Posters presenting personal opinions as indisputable facts is one of the central behaviours that adds fuel to the fires that break out on this forum.