Have you ever dated or been in relationship before?

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Homer_Bob,

I'm happy that you are content, and currently, I'm mostly content except that I'm still in school currently, (graduate school) and uncertain of my future, though that is a different issue than being a relationship itself. I do feel that if I am in a relationship, part of the problems that you mentioned would/could become a reality for me, which would further hamper my everyday life.

As far as being in relationships, I too, am content with where I am today. I do have a small circle of friends that get together every once in a while to hangout or do activities with (movies, eating out, shopping, etc.) so I guess social life wise, it is not too bad.

A few non serious ones in middle school and high school.

One serious one three years ago. Didn't work out. It was for the best, we were really incompatible in terms of our views on right and wrong and moral obligation. Also he was trying to push me into things I wasn't comfortable with while being aware something was wrong. That something being me freezing and disassociating.

I continued trying to date for a while after that but last year decided I needed to go on a break and focus on me and being happier with myself and dealing with my problems so I don't put myself in bad situations or sabatoge my own relationships because I'm afraid of being emotionally open (therefore emotionally vulnerable - abuse sure does a number on you lol). Personally I think it was a good idea. I've ever felt freer than when I deleted my dating profile. I've improved immensely and I hope I can date again within three years.

No. I have casually dated and had short term relationships usually ending in 2 months. As someone said earlier, is the main cause of my depression too.

I've been in two relationships, one FWB situation, and casually dated every now and then. No such luck recently.

This one time in 2nd grade this girl asked me if I wanted to to marry her and I said yes, we told the teacher and she announced to the whole class that me and the girl were in a relationship and we had to kiss in front of the whole class.

I never tell that story but always mention that that was the last time that I was in a relationship even though it wasn't a serious relationship at all, nothing ever happened after that kiss and I'm pretty sure that the girl wouldn't call it a real relationship either. She also deleted me as friend of Facebook not so long ago so she probably just wants to forget that all of that ever happened lol

So in reality I have never had a relationship but it was funny when an old colleague.high fived me when I said that my longest relationship was 10 minutes long but he probably thought there was another reason why it was only 10 minutes hahahah

Anyways, that was my "relationship" lol
Single for 19 years now in reality, who knows, maybe I get the 20 year mark...

i can count on all 10 fingers the number of dates i've been on in my whole life

I don't even need a single finger to count the amount of dates I've been on.

10 dates is...decent at age 28.

Not gonna lie, by all means it's not impressive, but it's not absolutely terrible either. Better than none.

But I know how you feel.

Somehow I managed to go on 8 dates (if sleeping at a girl's house after you get back together with her counts as one) in one year, and still feel like it's a very low number (and often wonder if it was all just a fluke). Then again, the first 3 dates, she only realized they were supposed to be dates at the very end of the second (when I hugged her goodbye). But that doesn't mean, regarding confidence and social skills, I wasn't at the very top of my game. I had a certain confidence and energy and skill that I've never been able to replicate and only partially got back on my future dates.

I don't know.

I'd say it is (or, at least, I thought it'd be/it should be) harder to get a first date than a second or third, as if you made a good impression on the first date, the next few dates would be easier as you've caught their attention and interest.

But that's just blind optimism on my part.

So with that said, I've had a total of 3 'first dates'.

Sabreclaw, 0 dates around your age isn't so far-fetched, assuming your age listed is incorrect and you're actually age 20-30 (which is what your posts suggest).

I also have zero dates, so need no fingers to count them. Still, that's because I never dated in the usual sense of the word.

I've gone out with 4 girls during my life, and three of them friend zoned me, and one was a lesbian. The girl who turned out to be a lesbian seemed really interested in me at first and thought my AS was like the coolest thing in the world, but you can't attract people who aren't attracted to your gender.
I've never had a girlfriend.

I've been in relationships before. None were great.

2002
She was my first girlfriend. However, I knew from the get-go that I settled for her. I didn't find her physically attractive at all, and she was boring too. Didn't like to do anything fun. Inviting her even to a restaurant a few blocks away was like pulling teeth. Her only activity of choice was hanging out in the campus courtyard.

2007
She was my first girlfriend that I actually had sex with. But even then, she kind of disappeared on me about two months into the relationships ("ghosted" in modern terminology), due to some personal things she had going on. She ended up reaching out to me another month later, but the damage's been done, and I didn't agree to take her back.

2009
Out of all four relationship experiences, I'd have to say she was the best one. She was warm, sweet, and affectionate. But there's was a problem: she was as desperate to have a baby as I was to find girlfriend in 2002. Which made sex with her flat-out terrifying, since I was worried she'd try to impregnate herself with my "material", in order to fulfill her baby dream. She broke up with me when she realized I wasn't going to play a part in that dream.

2011 thru 2013
This was not a good relationship at all, even though we did have fun together sometimes. The biggest reason I got into it is that there was heavy police activity happening in my city, which made sexing escorts a dangerous proposition. So an LTR seemed like a safe alternative. Well, not really; she verbally and emotionally abused me constantly. I broke up with her, and went to the police (oh, the irony, considering how my original intent was to avoid them) to ensure she doesn't contact me again, because throughout the relationship, my strongest feeling toward her was fear, rather than love.