How to go from just talking to a girl to asking her out?

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Go on to the next girl. That's all you can do, sir.

Sigh. I would if I had one to go onto.

don't hint anything. just be who you are anyway (maybe without the emotional soreness), and if a girl likes you it will be very easy to let her in.
always with me, the girl comes to me. they make it known they want to tag by close to you, and either you let them or not.
it is always up to you. if you think otherwise you will be swamped by s**t i can not talk about because i was never there.

I think you'll do all right in the end. But you might go through tough times in the interim.

That's the plight of the single man (and woman).

Just concentrate on improving yourself separately from romance.

if you never act anything, someone will notice and they will want to live with your mind.

I hope you didn't pay for that date. I don't spend a dime on a woman, unless we are dating. if you want to go out as friends, you pay your own way. The best thing for you to do and basically not care and not bother talking to her. She MAY at some point try and talk to you if she's having guy troubles. Don't far for it. You have better things to do than listen to some girls moan and complain. That's when you tell her you're busy.

Also, dude girls aren't as stupid as they lead on. Odds are she knew you liked her, she was just too passive aggressive to say no. Either that, or she wanted to go out and have a nice date with no obligations. Again, this is why I do not spend money on women unless we already are dating.

That hasn't happened to me for a long time.I'm not sure if that works for me. When I don't seek, I don't find. I've gone through long periods of not seeking and didn't find anything. Anytime I've gotten anywhere with a girl was when I was actually trying find a girl a get somewhere with her.

I remember I went to the conference on AS and relationships hosted by this French Canadian woman. She said you can't just do nothing and expect a girl to turn up at your door.

Yeah, don't make the mistake of putting it off. I was angry and hurt after school, and kept my nose to the grindstone in college with career (contracting & proprietorship) and academics. 12 years later I'm still alone.

Same here.

I agree with a previous poster, move on. She's given you the clear message.

At some point she may be more ready to get involved with a man again. She may hit you up. Don't sit around waiting for that to happen, but it could. In the meantime you need to look at some other ladies, and maybe get involved with one.

I don't believe in chatting a long time before meeting, if dating is your intent. You're just frittering away the days of your life. YES I KNOW it's less scary to chat online than to meet in person, but nothing ventured, nothing gained; or, faint heart never won fair lady.

Yeah I'm back on OKC. Been chatting with this very pretty girl who's way out of my league.Try telling that to the girl on OKC. I suggested we meet up and she said she doesn't date people that soon. I said I could get to know her slowly and she liked that.What about when the lady has a faint heart? A lot of girls seem to be shy.

Do you mean it's better to meet the OKC girl in real life or do you mean it's better to skip OKC and actually find a girl in real life?

You can do both, can't you?

If the OKC girl wants to take a long time before meeting, fine, but you will also be playing the field. She's risking never ending up with anybody. Don't you risk that.

Yes I can do both. I just need to improve my field playing skills... somehow. On the other hand I hope I have a shot with this new OKC girl because she's very very pretty.

At least you were lucky to get in contact with this girl. I wish I had a very very petty girlfriend like you described. What are some guy's secrets?

My secrets? Having a good job helps. Girls like that and I don't blame them. Having your own place helps. It means you have a place to take her back to. A place with privacy. A car may be useful but soon I'll find out as it's necessary as I'm selling my car. Will I still be able to go on dates using only public transport? Soon I'll find out.

Other than that, I don't know. There are some guys who are much better at getting girls than I am. I wonder what their secrets are.

To me she is very, very pretty but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have a weakness for cute Asian girls but I know not all guys share my tastes. Tell me what you think of her.

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