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HighLlama wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Damn who are all these women being persued by loads of guys? I'm jealous hehehe. I'm being perused by no one :'(
I know it's a typo, but "perused" made me laugh. Just make sure they wash their hands first.
hahahaYep meant pursued
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03 Jul 2016, 11:01 am
03 Jul 2016, 1:50 pm
Outrider wrote:
I thought you, like me, hated that quote.
It's better to be single than in a bad relationship, but a GOOD relationship is the best of all 3.
I agree!
Anyway, I don't think it's a gender thing, but depends on the person in general.
I also agree to this!
Some people actually enjoy pursuing, as it offers them choice and some enjoy the thrill of 'the chase'.
Some might prefer being pursued and receiving positive attention for their looks/personality.
Forget gender and take it out of the equation for a second.
So I don't think women have it easier and men harder, I think some find it harder to be pursued/to pursue than others.
The reason gender relates to it is that many women can choose to pursue or to be pursued, but many men CAN'T.
Many men may HAVE to pursue unless they don't want to end up alone, many women can simply allow men to pursue her or, if that's not working, CHOOSE to pursue herself.
Bingo! This is brilliant! Often times, it has to work this way, or the woman might wait forever for that guy she is secretly adoring to pursue her! I for one didn't wait too long, because I knew I would have to do the pursuing, so I just did it, even though it was way outside of my comfort zone!
It may be considered socially unacceptable for women to pursue, but I'd take being able to pursue if it's 'socially unacceptable' if it means finding love over 'actually stops me from finding love' if I choose not to pursue.
There are some men who would find life easier if more women did the pursuing.
On an Autistic forum, I would assume more often than not the men here would find life much easier if more women pursued.
Just as there are some women who actually find pursuing what kind of man they want easier than 'waiting for the right one'.
I can't speak for Aspie Women, but for NT women, it is quite difficult to pursue a man, especially if you are unsure of how he feels about you. I just knew that with him being an Aspie, and quite shy, I would have to make the move, and be direct. I knew if I didn't, I would regret it. This took a lot of courage for me, having a disability myself, and having been shot down plenty of times...
The problem occurs when there is a mismatch in gender and values - when a male would find life easier if more women pursued but this is simply not the case.
He can't change society.
I DO believe pursuing requires more effort than not pursuing, so it is slightly harder for men overall if they can't switch back-and-forth.
The key word here is 'slightly'. It's not 'women are extremely lucky', it's 'the fact I can't choose to not pursue makes it slightly harder for me, but that doesn't mean you don't find it hard yourself'.
It's better to be single than in a bad relationship, but a GOOD relationship is the best of all 3.
I agree!
Anyway, I don't think it's a gender thing, but depends on the person in general.
I also agree to this!
Some people actually enjoy pursuing, as it offers them choice and some enjoy the thrill of 'the chase'.
Some might prefer being pursued and receiving positive attention for their looks/personality.
Forget gender and take it out of the equation for a second.
So I don't think women have it easier and men harder, I think some find it harder to be pursued/to pursue than others.
The reason gender relates to it is that many women can choose to pursue or to be pursued, but many men CAN'T.
Many men may HAVE to pursue unless they don't want to end up alone, many women can simply allow men to pursue her or, if that's not working, CHOOSE to pursue herself.
Bingo! This is brilliant! Often times, it has to work this way, or the woman might wait forever for that guy she is secretly adoring to pursue her! I for one didn't wait too long, because I knew I would have to do the pursuing, so I just did it, even though it was way outside of my comfort zone!
It may be considered socially unacceptable for women to pursue, but I'd take being able to pursue if it's 'socially unacceptable' if it means finding love over 'actually stops me from finding love' if I choose not to pursue.
There are some men who would find life easier if more women did the pursuing.
On an Autistic forum, I would assume more often than not the men here would find life much easier if more women pursued.
Just as there are some women who actually find pursuing what kind of man they want easier than 'waiting for the right one'.
I can't speak for Aspie Women, but for NT women, it is quite difficult to pursue a man, especially if you are unsure of how he feels about you. I just knew that with him being an Aspie, and quite shy, I would have to make the move, and be direct. I knew if I didn't, I would regret it. This took a lot of courage for me, having a disability myself, and having been shot down plenty of times...
The problem occurs when there is a mismatch in gender and values - when a male would find life easier if more women pursued but this is simply not the case.
He can't change society.
I DO believe pursuing requires more effort than not pursuing, so it is slightly harder for men overall if they can't switch back-and-forth.
The key word here is 'slightly'. It's not 'women are extremely lucky', it's 'the fact I can't choose to not pursue makes it slightly harder for me, but that doesn't mean you don't find it hard yourself'.
Men are more dominant as a general rule, so it's easier for them to pursue then women. Also, depending on when you grew up, we're taught not to chase men. I was anyhow, so it's hard to just step out of that mindset. Add on the competition factor that women put each other through, and it makes it harder! We have to be prettier than the rest, skinnier than the rest, and all sorts of other things, so we end up having confidence issues to deal with. We get it in our heads that men want that "supermodel", "swimsuit issue" type of woman, and it makes us shy away, if we don't feel good enough! This is just my thoughts on it all.
I really liked what you had to say here, and wanted to respond. Good stuff. 
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03 Jul 2016, 6:31 pm
CommanderKeen wrote:
lidsmichelle wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
CommanderKeen wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
You really think all women have it easier than all men when it comes to getting laid, or getting a relationship which are two different things by the way? You're not stating the obvious you're making a blanket generalization.
Fact is fact. Reality doesn't care about being politically correct. Also, I know they are different hence the slash; indicating and, or. Look at how many men are still virgins as opposed to women and with women it's usually for religious reasons. Of course that can be the case with men too, but it's usually less so. A girl can go be a webcam model, dittle herself on cam and make over $15,000 a month. What's that tell you? Most women who are single are because they have very high standards, most guys who are single are single because women have too high a standard.
Alright well I had a pretty hard time finding a relationship, I've known of plenty of guys who have gotten relationships easier than me. Also most women and all women isn't the same thing, when I was single it was due to not being able to find anyone intrested in that or being worried about getting led on again which most of my 'relationships' up till this one consisted of. Also once again females here probably don't have it as 'easy' as neurotypical females in this area, also not all guys have it as difficult as guys with autism like you and others seem to imply.
I couldn't go be a webcam model and make that kind of money, no f***ing way, some females might be able to do that however. Either way not sure what that has to do with how easy it is for any female to find relationships or getting laid. Also i am not criticizing your opinion for being 'politically incorrect' I am criticizing your blanket generalization that doesn't actually hold true for everyone.
Why is it so hard for some of you here to believe that OMG some women have a very hard time acquiring relationships, especially ones here with a condition that effects social interaction...do the ones that struggle just not exist? I guess women are strange beings all neurotypical with good social skills and popularity with tons of males pursing them that they simply have to select from. I wonder than what those of us who struggle in this area are considered to people here.
He's wrong anyways, I am friends with a number of sex workers and most web cam girls don't make anywhere near $15,000 a month. The average cam girl doesn't make anymore than you'd make on a minimum wage job. Usually they do it on top of their day job for extra money. Hi considering the sh*t that comes out of this dude's mouth it's not surprising that he doesn't know what he's talking about. He sounds like someone who spends too much time on MRA/MGTOW/PUA sites lmao.
And yeah I can tell you it is hard to find someone to date. There's always interested people but that doesn't mean a goddamn thing if they aren't your type - and the sleazy, older men who show interest in me aren't my type. I prefer people who actually care about what I have to say and can carry a worthwhile conversation, not some sleazy middle aged man who wants to have sex with me and shows the typical male entitlement that they can't even consider dating a woman their own age lmao.
He doesn't seem to get that its men's fault if it's like this. If you're willing to stick your d*ck in anything then that's your problem. Women stay single for long periods of time because we have standards. Consider doing the same and stop complaining.
Oh please, LMAO lol hahahahah. excuse me while I go cry in a corner. Honestly, that means a lot coming from someone with admitted issues. Honestly the whole reason I made this thread is to piss off SJWs. It looks like it worked. Oh and before you pull the "you have no life card", since that's an easy one. I'm stuck in the house until I have my next two surgeries. Pissing off SJWs is just a good way to past the time.
03 Jul 2016, 6:32 pm
I was never pursued that's why I started online dating 
it's embarrassing to admit
03 Jul 2016, 6:34 pm
03 Jul 2016, 6:36 pm
Alliekit wrote:
I was never pursued that's why I started online dating it's embarrassing to admit
it's embarrassing to admitBut you got a boyfriend that way.
