25 Jul 2016, 1:05 am
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25 Jul 2016, 1:14 am
Bridgette77 wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
judging from my one and only "GF experience" I can say that there is probably next to nobody alive that could handle me.
What makes you say that? What do you think it is about you that makes you hard to handle?
it taught me things that are global in nature because it taught me about my essence which is that of an orphan puzzle piece from a long-forgotten puzzle.
What makes you say that? What do you think it is about you that makes you hard to handle?
it taught me things that are global in nature because it taught me about my essence which is that of an orphan puzzle piece from a long-forgotten puzzle.
This post caught my attention for this reason, as I have felt this way many times in my life. I felt like I never quite fit in anywhere, like I was always on the outside of everything, like I was always going to end up a burden to someone eventually, so at almost 40, I wondered if I was going to ever be good for anyone, until I found my missing puzzle piece in my Sweet and wonderful man, which is what led me here, so I could learn to understand him more, communicate with him better, and adapt to his way of doing things. I've seen too much of everyone trying to fit in to what society wanted them to be, and it hurt my heart. I don't ever want anyone to be that way in my presence or home. I guess what I'm trying to say is, perhaps maybe you could be someone's missing puzzle piece and don't even know it?
thank you Bridgette
your hubby is a LUCKY man! 
i'm afraid it is past my time, I am past my "sell-by date" 
the one person I was able to be with for a too-short time taught me that I lack several cognitive pieces necessary to be a successful mate to somebody else. my dad had me sussed in my teens when he told me I was cut out to be a monk.
25 Jul 2016, 1:38 am
auntblabby wrote:
Bridgette77 wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
judging from my one and only "GF experience" I can say that there is probably next to nobody alive that could handle me.
What makes you say that? What do you think it is about you that makes you hard to handle?
it taught me things that are global in nature because it taught me about my essence which is that of an orphan puzzle piece from a long-forgotten puzzle.
What makes you say that? What do you think it is about you that makes you hard to handle?
it taught me things that are global in nature because it taught me about my essence which is that of an orphan puzzle piece from a long-forgotten puzzle.
This post caught my attention for this reason, as I have felt this way many times in my life. I felt like I never quite fit in anywhere, like I was always on the outside of everything, like I was always going to end up a burden to someone eventually, so at almost 40, I wondered if I was going to ever be good for anyone, until I found my missing puzzle piece in my Sweet and wonderful man, which is what led me here, so I could learn to understand him more, communicate with him better, and adapt to his way of doing things. I've seen too much of everyone trying to fit in to what society wanted them to be, and it hurt my heart. I don't ever want anyone to be that way in my presence or home. I guess what I'm trying to say is, perhaps maybe you could be someone's missing puzzle piece and don't even know it?
thank you Bridgette
your hubby is a LUCKY man! Oh, we're not married Much too soon for that.
but thank you. I feel that I am the lucky one though.i'm afraid it is past my time, I am past my "sell-by date"
the one person I was able to be with for a too-short time taught me that I lack several cognitive pieces necessary to be a successful mate to somebody else. Okay, if you don't mind me prying for a minute, what would those two pieces be? One person's point of view hardly is a determining factor. If that would be the case, I should have given up a long time ago!
my dad had me sussed in my teens when he told me I was cut out to be a monk.
That's terrible to say, but what made him say that? Again, I don't mean to pry, but I have a hard time believing that people are hopeless when it comes to love.
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25 Jul 2016, 1:48 am
Bridgette77 wrote:
What makes you say that? What do you think it is about you that makes you hard to handle?
Okay, if you don't mind me prying for a minute, what would those two pieces be? One person's point of view hardly is a determining factor. If that would be the case, I should have given up a long time ago! what made him say that? Again, I don't mean to pry, but I have a hard time believing that people are hopeless when it comes to love.
Okay, if you don't mind me prying for a minute, what would those two pieces be? One person's point of view hardly is a determining factor. If that would be the case, I should have given up a long time ago! what made him say that? Again, I don't mean to pry, but I have a hard time believing that people are hopeless when it comes to love.
I wish you a very happy upcoming marriage and many happy years together
to answer your questions- socially I am dense, I neither receive nor transmit body language. this creeps people out and makes them think I am dense/socially ret*d. my dad [also my mom] had social intelligence so that is how they knew that there was something wrong with me that they couldn't fix. my dad had a hard harsh tongue and he let me know about all my faults and his disappointments in me. if I knew what made me hard to handle, i'd have been able to address at least a few of those things long ago. all I know is the results. but i'm pretty sure in the next lifetime i'll do a lot better.
25 Jul 2016, 1:59 am
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25 Jul 2016, 2:01 am
^^^^^wolfman jack [RIP] was pretty good at that, I hear. 
25 Jul 2016, 2:26 am
auntblabby wrote:
Bridgette77 wrote:
What makes you say that? What do you think it is about you that makes you hard to handle?
Okay, if you don't mind me prying for a minute, what would those two pieces be? One person's point of view hardly is a determining factor. If that would be the case, I should have given up a long time ago! what made him say that? Again, I don't mean to pry, but I have a hard time believing that people are hopeless when it comes to love.
Okay, if you don't mind me prying for a minute, what would those two pieces be? One person's point of view hardly is a determining factor. If that would be the case, I should have given up a long time ago! what made him say that? Again, I don't mean to pry, but I have a hard time believing that people are hopeless when it comes to love.
I wish you a very happy upcoming marriage and many happy years together
to answer your questions- socially I am dense, I neither receive nor transmit body language. this creeps people out and makes them think I am dense/socially ret*d. my dad [also my mom] had social intelligence so that is how they knew that there was something wrong with me that they couldn't fix. my dad had a hard harsh tongue and he let me know about all my faults and his disappointments in me. if I knew what made me hard to handle, i'd have been able to address at least a few of those things long ago. all I know is the results. but i'm pretty sure in the next lifetime i'll do a lot better. I have no clue what happen to my reply to this, but I will try again, as it was important! No No No! All of these things your Father said was not true! There's nothing wrong with you, and you're not socially ret*d! This is very common with people who have Autism. A lot of people, my boyfriend included, lack the ability to receive or send body language/social cues, that NT's are accustomed to, but that doesn't mean you are hopeless. It just means, you have to find someone who can communicate with you on a different level. This is what I learned to do. I refuse to believe that anyone is incapable of loving, or being loved. Everyone just needs to find someone who is patient, who will be able to find your love language. I hope this makes sense. It's 3 in the morning, and I'm sleepy...
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25 Jul 2016, 2:53 am
Bridgette77 wrote:
I have no clue what happen to my reply to this, but I will try again, as it was important! No No No! All of these things your Father said was not true! There's nothing wrong with you, and you're not socially ret*d! This is very common with people who have Autism. A lot of people, my boyfriend included, lack the ability to receive or send body language/social cues, that NT's are accustomed to, but that doesn't mean you are hopeless. It just means, you have to find someone who can communicate with you on a different level. This is what I learned to do. I refuse to believe that anyone is incapable of loving, or being loved. Everyone just needs to find someone who is patient, who will be able to find your love language. I hope this makes sense. It's 3 in the morning, and I'm sleepy...
thank you for thinking of me
sleep tight 
25 Jul 2016, 1:19 pm
auntblabby wrote:
Bridgette77 wrote:
I have no clue what happen to my reply to this, but I will try again, as it was important! No No No! All of these things your Father said was not true! There's nothing wrong with you, and you're not socially ret*d! This is very common with people who have Autism. A lot of people, my boyfriend included, lack the ability to receive or send body language/social cues, that NT's are accustomed to, but that doesn't mean you are hopeless. It just means, you have to find someone who can communicate with you on a different level. This is what I learned to do. I refuse to believe that anyone is incapable of loving, or being loved. Everyone just needs to find someone who is patient, who will be able to find your love language. I hope this makes sense. It's 3 in the morning, and I'm sleepy...
thank you for thinking of me
sleep tight Thank you. And I hope I was able to help some.
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25 Jul 2016, 3:46 pm
Bridgette77 wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Bridgette77 wrote:
I have no clue what happen to my reply to this, but I will try again, as it was important! No No No! All of these things your Father said was not true! There's nothing wrong with you, and you're not socially ret*d! This is very common with people who have Autism. A lot of people, my boyfriend included, lack the ability to receive or send body language/social cues, that NT's are accustomed to, but that doesn't mean you are hopeless. It just means, you have to find someone who can communicate with you on a different level. This is what I learned to do. I refuse to believe that anyone is incapable of loving, or being loved. Everyone just needs to find someone who is patient, who will be able to find your love language. I hope this makes sense. It's 3 in the morning, and I'm sleepy...
thank you for thinking of me
sleep tight Thank you. And I hope I was able to help some.
yes, you are sunshine
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28 Jul 2016, 5:38 pm
Meistersinger wrote:
Not no, but HELL NO! Nobody can stand me, once they get to know me.
I once had that initial reaction, it turned out fine
28 Jul 2016, 5:54 pm
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