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@hurtloam: i'm still not sure if i understand the type of scenario you're talking about. is my suggestion any good for your purposes? all these virtual thingamajigs can be pretty confusing, and they all have their catches, so it depends a lot on context

And one of many reasons I don't have social media accounts yet is I'm preparing something big so...I'd rather open my life after at least I have a tangible building or sort.

Okay, so there's a guy I'm aware of is friends with a friend of my sister. I have spoken to him a few times, but never remember to ask for his number.

I don't see him often because he isn't directly friends with any of my friends so will only be at a social thing once in a while. He also lives at the other side of the country so I don't know when I'll see him again. If he had a facebook or instagram account I could friend him and instant message him.

Now I just have to hope we'll be at some random party together at some point. May never happen.

This doesn't even just apply to dating.

Because I've tried to get to know and befriend Aspie males or just out-of-the-norm types, they typically don't even have the bare minimum regarding social media, and by that I mean at least something that has a profile picture of some kind.

I'm not a social media addict like plenty of other millenials today; all I have is Facebook, Youtube, Gmail and a Reddit!

But plenty of males I wanted to befriend had nothing beyond perhaps a Gmail at best and only their school email accounts at worse (which are deleted by the government after high school).

It makes you wonder how any of these people stay in contact with ANYONE.

I can see how aspies have less need for social media and such, but it's also a fact plenty don't like speaking on the phone.

I guess they use text messaging?

But using Facebook from a computer is easier to type with, and getting FB Messenger for phone is a more convenient platform for text messaging instead of traditional texting.

The thing is, these aspie teens with little to no social media or forms of contact, they grow up.

And once they grow up, they'd need to create more mediums for contact if anyone wanted to get in touch with them.

What happens when you change your phone number? Is it easier to text every single contact your new number, or just post on your facebook wall what your new numer is and set it to 'Friends Only'?

Your post hurtloam helps prove it creates a lot of inconvenience for when these aspie or ND men (and women) meet someone new.

Another thing is, most N.T.'s use social media and suspect most others do the same, so it would be easier to be prepared.

For instance most classmates you meet at university or good co-workers you get along with, facebook would probably be their go-to for asking your contact details (and, surprisingly, being friends with someone on facebook is less personal than having someone's number).

So, to all the aspies that absolutely detest social media - how about for your own convenience (avoiding having to speak to people on the phone, avoiding having to text all the time using those tiny buttons) and the convenience of others (make it easier for others to get in touch with you), how about at least starting a facebook? You don't have to actually use it beyond speaking to friends and family, but it helps.

I wouldn't give my facebook to Uncle Deadly.

EEK!

hm okay. do you think you would have things to talk about with him? if you wouldn't, then friending him at this point would probably backfire anyway. but if you would have something to talk about already, then maybe there's some other way to reach him through someone else

i think if you're going to go out of your way like that to pursue him, then you'll need (or at least it will help) to know what is the basis of the connection that you have and that you're trying to develop. pursue the connection rather than pursuing him. if you can verbalize it to yourself (like, just a stupid example: "we both love bowling"), then maybe you can come up with good excuses to get in touch with him in some way that won't make things awkward

who knows, maybe you could find out that he's in some kind of online community related to <bowling> or something like that, which could work as the "facebook or instagram" that you're looking for. like, maybe he's on deviantart or something. that would be perfect. much better than facebook actually

it sounds like it's a long-shot situation as it is, so you'll probably have to be creative with or without facebook