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Gabrielle
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17 May 2007, 9:27 pm

So what kind of help i gonna need

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17 May 2007, 10:37 pm

Gabrielle wrote:

So what kind of help i gonna need

what kind of help are you going to need. Gabs, I'm an English/writing lit major, bad grammer to english majors is like a hangover for a drinker, we don't like them.

Well, you haven't really specified what you need advice on, so first you tell us waht you need help with, then we go from there.

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18 May 2007, 5:44 am

the how to approach a relationship like you said in your last message you sent

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18 May 2007, 11:09 am

Gabrielle wrote:

the how to approach a relationship like you said in your last message you sent

There is no dating guide book to dating. If there was, I'd have bought every version.

The approach that one takes is the approach that they feel most comfortable with.

I'm gonna go off on a wild guess that you've never dated before and there is a guy that you like?

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18 May 2007, 6:25 pm

yeah thats pritty much it

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18 May 2007, 6:49 pm

Men are relatively uncomplicated creatures (honestly,thats why we like you guys )
Bottom line, don't play head games, don't mess him around. Be straightforward and honest. Call when you say you're going to call, if you've agreed to meet, be at the designated place at the designated time and so on. Don't be a nag (no man wants to date his mother) and don't be a barnacle (most men find clingy a big turnoff)

In my experience, most men are uncomfortable talking about emotions,so if you have to go there,keep it short and simple.

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18 May 2007, 7:48 pm

Anna4077 wrote:

Men are relatively uncomplicated creatures (honestly,thats why we like you guys

)
.

No wonder I'm screwed. Complex and not expected to be.

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18 May 2007, 9:47 pm

'Complex' is not necessarily unattractive.
Depends on the the type of complexity.

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18 May 2007, 11:58 pm

you totally lost me

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19 May 2007, 2:55 am

Gabrielle wrote:

you totally lost me

In other words, just act natural. it works.

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19 May 2007, 11:25 am

You can say these kind of things to him :

"Would you like to : go for a walk in the park / buy some ice cream / go skating / have dinner in an indian restaurant / kiss me ?"

"Are you enjoying yourself ?"

"What are you thinking about ?"

"I like / don't like this because ..."

"I feel awkward"

"I like you because ..."

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19 May 2007, 10:01 pm

ok that really helps me now

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20 May 2007, 7:17 am

Gamester wrote:

Gabrielle wrote:

you totally lost me

In other words, just act natural. it works.

Many of us, when acting naturally, scare the living
pcheeps out of most mortals.

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20 May 2007, 10:25 am

calandale wrote:

Gamester wrote:

Gabrielle wrote:

you totally lost me

In other words, just act natural. it works.

Many of us, when acting naturally, scare the living
pcheeps out of most mortals.

EH? I guess I'm one of the few normal ones then Cal. Because when I'm natural, I come off as suave and debonair and almost British.

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20 May 2007, 2:04 pm

Anna4077 wrote:

Men are relatively uncomplicated creatures (honestly,thats why we like you guys

)
Bottom line, don't play head games, don't mess him around. Be straightforward and honest. Call when you say you're going to call, if you've agreed to meet, be at the designated place at the designated time and so on. Don't be a nag (no man wants to date his mother) and don't be a barnacle (most men find clingy a big turnoff)

In my experience, most men are uncomfortable talking about emotions,so if you have to go there,keep it short and simple.

This is pretty good advice, I wish someone had given it to my ex-gf. About the last point, I would add that clarity is important - emotions are in and of themselves complicated enough without adding guesswork. Clear, concise, honest but tactful works well.

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20 May 2007, 8:06 pm

Gamester wrote:

calandale wrote:

Gamester wrote:

Gabrielle wrote:

you totally lost me

In other words, just act natural. it works.

Many of us, when acting naturally, scare the living
pcheeps out of most mortals.

EH? I guess I'm one of the few normal ones then Cal. Because when I'm natural, I come off as suave and debonair and almost British.

Odd. As the DSM-IV definition of AS more or less
requires that it hinder one socially, no?

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