I quite like the idea of someone always knowing where I am.
The only people who have sent frequent text messages and made me feel bothered are family sometimes, usually ones I don't want to talk to or wouldn't know what to say.
But a girlfriend I actually like talking to? Yeah, I'd actually feel better if I had someone always wanting to know my whereabouts. It shows someone cares.
Bridgette77 wrote:
I don't like to be the chaser. I realize that it makes my anxiety go crazy, I get sick to my stomach, and this last time I had to do it, even though I didn't eat a thing, I nearly decorated the newly waxed church floor, just asking my boyfriend out. This would have been a very extra bad thing, since he is the one who waxes the floors... It's all just too much on my poor system! Every other time before, I was always turned down, with stupid excuses, platitudes, and I always knew the real reasons... I psyched myself up for it to happen this time, but it didn't... for once in my life, it paid off.
This is what some aspie men have to go through, along with gender roles affecting them.
Because men are traditionally seen as 'the provider', men may feel inferior because they believe in the eyes of society that they are a failure.
This is obviously because some aspie men struggle with learning to drive, university education, getting a job, let alone holding down a career, etc.
Some of us end up still living at home into young adulthood and on disability.
Some statistics support the hypothesis that some men are more willing to give a chance to a woman not as well-off as they are than vice-versa.
Evidence:
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Men seem to be more forgiving of the living arrangements. Nearly 40% of women say they wouldn’t date someone who lived with their parents compared to just 18% of men. This was true across the board, despite age, the survey shows.
Psychotherapist Dr. Robi Ludwig says the lack of appeal among women isn’t surprising since she says women prefer men who are independent.
“Women are still very attracted to men who are self-sufficient, successful and can be adequate providers,” Ludwig says. “That is the message that men are sending when they successfully live alone.”
http://www.foxbusiness.com/features/201 ... te-me.htmlQuote:
Researchers have done this* and find that for men there is no amount of income that the woman in the bottom ten percent in terms of appearance can earn to make men prefer her over women in the top 10 percent. That is, looks really matter to men relative to income. For women though, if the man in the bottom ten percent in terms of looks earns more than $248,500, they will prefer him over the more attractive guy earning $60,000. My students often interpret this result as saying that women really care about money, but that is not what it says at all—$186,000 is a huge difference in income.
http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/do ... 1&type=pdfThis may result in some aspie men being left in the dust, as they can't compete with successful N.T. men and can't live up to the expectations of some women.
15 Sep 2016, 2:24 pm
