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Spiderpig wrote:
Then there's no point in judging them for that, unless you want to police everyone's thoughts.
I never said there was
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15 Oct 2016, 2:14 pm
Alliekit wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
mistersprinkles wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Well I don't think it is necessarily healthy to only view some races as attractive. I just don't think it is how attraction works...you'll be attracted to people regardless of race throughout life, perhaps you randomly see more attractive people from one race than another....but for someone to state I don't find (insert race) attractive simply because their race I think that is where the problem is.
Like if someone turned someone down for their race alone I'd think that is racist.
Like if someone turned someone down for their race alone I'd think that is racist.
That is so ridiculous. So I should go date a black woman, even though I find them extremely unattractive, because otherwise, I'm not being politically correct, right? Give me a break.
She doesn't mean it like that. I think Sweetleaf meant that if you turned down a person because of their race even if you find them attractive it could be racist because it's the only thing that bothers you
I'm with mistersprinkles on this one. There are many people of every race that I can agree are very attractive people, however, there are some races that I'm very attracted to and others I'm simply not.
Suggesting that people ought to somehow magically forcibly make themselves sexually attracted to all races equally is as ridiculous as me suggesting that a straight man ought to be attracted to me regardless of the fact that he's innately only attracted to females. Think about it.
Um you missed my point.
I didn't day you had to be attracted to every race
I said if you reject them for their race even when you find them attractive . I even said in a previous post you can't help who your attracted too
Um you missed my point.
Just because I can agree someone is an attractive person does not mean that I am sexually attracted to them. There are different types of attraction.
ie I might agree with someone that the 45yo 6'3" guy across the coffee shop is a great looking man in really good shape with a nice smile and hair etc etc - but I'm not sexually attracted to him because it's a huge sexual turnoff for me if someone is older than me or taller than me.
There are very attractive people everywhere that I'm not sexually attracted to. There are attractive older women, very good looking kids etc just because I'd agree someone is an attractive person with a nice build, nice facial symmetry, nice smile, well dressed/whatever doesn't mean that they turn me on and I have any sort of sexual attraction towards them.
Whether sex, age, height, race etc certain things turn certain people on and certain things don't it's really that simple & it's different for everyone. People who shout "that's racist!" (or ageist, body-ist, whatever.) need to just accept that not everyone is attracted to the same things they might. Suggesting people somehow force themselves to want to have sex with older, taller, different body types, races etc is absurd.
If you're someone who's equally attracted to overweight hairy bodied people as you are fit smooth bodied people, well, good for you - you have more options open to you.. but to suggest everyone ought to be like that or there's some sort of hate inside them is ridiculous.
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goldfish21 wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
mistersprinkles wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Well I don't think it is necessarily healthy to only view some races as attractive. I just don't think it is how attraction works...you'll be attracted to people regardless of race throughout life, perhaps you randomly see more attractive people from one race than another....but for someone to state I don't find (insert race) attractive simply because their race I think that is where the problem is.
Like if someone turned someone down for their race alone I'd think that is racist.
Like if someone turned someone down for their race alone I'd think that is racist.
That is so ridiculous. So I should go date a black woman, even though I find them extremely unattractive, because otherwise, I'm not being politically correct, right? Give me a break.
She doesn't mean it like that. I think Sweetleaf meant that if you turned down a person because of their race even if you find them attractive it could be racist because it's the only thing that bothers you
I'm with mistersprinkles on this one. There are many people of every race that I can agree are very attractive people, however, there are some races that I'm very attracted to and others I'm simply not.
Suggesting that people ought to somehow magically forcibly make themselves sexually attracted to all races equally is as ridiculous as me suggesting that a straight man ought to be attracted to me regardless of the fact that he's innately only attracted to females. Think about it.
Um you missed my point.
I didn't day you had to be attracted to every race
I said if you reject them for their race even when you find them attractive . I even said in a previous post you can't help who your attracted too
Um you missed my point.
Just because I can agree someone is an attractive person does not mean that I am sexually attracted to them. There are different types of attraction.
ie I might agree with someone that the 45yo 6'3" guy across the coffee shop is a great looking man in really good shape with a nice smile and hair etc etc - but I'm not sexually attracted to him because it's a huge sexual turnoff for me if someone is older than me or taller than me.
There are very attractive people everywhere that I'm not sexually attracted to. There are attractive older women, very good looking kids etc just because I'd agree someone is an attractive person with a nice build, nice facial symmetry, nice smile, well dressed/whatever doesn't mean that they turn me on and I have any sort of sexual attraction towards them.
Whether sex, age, height, race etc certain things turn certain people on and certain things don't it's really that simple & it's different for everyone. People who shout "that's racist!" (or ageist, body-ist, whatever.) need to just accept that not everyone is attracted to the same things they might. Suggesting people somehow force themselves to want to have sex with older, taller, different body types, races etc is absurd.
If you're someone who's equally attracted to overweight hairy bodied people as you are fit smooth bodied people, well, good for you - you have more options open to you.. but to suggest everyone ought to be like that or there's some sort of hate inside them is ridiculous.
Calm down a bit
. What I meant was attracted to them and still turn them down because you don't date that race.You can't help sexual attractions
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Good question, OP. I hope my opinion as a woman of color was helpful 
. Since most dating sites are predominately white, you can very easily find an alternative to Craigslist if you don't like the trend you are seeing on there.
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