Done Wasting Time I Quit Dating

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This was a bad week, full of attempts at connecting with people, of trying to build links and trying to date and trying to find SOMEONE, and nothing. I had several Tinder matches, yet none would respond to my messages. No luck on OKC. There was one woman with whom I had gone out with a couple of times, but she NEVER would never communicate with me, I was always messaging or calling her. She started making excuses why she couldn't hang out, and finally I sent her a message saying I was done wasting time on her, and she is going to have a lonely life.

I deleted my OKC, my twitter, and removed all their contacts from my phone, blocked them and deleted their messages from my phone. They're unpeople to me now.

I officially quit dating. I quit looking for love. I quit wasting time on people who aren't worth it. I hereby dedicate my life to work and achieving a lasting, postiive impact on the world through good, creative works. I will write, paint, continue to make my films. I will leave a legacy when all those silly stupid people to whom I offered my love are old and fat and have nothing to show for their lives but a house full of useless items and banal husband and a couple of shrill shrieking bloodsucking children.

I pledge my life to my art, and will here after NEVER waste a minute or a dollar on any other person for the sake of love. If someone wants to date me, THEY will have to ask, and THEY will have to make the effort, because I just don't care.

No more time wasted on worthless endeavors. No time wasted to phantom love, and ungrateful selfish greedy people.

let's start a Self-love movement

let's start a Self-love movement

If there was anything to love about me, I'd know it.

Conventinal dating might not work because it was made for NTs. A new type of dating and coupling tailored to Aspies might be a solution.

it would have to employ a type of communication that didn't rely so much on body language, and was more explicitly verbal.

In theory you'd expect dating sites to be good for aspies. Given written profiles and communication via text messaging.
In practice this dosn't appear to be the case.

Most people on dating sites are not AS. The sites were created with NTs in mind to achieve conventional results.

Finally, someone who admits being alone is one of the darkest hells.

Too many people try to say 'You've got to be happy on your own first'.

It's B.S. An effin' lie made up by most Normies (normie - someone with a normal amount of friendships and relationships). Most normies can enter another relationship within 6 months after a breakup, they don't know true loneliness. Few/no friends, no girlfriend, not a good relation with family.

A lot of normies who are 'happy' on their 'own' coincidentally have a group of 4-6 good friends, one long-term romantic relationship at least once every 2-4 years, and a supportive and caring family.

The reality is money doesn't really buy happiness, all the success in the world is nothing without true love, true friends and wonderful family to spend time with, support and always be there by your side and you for them.

It is one of the only purposes in life, to enjoy it with others and make it the best you possibly can and they for you before our time is up.

Personally I don't give one single damn about being a success.

I don't want to change the world at all. I don't want to be rich, famous, I don't even want to do what most normal people to and get the degree and have a successful career.

I seriously don't care.

Even most humanitarian efforts I find are completely pointless, we'll all just end up dead in the end anyway, but I can still find the value in volunteering for some paradoxically odd reason.

At least when you volunteer for a good cause it does help make the lives of other's better before they meet their fate.

But yeah. It's the people that matter to me. The people in my life, of which I have very few right now to none or we're too separated by distance for me to really see them and spend time with them.

There's already multiple studies that show love is the key to happiness for most people.

A 75 year comprehensive study (the Grant Study) of thousands of men revealed love is the key to happiness.

All forms of love, whether it be supportive friendships and family, etc.

http://www.businessinsider.com.au/rober ... ss-2015-12

Yeah, I know I'm only 17.

Well, I'm actually 18 next month.

For most of my childhood I had little to no good friends and very few acqauintances, very much a loner. Age 10 I met my best friend who i still talk to today.

In 6th and 7th grade we had a great time.

Then we both moved to different places come high school.

High school, 8th-11th grade was a long string of loneliness or brief friendships that came and went, but no true good friends were made. No girlfriend.

11th grade, met two good mates, but I ended up moving once again at the end of the year.

12th grade, new high school, fresh start, made no good friends all year. Ended the year on a high note with at least a girlfriend and chatting to another girl who dropped out and moved away a few months earlier.

Girlfriend dumped me not long after, and as usual I went back into my typical state of solitude.

I was use to solitude by now, but not like this - at least I had school to go to, now it's complete and total isolation, day-in day-out.

Also, I'm probably wired very similar to you regarding my need for an LTR.

FFS, I've always been a hopeless romantic.

You wrote: "It's B.S. An effin' lie made up by most Normies (normie - someone with a normal amount of friendships and relationships). Most normies can enter another relationship within 6 months after a breakup, they don't know true loneliness. Few/no friends, no girlfriend, not a good relation with family."

Totally agree. Although in my experience, many NTs tend to have a person (or two) in reserve they can fall back on in case they split up with their partner. That way they can seamlessly go from being split up to being in a relationship again in the blink of an eye.