Is Casual Sex more suitable for Aspie's?

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i would rather have sex with a giant teddy bear & giant stuffed tiger than with a random NT woman who isn't open to relationships or romance with aspies.it's the only kind of sex that every aspie like me is ever going to get.i'll be doing all of that real soon

The problem is it's really really easy to get in trouble doing casual sex.

How?

If you ask a girl out for sex, she might take it as sexual harassment.

Asking if someone is interested in a casual fling isn't sexual harassment.

Words/text that are rude or vulgar, maybe. Yeah. Obviously don't send a message that's rude/nasty or indicative in any way that you'd force yourself on them.

But asking "Would you be into meeting up for a bit of casual NSA fun sometime?" is not sexual harassment.

They're likely used to people asking that. Women I know who use online dating sites have said most of the messages they get are guys looking for sex, not dating or relationships. If they're not interested, they'll just say so or not reply.

But there are also personal ads/app profiles etc specifically looking for casual sex, so then it's just a matter of communicating whether you're compatible or not, exchanging pictures etc. Zero risk of harm or insult when both parties are clearly seeking the same thing. I acknowledge this is MUCH more common in my world (gay) than it is for heterosexual women, but it still exists. There are plenty of girls I know who would chat back and forth with a guy for a couple days or so and then decide they're up for a no strings attached good time with them if they're into each other and neither is looking for a relationship. It's just the nature of the modern day hookup culture, thanks to the internet and apps. It goes far beyond the gay community.. it's just that the gay community is that stereotype on steroids.

Well, even if that's true, I'm still stuck in a long term relationship I can't escape. Plus, my parents are catholics and don't want me to have pre-marital sex anyhow, yeah and I'm tired of hearing their excuses for why they don't think I can move out.

It is true.

Why are you stuck in a ltr you can't escape? That seems very odd to me. If you don't want to be in said relationship, end the relationship. Even marriages with children often end in divorce. You simply have to be decisive and say "This relationship isn't for me, I'm done with it and moving on with my life."

Whatever your parents religious beliefs are have nothing to do with your own beliefs & values. Sure, parents do their best to influence their children with good morals and ethics and all that, but you are not obligated to believe in their particular religious beliefs nor how they dictate your sex life. Your sex life, or lack of, is none of anyone's business but you and your partners. Pretty simple. If you don't believe in those particular religious beliefs and are otherwise morally/ethically/whatever a-okay with premarital sex, then by all means go ahead and do whatever you wish. It's none of your parents business if you're having sex or not having sex. You'd be under no obligation to tell them, even if they asked. It's BIZARRE that parents think it's their business at all what their adult children do, or don't do, in their sex lives. Their bodies are their bodies, yours is yours. Pretty simple, IMO.

I have no idea why they're opposed to you moving out so can't really comment on that. Sometimes, though, parents are better judges of our abilities than we are and they may truly be looking out for your best interests by having you live with them. Now, if it's solely that they wish to prevent you from having premarital sex, well that's an entirely different type of manipulation and control & if you have the financial means as well as ability to completely care for yourself on your own, by all means, just go rent a place and pack your belongings.

You won't believe my parents until you meet them.

Are you legally an adult? (over 18 in most places)

If so, and your parents don't have any sort of legal guardianship over you due to your mental health/IQ/emotional maturity level (some adults are incapacitated from being able to make adult decisions etc), then there is exactly sweet f**k all they can do about you having premarital sex or moving out of their home. These things are your decisions to make about your body, sex life, and living situation. Not theirs.