How can I stop liking someone I like?

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I can smell the wasted semen from here.

Ha ha. Just kidding.

Try to put them out of your mind? Or maybe imagine them as big ugly boilers with no teeth? That might work.

or we could listen to my advice.

None of the advice here is bad, but there's no guarantee that any of it will work.

One thing that I can say, at least for me,
is that alcohol does NOT work.

Oh yeah. Crawling into a bottle just to escape your pain is a frightfully bad idea - all you end up doing is wasting your money and developing a massive hangover the following day. As I discovered after a night spent drinking Jack Daniels in order to deaden my anguish.

It does add to the overall pain though,
which, although it can be done in better
ways, is sometimes just what is needed.

I would suggest jogging though.

still I don't see anything wrong with telling ere one of them, or at least the one you're more comfortable with about your feelings. Sides, keeping this to yourself is bad mojo all around.

that's very difficult, I currently am infatuated with one girl, i don't think i'll ever get over it, i can only hope that one day i will be cool enough to get her, or i'll have a lot of money, or i'll build a lot of muscle or something

so just ask her out Mike. what's the harm in doing so?

Yeah, thinking you're not 'cool' enough is a self-fulfilling prophesy. Anyway, by doing so you will get a definite answer and a conclusion to your inner struggle. Closure!

true, you will either get the girl or her rejection will provide closure. If the latter, remember that time heals all wounds (and wounds all heels). Though you might want to consider wooing her gradually first.

You'd think. I spent about half an hour curled up on the floor of my room this afternoon trying to make the pain go away, without much success.

Sorry to hear that, that type of pain is always the hardest. But time does help, I know from experience, and if you hadn't done it you'd reproach yourself and always wondering whether it could have gotten anywhere. The pain will get better, believe me.

Anyone have a tip to stop loving a girl in the girlfriend-fashion but still be able to love her as a really close friend?

I don't know what to say. Every time I connect with a girl, I feel like I'm in love. However, in my point of view, a relationship should be made slowly and steadily. Hitting it off right away or beginning a relationship too early may lead to problems in the future. I want love, but I know better than to make it happen. Instead, I wait for it!

To AdrianB: I have been in a situation like that and for me it just became resolved as time passed. Eventualy I found that there were things about her that annoyed me, and certain beliefs and view points she had that I wouldn't be able to ignore (we liked to argue alot), and that weren't compelling enough to make me change my views. In short I realized that we weren't as compatable as I had originaly thought. Through the course of our relationship we were still valued friends, but I genuinely no longer had any romantic feelings for her.

In short, try to see the whole picture and don't ignore the negatives, no person is perfect. I would also say that even after you understand a person flaws and all (everyone will have some things that annoys you even if the relationship does work out) and you still can't get over her, then you have to just give it time. I have had infatuations too, some that never materialized into anything at all. Time solves everything. This is the hard answer but I believe it to be true, so take it for what you will.