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23 Dec 2016, 7:17 pm

I'm really talking about making a "first impression" more than talking about what goes on once a relationship is underway.

Some women, in my opinion, don't mind seeing vulnerability in men; others, no matter how much they deny it, dislike seeing vulnerability in men.



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23 Dec 2016, 7:31 pm

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Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.


So people aren't worthwhile until they get into relationships? How does that work? If you have to be worthwhile to get into a relationship but the only way to be worthwhile is to already have a partner, how does anyone get a relationship?


I suppose it was a bit vague.

What I mean is, if a person who wants one hasn't had a real relationship by the age of 20 then it's a sign that something is horribly wrong. Most 30-year-olds are married, or at the very least have had lots of relationship experience.



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23 Dec 2016, 7:59 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
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Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.


So people aren't worthwhile until they get into relationships? How does that work? If you have to be worthwhile to get into a relationship but the only way to be worthwhile is to already have a partner, how does anyone get a relationship?


I suppose it was a bit vague.

What I mean is, if a person who wants one hasn't had a real relationship by the age of 20 then it's a sign that something is horribly wrong. Most 30-year-olds are married, or at the very least have had lots of relationship experience.


I like picking apart vague statements... 8)

What do you consider a real relationship? I am pretty sure most 20 year olds haven't already had a committed relationship and typically high-school couples don't end up actually working out. So do you just mean they've dated and had sex by that age? And people who are actually worth interacting with don't actually regard there being something 'horribly wrong' if your not super experienced in that area by the age of 20, shallow people might but I have certainly never heard anything like that from people I hang around.

Also what are these people some of you posters here want to fit in with?...why would you want to associate with super social hook-up culture crowd anyways? Plenty of people exist outside that culture and those are probably the ones people on the spectrum and even outlier NTs should focus on. Yes perhaps most women wouldn't like guys here, most males wouldn't like women here and there is nothing any of us can do about it, except look beyond most people rather than limiting yourself to that.


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23 Dec 2016, 8:40 pm

In reality, people who are 20 years old are just starting out in life.



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24 Dec 2016, 5:55 am

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Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.
That makes sense up to a point. The highly successful people I know in meatspace have stable relationships. They also have relationships starting at much younger ages (teenaged).

However, I also know guys who are unemployable bogans who get partners very easily as well (the guy I mentioned in my opening post is an unemployable bogan).

I get why girls like highly successful guys but why do some other girls like guys who have never had a job in their lives?


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24 Dec 2016, 5:58 am

It's so annoying that poor people see me as a snob but middle class people see me as a bogan.

I'm not unsophisticated enough to be a bogan but I'm not sophisticated enough to be middle class.

I feel like I'm trapped between two worlds :x


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24 Dec 2016, 6:09 am

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In reality, people who are 20 years old are just starting out in life.


thanks, mate.


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24 Dec 2016, 6:11 am

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In reality, people who are 20 years old are just starting out in life.
And yet my 16 year old cousin has had more jobs than me, studied more advanced classes than me, had longer relationships than me and travelled to more countries than me :(


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24 Dec 2016, 6:17 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.
That makes sense up to a point. The highly successful people I know in meatspace have stable relationships. They also have relationships starting at much younger ages (teenaged).

However, I also know guys who are unemployable bogans who get partners very easily as well (the guy I mentioned in my opening post is an unemployable bogan).

I get why girls like highly successful guys but why do some other girls like guys who have never had a job in their lives?


You're misunderstanding. Worthwhile isn't something based on financial situation. The point is, forever alone people have an "aura" if you will, of vileness. We're single because we don't deserve relationships. I can't pinpoint what I did to make me a freak, but I know I did it. People like us need to know our place, and you seem to be in denial.



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24 Dec 2016, 6:19 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
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Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.
That makes sense up to a point. The highly successful people I know in meatspace have stable relationships. They also have relationships starting at much younger ages (teenaged).

However, I also know guys who are unemployable bogans who get partners very easily as well (the guy I mentioned in my opening post is an unemployable bogan).

I get why girls like highly successful guys but why do some other girls like guys who have never had a job in their lives?
You're misunderstanding. Worthwhile isn't something based on financial situation. The point is, forever alone people have an "aura" if you will, of vileness. We're single because we don't deserve relationships. I can't pinpoint what I did to make me a freak, but I know I did it. People like us need to know our place, and you seem to be in denial.
Maybe you're right but I can't figure out what this aura is or how to mitigate it.


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24 Dec 2016, 6:20 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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In reality, people who are 20 years old are just starting out in life.
And yet my 16 year old cousin has had more jobs than me, studied more advanced classes than me, had longer relationships than me and travelled to more countries than me :(


I went to an associate's 21st birthday party a few months back. Every person there was currently in a relationship, most brought their partners with them. By the end of highschool, almost everybody had romantic and sexual experience, many of whom were in relationships that had already lasted several years and are still going to this day.



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24 Dec 2016, 6:21 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.
That makes sense up to a point. The highly successful people I know in meatspace have stable relationships. They also have relationships starting at much younger ages (teenaged).

However, I also know guys who are unemployable bogans who get partners very easily as well (the guy I mentioned in my opening post is an unemployable bogan).

I get why girls like highly successful guys but why do some other girls like guys who have never had a job in their lives?
You're misunderstanding. Worthwhile isn't something based on financial situation. The point is, forever alone people have an "aura" if you will, of vileness. We're single because we don't deserve relationships. I can't pinpoint what I did to make me a freak, but I know I did it. People like us need to know our place, and you seem to be in denial.
Maybe you're right but I can't figure out what this aura is or how to mitigate it.


If you're lucky and just a "late bloomer". But if you truly are a monster, you can never, ever, fix it.



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24 Dec 2016, 6:25 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
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In reality, people who are 20 years old are just starting out in life.
And yet my 16 year old cousin has had more jobs than me, studied more advanced classes than me, had longer relationships than me and travelled to more countries than me :(
I went to an associate's 21st birthday party a few months back. Every person there was currently in a relationship, most brought their partners with them. By the end of highschool, almost everybody had romantic and sexual experience, many of whom were in relationships that had already lasted several years and are still going to this day.
By the end of high school? Yeah. I once had a girl say she lost her virginity at 16 and then berated me for not doing the same (that was before I lost my virginity this year).

Maybe I could have had the high school dating experience too. Back then a few girls asked me out and I got nervous and panicked and refused to accept their offer.

That was one of the stupidest mistakes in the history of the universe. I think for any other red blooded teenaged boy, if a girl asked him out he'd get quite excited and answer with a wholehearted "YES!"

Girls talk to each other, I got think maybe I got a bad reputation among the girls at school. I missed out on that time to get dating experience and when I started dating again at 25 I was sorely inexperienced.

If only I hadn't gotten nervous when those girls asked me out back in school :x

Because of that, now even when I have a girlfriend I still feel ashamed because I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 27 and that shameful fact about me is never going to change :(

It's like I can never have a normal life where I do things at a normal age.


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24 Dec 2016, 6:26 am

Sabreclaw i think you are very rude. Calling people freaks and saying if your a monster he won't ever find a gf and some people are worthless to ever find a gf.

No one on this planet except really evil people are worthless.

What you are saying the reason me or the OP haven't found a partner yet is that we are worthless/freaks, that is a horrible thing to say. You should be supportive



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24 Dec 2016, 6:29 am

Sometimes I think I am worthless. Other people are doing much better in life than me.


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24 Dec 2016, 6:37 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
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Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.
That makes sense up to a point. The highly successful people I know in meatspace have stable relationships. They also have relationships starting at much younger ages (teenaged).

However, I also know guys who are unemployable bogans who get partners very easily as well (the guy I mentioned in my opening post is an unemployable bogan).

I get why girls like highly successful guys but why do some other girls like guys who have never had a job in their lives?
You're misunderstanding. Worthwhile isn't something based on financial situation. The point is, forever alone people have an "aura" if you will, of vileness. We're single because we don't deserve relationships. I can't pinpoint what I did to make me a freak, but I know I did it. People like us need to know our place, and you seem to be in denial.
Maybe you're right but I can't figure out what this aura is or how to mitigate it.
If you're lucky and just a "late bloomer". But if you truly are a monster, you can never, ever, fix it.
But I hate being a late bloomer. Doing stuff 5 or 10 years later than other people fills me with shame and dread.

I hate seeing people who are 5 or 10 years younger than me doing stuff I haven't got up to yet. I hate it when people 5 or 10 years younger than me are more advanced than me and more mature than me. It makes me feel like a I'm a lazy ret*d.


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