Why am I a "creeper" for trying to meet young women?

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I didn't even know you were Jewish.I also would want to gain benefit from the yoga itself if it turns out to be beneficial for me. Especially if it helps treat my lack of physical fitnesses and/or my depression.

But yes, I can understand how hobbyists would be offended to hear I'm not practicing their hobby out of interest for the hobby itself.

The trouble is, again and again I hear people tell me if I want get a girlfriend, I have to join a club or a group but it seems those people are suggesting I join a club or a group mainly for the sake of meeting women, not out of interest for the club or group itself.

What are MOOS?

I thought that pilates video was really funny btw.

When people are telling you to do something social to meet someone it isn't exactly that at face value. There is often a lot more meaning behind a person's statement than just the statement itself. Now the average person doesn't have the time or energy to explain exactly what they mean, which can be confusing. Don't focus too much on this statement. Turn your attention instead to finding a sociable activity that you will enjoy. Do it for yourself and in time you may meet a woman in the course of that activity (disclaimer, you also may not, it's not guaranteed, but if you don't, then at least you have an enjoyable hobby and maybe some new friends).

I don't need to tell you I take things literally. Sure I can/do have hobbies that I do for myself but I can only have a few of those at a time. I'm not an energetic person.

I enjoy my small kung group but the youngest woman there is in her forties. It's like that with a lot of the groups I join. There are either no eligible women or there are but they're not into me. I really don't want to join the type of group that attracts mostly guys or attracts mostly people outside of my age range.

I think I would enjoy yoga but then again I'd probably enjoy it for the wrong reasons. Especially if it's mostly girls there. Especially if the girls look like this.

Ah see, now you know what I mean. That image illustrates it all.

I'll tell you something that helped my cousin meet people when she moved to a new area, but she's an outgoing NT, so this may not be suitable. She joined Tinder and used the social part of the service. It worked for her and she went out on interesting trips and had fun and met people she wouldn't have met otherwise. Not sure that's the kind of thing us aspies would enjoy, but I think that's what other youngish folks are doing. Hanging out in more "fun" places than the kinds of places we find fun. Again Catch 22.

Yes I have a female Friend trying to.make new friends from to Tinder.

Social part?,what social part?

And fun places?

Wtf is a fun place supposed to be?

Oh, there's a social part of Tinder. Just like how OKCupid has a social part. The social part is where girls just want to chat and then act offended when you mention going out how with them.

How dare I bring up dating on a dating app!
/sarcasm

They act like it's a chatting app or a making friends app.

Some of them can be pretty snobby about it too. See here and here.

Yeah, that's why I'd like to meet a girl at yoga or dancing. I'm also thinking about taking up paddle boarding for the same reason.

I'd love to meet girls at yoga because yoga has girls who look like this





Whereas most of the girls I've dated from OKcupid look like this



Sorry if I sound shallow but I'm really not attracted to that type of girl.

I want a girl who can walk with me along the beach or through the botanic gardens without suffering joint pains.

That's why I want to meet girls at some sort of physical group activity such as yoga or dancing or paddleboarding.

I can help with this. I don't know if you've read any of my threads here when I was trying out on-line dating on OKCupid. What you have to do to make her feel safe is always meet in a public place like a coffee shop or a place where you get lunch, and then always make arrangements so that you both have your own way back home and never rely on a date for a lift. The idea is that if you meet somewhere public then nothing can really happen to her without other people noticing, so it's safer. If she tells you that she feels unsafe meeting then just reply saying that you'll meet in a mall or coffee shop or simply tell her that she choose where to meet up, so there's nothing to worry about.

I've managed to organise a few dates by doing that and even made some friends with some women that I met on OKCupid.

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Yeah my family had a discuss about this. Why was she using tinder if not for dating? But it does have a group hangout feature.

Dunno about other sites, but you're being b&w again. Just because it started as a dating site/app doesn't mean that it stays that way. Websites and apps evolve and can offer other features

Those photos are what stock photo models look like. All types of women go to yoga.

Double standards.

How can I join the club for stock photo models?

The girls of the yoga and oriental belly dancing classes in my gym (they are visibile because sometimes they do classes in the glass room next to the cardio room).

They aren't all models but none is overweight; they all look fit.

Now imagine a guy joining a belly dance class....

I must join one of these classes.

Are there less fat people in Lebanon compared to western countries?

^ It is filtered due to self-consciousness I guess ; I don't think most overweight girls would feel comfortable to join such classes, it is too exposing for any extra weight; especially if the class is dominated by fit regular attendees.

In regular aerobic classes you find all shapes.