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18 Apr 2017, 3:01 pm

While it may be very annoying sometimes: In my experience; if the lady doesn't communicate constantly/daily with me and doesn't bombard me with texting then she's never into me.

Clinginess is the only consistent sign of interest so far.

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18 Apr 2017, 3:09 pm

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I would feel like I was stooping quiet low to bother a man that much. It feels cringey and I feel like it would annoy him.

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18 Apr 2017, 3:55 pm

hurtloam wrote:

I understand what Sabreclaw is saying. If you text a few times and she doesn't bother texting back then that means she' probably not interested. Same for guys. If I text a guy and he never texts me I stop bothering because he's obviously not interested.

That's not emotional blackmail, that's just facing facts.

Although, I don't think this is the same case as what the OP is talking about. She's getting bombarded with texts it seems. A reasonable person will understand that she can't chat at work and at certain other times and will be patient and wait until it's convenient.

But if someone leaves it days before replying or they never reply, they are absolutely not into you

That I do agree with. My working theory is people will get back to you when they get back to you. I'm not going to tell a woman, "hey, I'm not going to text you anymore because you're just too busy" to guilt her into responding. The way I see it, after I call/leave message or text, the ball is in her court and she can do what she wants with that. If I've moved on and she FINALLY gets back to me, I'd be, like, "dang! I wish I'd heard back from you two days ago!" But the OP is not dealing with a nice person.

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18 Apr 2017, 4:28 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

This is true. But it has to go both ways and not be too much or too little either - there is a fine line. I also don't like the word "clingy" or "needy" - how about "interested" or "into" or "digs"?

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18 Apr 2017, 5:26 pm

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I would feel like I was stooping quiet low to bother a man that much. It feels cringey and I feel like it would annoy him.

I highly doubt that I ever had any low-profile secret admirers.

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19 Apr 2017, 12:35 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I would feel like I was stooping quiet low to bother a man that much. It feels cringey and I feel like it would annoy him.

I highly doubt that I ever had any low-profile secret admirers.

But do do you like their persistence or do you find it pathetic and irritating?

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19 Apr 2017, 2:45 am

If this person is into you, he won't be irritated.

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19 Apr 2017, 3:39 pm

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If this person is into you, he won't be irritated.

Yeah, but you don't know that. For all I know, my texts are irritating and I'm being ghosted. I always get ghosted. So what's the point trying anymore.

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19 Apr 2017, 4:18 pm

hurtloam wrote:

314pe wrote:

If this person is into you, he won't be irritated.

Yeah, but you don't know that. For all I know, my texts are irritating and I'm being ghosted. I always get ghosted. So what's the point trying anymore.

Damn! That sounds pretty depressing. Hope you have a better time finding an understanding partner in the future.

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19 Apr 2017, 4:53 pm

Had a period of time when my friend was out of contact for several days . . . He was doing his "thing" which is cool but in 2yrs hadn't had so long without contact. Recently he had stopped sending goodnight texts because I had failed to reply twice. . . .. . . However when he realised I felt uncared for he immediately agreed to start goodnight texts.
Guess it's all about compromise and what works between two humans to have what you each need

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19 Apr 2017, 4:56 pm

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I would feel like I was stooping quiet low to bother a man that much. It feels cringey and I feel like it would annoy him.

I highly doubt that I ever had any low-profile secret admirers.

But do do you like their persistence or do you find it pathetic and irritating?

Their persistence in what?

I would certainly prefer a persistent one over someone who doesn't even give a hint.

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19 Apr 2017, 5:01 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I would feel like I was stooping quiet low to bother a man that much. It feels cringey and I feel like it would annoy him.

I highly doubt that I ever had any low-profile secret admirers.

But do do you like their persistence or do you find it pathetic and irritating?

Their persistence in what?

I would certainly prefer a persistent one over someone who doesn't even give a hint.

Their persistence in texting (the clue is in the title of the thread)

Doesn't it seem pathetic that someone keeps on and on and on and on everyday? Even when you don't respond. Especially when you think she's about as attractive as a potato?

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20 Apr 2017, 2:10 am

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I would feel like I was stooping quiet low to bother a man that much. It feels cringey and I feel like it would annoy him.

I highly doubt that I ever had any low-profile secret admirers.

But do do you like their persistence or do you find it pathetic and irritating?

Their persistence in what?

I would certainly prefer a persistent one over someone who doesn't even give a hint.

I always respond; even if I don't like the person; because acknowledging someone's existence is the most basic form of respect to the other. If I don't respond it means there's something bigger to hate her that much.
Even for this crazy girl above who typed my name like 200 times (which is the funny exception) while i was asleep, I did respond to her when I woke up and saw them.

But someone who daily texts me to check how i am...? Honestly, I would feel flattered even if I am not attracted to her.

What about you?

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20 Apr 2017, 5:48 am

Yes I would like it. Unfortunately not all men are as polite as you and I don't get a text back.

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30 Apr 2017, 12:03 am

I would tell them that I cant really text while at work but I'll text when I get home.

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