Stopping Yourself from Having a Crush

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LePetitPrince
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30 May 2007, 5:10 am

in 99% of cases Crush usually means = One-sided secret love ... so it sucks big time , and the last one ended miserably .

I stopped with the crush thing now and I am sure that I wouldn't have crush anytime soon .

How? it's a matter of sate of mind , if you convince yourself to not have a crush then you would simply not have it .

From now on I will try with girls who only likes me in return ( and to be 101% sure of that first) and if this won't happen then it's ok, I can live single ....but no more crushes. anymore .

Yea I know , I lost a part of my humanity .



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30 May 2007, 5:44 am

LePetitPrince wrote:
Yea I know , I lost a part of my humanity .

Exactly crushes are normal. Don't damage yourself so you have no feeling.



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30 May 2007, 6:38 am

I would never allow me to fall in love head over heels.
When looking for a girlfriend i carefully study my chances with someone.
I never let myself like someone who is out of my league alot.
Why not save yourself the dissapointment.
I wil only really allow myself to like someone after i've successfully made them like me.
It may sound cold hearted but it works for me.



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30 May 2007, 11:29 am

^^ this is my strategy exactly



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30 May 2007, 3:35 pm

calandale wrote:
You WANT to prevent yourself from
falling for people? That's like trying
to give up food. Might be worthwhile,
but it's giving up your humanity.


And that's a bad thing? My humanity is broken in about ten places anyway, so it'd be no big loss.

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But if brooding means depressed... why, I don't think anybody is meant to be permanently depressed.


Heh. These days I brood so much you might as well throw me a cape and a mask and start calling me Batman...


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31 May 2007, 9:46 pm

Bart21 wrote:
I would never allow me to fall in love head over heels.
When looking for a girlfriend i carefully study my chances with someone.
I never let myself like someone who is out of my league a lot.
Why not save yourself the disappointment.
I will only really allow myself to like someone after I've successfully made them like me.
It may sound cold hearted but it works for me.

That's exactly how I do it. My friends think of me as too cold and calculating, but I'm the only one from my group of friends who never has his heart broken. Even when I'm entering a blissfully romantic relationship, I'm fully prepared for the possibility of losing the girl at any moment.



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01 Jun 2007, 7:47 pm

I've had this stupid friggen' crush for a long while now. It sucks. Big time. So, I'm trying to find a new hobby to get over that person. I have a lot of hobbies.

My problem with relationships in general is that I either bore of them quickly or I find some way to scare them away (telling them I'm autistic is a great test).

I like being alone, but most certaintly don't want to die alone. It's weird.

Relationships are just so CONFUSING. I once tried to figure out love, but gave up - it neither incorporated logic nor sense.



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05 Jun 2007, 7:39 pm

I usually convince myself that it's a pointless thing so it never lasts long :D
I think it's a good stratagy :P it works