Experiment: wealthy plain guy w/Ferrari vs. poor barmen
The_Face_of_Boo
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Yep, I can imagine that's at least ONE of the reasons why women are so often called "too emotional"----and, I agree with that (that alot of us women can be too emotional). I've often wished I could be a person who doesn't put alot of analysis into things / people----but alas, I've never learned how.
It's not about being too emotional, it's about being judgemental.
Yes, but I feel that goes hand-in-hand----if we weren't too emotional (and, I'm including myself, in this), I'm thinking we wouldn't be so judgmental.
Then....evolve to more reasonable creatures.
I mean seriously, you see a photo of a man without any text and you go by.... "Oh his haircust is like this then he must be a loser, oh his jacket is of GS brand then he must be insecure...".
The judgemenality based on unrelated tiny things is so unbelievable.
Would you like that us men judge you women based on tiny things in appearance.
"Oh she dyed her hair blonde, then she must be insecure and stupid"
"Oh she is wearing a short skirt then she must be an attention whore".
Would you like us to be like that eh? I bet it will make your blood boils.
Live and let live.
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I mean seriously, you see a photo of a man without any text and you go by.... "Oh his haircust is like this then he must be a loser, oh his jacket is of GS brand then he must be insecure...".
The judgemenality based on unrelated tiny things is so unbelievable.
Would you like that us men judge you women based on tiny things in appearance.
"Oh she dyed her hair blonde, then she must be insecure and stupid"
"Oh she is wearing a short skirt then she must be an attention whore".
Would you like us to be like that eh? I bet it will make your blood boils.
Live and let live.
I know----and, I agree----and, I'm workin' on myself----but, here's the thing.....
I'm only one person----meaning, both, if I get a handle on being so emotional, that's not even a drop in the bucket; and, how does one person get through to other women, to stop being so emotional / shallow / whatever? There's no WAY, a woman my age can get anything through to a young person----and, unfortunately, I can understand that, cuz I was young, once, and I wanted to figure everything out, for myself, as well.
The one thing I've thought alot about, in the last few years, is that there's still too much of this "Guys are so stupid", mentality----and, that's really getting on my nerves!! I really feel for you guys----cuz, like, in this country, guys were told "Don't open the door, for me----I can do it, MYSELF!!"; and, to males who had been taught that, all of their lives, that was really difficult, to stop. Then, females started complaining that males were NOT holding the door for them----so, that left the males, scratching their heads. This day-and-age has got women, actually, out-and-out OPPRESSING males, IMO, and it makes me SOOOOO angry----so, what I've started doin', is callin' them on it (meaning, when a woman does something that's degrading to her male partner, I TELL her); so, that's how I've decided to try and change things----but, again, I'm only one person.
This site is a perfect example, IMO, of a small "snapshot" of how women are, in general, these days----and, look how many femi-nazis come-through, here. Some wanting to play the victim, some wanting to "smack-down" men, every chance they get, for the SMALLEST of things..... SURE, fight for equal pay, for equal work----but, do ya have to make someone ELSE feel like dookey, in the process? IDK, it's, like, human nature, I guess, to over-correct (meaning, instead of doing a 90-degree turn, and having open / frank / mature conversations about wanting to feel EQUAL, they (some, NOT all) did a 1-80, and seemed to be saying "You've put US down, all-these-years----now, we're gonna put YOU down; see how you like THAT!!", and it's utterly ridiculous, and can, actually, be down-right ABUSIVE, at times----and I'm quite SICK OF IT, so I do what I can (on here, and in-person) to give people another angle, from which to think, but....
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You got to document this, seeing the messages you got would certainly be a great read. Until then, I feel like your just venting and are full of it.
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"The less I know about other people's affairs, the happier I am. I'm not interested in caring about people. I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. The best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes."
So many variables in a dating profile make a women interested or not. I see a lot of "nice guys" around who get mad when they don't get results online. Like why won't you date me! I see you are dating that man is it because of his car?
This is not the right way to go about it. Remember most men regardless of looks, education or being autistic or no get few replies on a dating site. The whole system is depending on there being plenty of women to pick from this brings the men. Same idea as to why there are ladies drink free nights at bars. This means women get lots of messages so don't take it personal. Women do not owe you anything and when you pressure them because you are "nice" you are never going to get anywhere.
As equal as society might be getting now men still have to do most of the romantic chasing. If you really want to get the kind of women who only care about the Ferrari sure you can but in my opinion those women are not worth your time anyway.
The guy with the Ferrari isn't even bad looking yet he had little success with a fake online dating profile I created. I put him as 26, 5ft8, slim build and University Educated, Ferrari owner, earning good pay, travelled the world etc. Lots of interesting hobbies, tennis player and a good written profile.
Messages sent to women: 109.
Replies: 3 (all flaked even though I was polite and interesting in replies)
Women who contacted him first him over 8 weeks: 2 (both obese/unattractive women and were lower class)
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Then I created this guy. A 23yo good-looking barmen with just a high school education (left school at 16). 6'1, average build, autistic, smoker, lives with his mommie, poorly written profile. Hobbies were just rugby, gym and "going out with my mates". And no... he wasn't attracting "whitetrash" or ratchet females. The majority were attractive-enough to very attractive, college or university-educated women of predominantly middle class. Even a very attractive 28yo uppercrust businesswoman was getting quite pushy for a date and asking why I was "ignoring her".
Messages sent to women: 55.
Replies: 51
Women who contacted him first him over 8 weeks: 264
Both men and women are shallow when it comes to online dating. It's rare that I come across a man who is willing to date a woman his age or older. Also, if you are disappointed by obese or "ugly" women, you are not the exception among men. Meanwhile, if I check "just a few extra pounds" for my acceptable criteria for men, on online dating sites, I get men who think that means 40lbs overweight, but who want "athletic and fit" women themselves.
People approach online dating like window shopping for cars, and why wouldn't they? In real life interactions, there is a dimension that conveys vital information, such as phermones, non-verbal body language/personality and interpersonal dynamics, all very important to human attraction, and online, that isn't there so the person defaults to more superficial things.
In real life, a woman might very well find the guy in the Ferrari more attractive than the bar tender, even without the Ferrari. I've come across a number of guys who look nice in photos but in person just have a very unattractive element about them and guys who I thought were absolutely ugly in photos but who I found attractive in person.
Online dating, in my opinion, is a waste of time for most people.
Look around you at all of the average looking, sometimes unattractive looking, middle class and working class married men. That is reality. Not the fanciful world of online dating.
Few people here are inhibited socially by their looks or the fact that they are not millionaires. They are inhibited socially by the fact that they have an ASD.
Here you go:
By the way I had this Ferrari guy at 5'8, 150lbs, yet this 5'4 girl claimed he was "half her size". She looked 120lbs maximum. Can women explain why they think a guy 4 inches taller than them and 30lbs heavier is "half their size"?
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"I want a guy who can kick someone's ass"... How f*****g primitive. I hate people like her, who have no respect for violence. How about being a civilized person so you won't ever have to fight, real life is not a video game. In a real street fight, it's actually possible for a guy to get his head bounced of the pavement and die, or at the very least suffer permanent brain damage.. I've seen one of my friends suffer damage in a fight he never recovered from.
I dated a girl once who wanted me to get into a fight for her... I suspect because I worked out alot at the time, and I had fairly big arms and chest, she pretty much expected me to do so. It pissed me off so much that I never talked to her again, I walked away right at that moment. I have no reason to fight other men. And especially not because some dumb chick thinks it's hot.
I wonder if she didn't mind if it was actually her ass... But I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't, because "it's what men do".
To me she seems just a redneck jerk female looking for a redneck jerk male to produce new little redneck jerks.
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Sometime World, I love these s**ts...update us with more!
Closet genius, you may like this s**t experiment here: viewtopic.php?f=17&t=286702
I dated a girl once who wanted me to get into a fight for her... I suspect because I worked out alot at the time, and I had fairly big arms and chest, she pretty much expected me to do so. It pissed me off so much that I never talked to her again, I walked away right at that moment. I have no reason to fight other men. And especially not because some dumb chick thinks it's hot.
Tell me about it. I was passed up as a teen and early-mid -something for being light built (136lbs at 21) and medium-short in height (5'9), as well as extreme baby faced. I forgotten how many times in total but it was at least 10 girls. They simply think your a milksop, gay, numpty and they want the masculine Jocks. These women will put skinny/smaller guys into situations to test your courage or metal, or to humiliate you, which they simply don't do to big Jock guys. It's that element of doubt these women have about small men but not big men that turns me off them.
Stone age women who want primitive bully bodyguards have to be the worst. They all have a similar personality type I find as well - paranoiac ("so many guys want me I need protecting, I need protecting!"), schizotypy, NPD.
Women that treat people like dirt and fear repercussions also scream the need for a primitive brute by their side I find. This only reinforces that they can get away with bad behaviour, or that they're never in the wrong.
They also tend to be heightist to the extreme. They think by virtue of a few inches, a 6'2 man can kill a 5'8 guy with one hand. Is it these primitive baboon women that create intra-male violence? I think so.
Will women ever evolve from a monkey?
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Life had kept him waiting, regretting his pain inside. Had to feel underrated, and hated, besides. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kvLVSPPLZZY
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I have screenshots from dating site conversations with women dating back to 2006/7. I did so so many online dating experiments for about 10 years. Its made me understand women better.
There mostly on CD somewhere. They would fill half a mile.
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Life had kept him waiting, regretting his pain inside. Had to feel underrated, and hated, besides. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kvLVSPPLZZY
You could really save this to yourself. This general, whole sex-directed insult spoiled all your post
You may not realize when you start insulting people you claim you try to "understand"? But when you do, you end up with the worst. Self-fulfilling prophecy.
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You could really save this to yourself. This general, whole sex-directed insult spoiled all your post
You may not realize when you start insulting people you claim you try to "understand"? But when you do, you end up with the worst. Self-fulfilling prophecy.
I'm talking about women that want vicious brutes. Not talking about all women.
I should of put "primitive women" instead of "women".
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Life had kept him waiting, regretting his pain inside. Had to feel underrated, and hated, besides. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kvLVSPPLZZY
Thank you for clarification.
I'm glad it's that way because what you originally wrote was really nasty. If I acted by emotions, I would start a fight at that place.
Just a friendly warning: Most people do act by emotions. All genders.
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