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ZachGoodwin
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05 Dec 2017, 8:02 pm

TheSpectrum wrote:
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First of all, stop writing you as yiu.


Second of all don 't let The_Face_of_Boo be your commander and chief and captain of your life.

At this point I'm of the belief we're all blind and leading the blind.
:lol:


Yeah we are!



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05 Dec 2017, 8:08 pm

One of us may accidentally find the door though...



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05 Dec 2017, 9:59 pm

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05 Dec 2017, 10:37 pm

My quick reaction is.. sly, you're not selling yourself very well. Dating sites are about personal marketing. Your title & description are negative and project a lack of confidence and abundance of depression - qualities that aren't generally considered attractive. It's not overly challenging to put a positive spin on the truth, or even tell a little white lie to explain something you feel needs explaining.

Instead of saying you take the bus so that makes you lesser than ___ in whatever way, you could say you choose to take public transit because it's better for the environment. IF you even list how you get around in the first place - you're not obligated to, so why not just omit it if you think that it gets you judged unfairly? Leave it out and maybe you'll get more, and better, responses.. and then you can justify your bus riding with the environmentalist spin when having a conversation about it, IF it even comes up.

Instead of saying you work retail and therefor don't have your life together, you could say you live a life free from the distractions of pursuing the almighty dollar and materialism and really enjoy your part time work that allows you the free time to get outdoors and enjoy the Sun, sounds, and scents of nature as you explore local hiking trails.

Dating site profiles are meant to make people sound wonderful, attractive, appealing and all those other adjectives. I bet ya $ I don't have that the vast majority of women's profiles that you read make them and their lives sound better than they actually are. That's the very nature of dating sites.. little white lies and embellishments that attract others.


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06 Dec 2017, 12:56 am

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My quick reaction is.. sly, you're not selling yourself very well. Dating sites are about personal marketing. Your title & description are negative and project a lack of confidence and abundance of depression - qualities that aren't generally considered attractive. It's not overly challenging to put a positive spin on the truth, or even tell a little white lie to explain something you feel needs explaining.

Instead of saying you take the bus so that makes you lesser than ___ in whatever way, you could say you choose to take public transit because it's better for the environment. IF you even list how you get around in the first place - you're not obligated to, so why not just omit it if you think that it gets you judged unfairly? Leave it out and maybe you'll get more, and better, responses.. and then you can justify your bus riding with the environmentalist spin when having a conversation about it, IF it even comes up.

Instead of saying you work retail and therefor don't have your life together, you could say you live a life free from the distractions of pursuing the almighty dollar and materialism and really enjoy your part time work that allows you the free time to get outdoors and enjoy the Sun, sounds, and scents of nature as you explore local hiking trails.

Dating site profiles are meant to make people sound wonderful, attractive, appealing and all those other adjectives. I bet ya $ I don't have that the vast majority of women's profiles that you read make them and their lives sound better than they actually are. That's the very nature of dating sites.. little white lies and embellishments that attract others.


But that’s a lie and once or if they meet up it’s a very clearly and easily found out lie. Someone who cares about the environment doesn’t use a a/c or plastic stuff. I use a a/c year round and have tons of plastic stuff.

As I pointed out they message me we talk for weeks or a month then they ask about my job and car status and that’s the end of that happens every single time. I want to avoid that it hurts me a lot to talk to someone intimately for so long just to be blocked and ignored. So if they never going want to date me then I’d prefer to never get messages by them.
I bet you’d all encourage me to seek out fat women since I’m not thin and so have no shot with thin women. I’m a loser so I need to find a loser woman who do I do that? Talking myself up only attracts successful women who want nothing to do with me and wouldn’t talk to me if they know my job status or how I look from the get go.

Since there’s no dating site for loser unambitious, no confidence people this is the only way they could think of.
I’ve had probably a hundred fake ads like you want me to do posted on Craigslist and Not had a single result so why not try something else. Better to try one last thing then just giv My up completely and thinking of ways to die.

Nothing else has worked . I’ve had people edit my ads and even write ads for me and no results. It dates no girlfriend. My only chance is to find a unemployed loser woman.
Will talking myself up attract them to message me or will they just be like that guys probably too good for me and go nope in their room? That’s what I do to 99% of women’s ads and dating site profiles.



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06 Dec 2017, 2:52 am

Just because someone uses a/c or owns plastic items doesn't meant they don't care about the environment.

And newsflash: Almost everyone lies in some way or another. There are many socially acceptable, and socially EXPECTED, lies. It's all a part of the BS social games people play in life, work, and play.

So then don't talk yourself up & describe yourself as significantly better and happier than you are.. but you're not doing yourself any favours describing yourself as a loser. Just state that you're a regular guy with a regular retail job, a few interests and hobbies etc - leave out the negativity; it's unattractive.


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06 Dec 2017, 4:52 am

ZachGoodwin wrote:
TheSpectrum wrote:
ZachGoodwin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
First of all, stop writing you as yiu.


Second of all don 't let The_Face_of_Boo be your commander and chief and captain of your life.

At this point I'm of the belief we're all blind and leading the blind.
:lol:


Yeah we are!



I am a "blind" with a girlfriend and with fair past experience in getting flings/fwbs.

*major silence in the hall - crickets sounds in the background.*



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06 Dec 2017, 6:40 am

If you want to date someone at least 18, then do it. Why do you give a crap about what people here think? It’s not illegal.



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06 Dec 2017, 7:06 am

It seems like you’re making obstacles for yourself that don’t need to be there. I can now see why it’s not working for you. If you’re willing to let someone on wp who you’ve never even met make you not message 19 year olds, then you’ll never get anywhere.

Stop looking for gratification from some random internet person and focus on what you want.



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06 Dec 2017, 7:11 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ZachGoodwin wrote:
TheSpectrum wrote:
ZachGoodwin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
First of all, stop writing you as yiu.


Second of all don 't let The_Face_of_Boo be your commander and chief and captain of your life.

At this point I'm of the belief we're all blind and leading the blind.
:lol:


Yeah we are!



I am a "blind" with a girlfriend and with fair past experience in getting flings/fwbs.

*major silence in the hall - crickets sounds in the background.*

Then why are you here?


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06 Dec 2017, 7:15 am

TheSpectrum wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ZachGoodwin wrote:
TheSpectrum wrote:
ZachGoodwin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
First of all, stop writing you as yiu.


Second of all don 't let The_Face_of_Boo be your commander and chief and captain of your life.

At this point I'm of the belief we're all blind and leading the blind.
:lol:


Yeah we are!



I am a "blind" with a girlfriend and with fair past experience in getting flings/fwbs.

*major silence in the hall - crickets sounds in the background.*

Then why are you here?


To troll hale_bopp.



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06 Dec 2017, 7:34 am

elbowgrease wrote:
One of us may accidentally find the door though...


Just my 2 cents if you don't mind.

I just wanted to say that it's surprising you're single mate.

If that's you in the picture you're pretty good looking so (no offense) your issues with dating are in my humble opinion more likely to be of a social or environmental (e.g. location, etc.) factor than physical looks.



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06 Dec 2017, 8:27 am

I know a guy with the looks of a "junkyard dog" who has multiple marriages and kids. Too much drugs and alcohol as a young man. 2nd shortest guy in his class. Drove the cheapest car on the road. He enthusiastically hit on women ignored by other men. He didn't drink anymore, but would show up as bars would close and ask the ugliest woman there.... He presented ugly women the option of leaving alone or leaving with an enthusiastic partner.



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06 Dec 2017, 9:27 am

When I said "same place," I didn't mean that literally. I didn't mean you should move out of your town.

I meant....in terms of your notions about yourself. You can't stay in the "same place" forever. Because you don't deserve to, Sly.



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06 Dec 2017, 9:29 am

Sometimes, the "ugliest" women turn out to be the most "beautiful" women.

The only thing I hate in women, really, is for her to have fetid breath and a fetid scent.

I'd pick the Beast who smells good over a model who has bad breath.



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06 Dec 2017, 9:52 am

Do you really want a women who spends an hour a day putting on makeup and fussing with her hair?