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31 Oct 2017, 9:09 am

What this woman said is spot on.

So creep territory = I think you are ugly.



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31 Oct 2017, 10:42 am

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I've known a couple of others on the spectrum who were also nonbinary or identified as both male and female, so it'd be interesting if that's more common for autistic people than for Neurotypicals. Maybe someone will do a study on it someday. :)

It interests me too. I've heard there are more non-straight and/or non-cis people on the spectrum. It would be good to see some actual facts about it though. It's nice to meet someone who doesn't have a negative opinion about it! :)

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What this woman said is spot on.

So creep territory = I think you are ugly.

And that's so unfair. If a bloke I wasn't interested in tried to chat me up I'd make every effort to prevent him from feeling bad about it not try to make him feel more awkward. Some guy came on to me a while ago and I told him I was flattered but engaged. He kept following me round, grabbing hold of me and telling me that I want him really. That's a creep, most blokes aren't. These women need to get some perspective.


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31 Oct 2017, 10:54 am

OutsideView wrote:
MarissaKay wrote:
I've known a couple of others on the spectrum who were also nonbinary or identified as both male and female, so it'd be interesting if that's more common for autistic people than for Neurotypicals. Maybe someone will do a study on it someday. :)

It interests me too. I've heard there are more non-straight and/or non-cis people on the spectrum. It would be good to see some actual facts about it though. It's nice to meet someone who doesn't have a negative opinion about it! :)

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What this woman said is spot on.

So creep territory = I think you are ugly.

And that's so unfair. If a bloke I wasn't interested in tried to chat me up I'd make every effort to prevent him from feeling bad about it not try to make him feel more awkward. Some guy came on to me a while ago and I told him I was flattered but engaged. He kept following me round, grabbing hold of me and telling me that I want him really. That's a creep, most blokes aren't. These women need to get some perspective.




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31 Oct 2017, 10:57 am

OutsideView wrote:
It interests me too. I've heard there are more non-straight and/or non-cis people on the spectrum. It would be good to see some actual facts about it though. It's nice to meet someone who doesn't have a negative opinion about it! :)


I used to be an admin for an Asperger's Awareness Facebook page that had about 300,000 likes. People would message us all of the time and I'd personally answer about 90% of them. They were usually asking for advice or wanting us to anonymously post a question so that the other follows could help. If I had to guess, I'd probably say that about 10-15% of the people who identified as being on the spectrum (both diagnosed and not) were non-straight and/or non-cis, including the creator of the page. I wouldn't necessarily call that a true study, though, since the sample group wasn't gigantic.

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31 Oct 2017, 2:06 pm

I think you seem like a bit creepy and I have no idea what you look like, it’s based on what you say here.

Yeah looks don’t help, still think it’s more about the vibe, but what would I know?

Maybe it’s about looks for people who cannot sense vibes. A couple of creeps I know have been unattractive, but it was because they were psycho or really strange and invaded my personal space and hit on me, not that.

Most average or unattractive men aren’t creepy. If they have good social skills people don’t seem to mind.

Mixture of social skills, unattractiveness, vibe and mannerisms imo.