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04 Nov 2017, 6:49 am

True dat.



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04 Nov 2017, 6:50 am

Closet Genious wrote:
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I don’t see why you care about people who don’t like you. If you would be happy for a girl to date you based on what you had instead of who you are, then I genuinely feel sorry for you.

I don’t think most women are like that, though. Gold diggers are a small % of women.

They like the sort of person who ends up getting a decent job and a car, a go getter who wants to do something with his life and has a drive to be independent. It’s not the same as gold digging, where they only date a person for material possessions.

If you just got a car and a house and didn’t change your attitude, you’d probably attract gold diggers and the relationship wouldn’t last anyway.


How is it different than gold digging?


I don’t think you get it. It just so happens, a lot of women like the personality traits of men who want and seek success. They’re not dating them for material possessions. But the people they like tend to end up with them because it’s their personality type.

Gold diggers on the other hand date someone solely for material possessions, they don’t actually like the person they dating.


No I get it. It's like why I don't date fat women, it's not because they're fat, it's because they are losers.


Date or don’t date who you want to. It’s not my business or problem.



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04 Nov 2017, 6:52 am

It was his personality, attitude, ambition and 'vibe'. :mrgreen:


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04 Nov 2017, 6:57 am

And the sh*tstorm begins. :D

I can hear the thunder already...



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04 Nov 2017, 7:14 am

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I'll take that as a "yes".

You have already argued in this thread that women care far more about an ambitious man who has dreams and desires he works toward more than materialistic items or the success in itself.

Now it seems you're.moving the goalposts.

A car is a materialistic item.

Will a man with a high paying job who works hard, saves up and buys a car be more desirable than a man with a low paying job who works even harder, saves even better but can't afford the car anyway still?

Why/why not.


They seem about the same attractiveness. I don’t like splurging money on stupid things or extravagance, so the guy who doesn’t save much money seems like not much of a match. I do however respect the ladder he climbed to get where he is.

I would wonder why someone is satisfied with a low paying job, as I wouldn’t be. Whenever I worked low paying jobs my spare time was devoted to making extra income. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to work a low paying job, I just don’t understand it.

I will always take my hat off to a hard worker, in any industry.

To answer your question, no. That’s me though. I can’t speak for other people.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:16 am

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Here’s another one

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Bbw, yes
age: 20
Hey you!
So I'm looking for well, something? I don't really know what I'm looking for. I guess I will know when I find it. I guess I'm looking for my 'weirdo'. Let me tell you about my self.
I'm a 5'5 20 year old BBW. I enjoy adventures, trying new things, and having fun. I love movies, YouTube, and standup comedy. So yeah ;-;. I'll explain in what I'm looking for from you.
Well, to put this simply I'm into older men. I'm searching for someone from the ages of 28-41. Someone slightly tall and adventurous. Also don't be looking for sex right away. I'm into comfort so if something feels right, I dig it. If you could be handsome that would awesome. Be STD/STI free. I would also like someone who has income because I don't want to support someone.
Yeah, that's about it. Message me with a picture and your favorite food in the subject line and I will get back to you.
Blessed be


She just wants a older guy with income :roll:
Bummer cause she kinda seemed like maybe ideal match until her what I’m looking for in a guy part :cry:


But she says pretty clearly that she wants the guy to have income so that the guy won't be a freeloader, doesn't she? She doesn't say anything about wanting the guy to buy her stuff or pay her bills, or does she? She certainly doesn't in this text that you quoted. It's completely normal to not want to be the one who pays for everything, no matter if you're a guy or girl. If I remember correctly, you've said that as long as it was possible for you, you'd be ready to take care of a girlfriend financially. That's your choice and all, but you need to understand and accept that not everyone thinks that way. In fact, I'm pretty sure that most people wouldn't want a partner who had no intention or ability to put in any financial effort.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:19 am

Fireblossom wrote:
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Here’s another one

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Bbw, yes
age: 20
Hey you!
So I'm looking for well, something? I don't really know what I'm looking for. I guess I will know when I find it. I guess I'm looking for my 'weirdo'. Let me tell you about my self.
I'm a 5'5 20 year old BBW. I enjoy adventures, trying new things, and having fun. I love movies, YouTube, and standup comedy. So yeah ;-;. I'll explain in what I'm looking for from you.
Well, to put this simply I'm into older men. I'm searching for someone from the ages of 28-41. Someone slightly tall and adventurous. Also don't be looking for sex right away. I'm into comfort so if something feels right, I dig it. If you could be handsome that would awesome. Be STD/STI free. I would also like someone who has income because I don't want to support someone.
Yeah, that's about it. Message me with a picture and your favorite food in the subject line and I will get back to you.
Blessed be


She just wants a older guy with income :roll:
Bummer cause she kinda seemed like maybe ideal match until her what I’m looking for in a guy part :cry:


But she says pretty clearly that she wants the guy to have income so that the guy won't be a freeloader, doesn't she? She doesn't say anything about wanting the guy to buy her stuff or pay her bills, or does she? She certainly doesn't in this text that you quoted. It's completely normal to not want to be the one who pays for everything, no matter if you're a guy or girl. If I remember correctly, you've said that as long as it was possible for you, you'd be ready to take care of a girlfriend financially. That's your choice and all, but you need to understand and accept that not everyone thinks that way. In fact, I'm pretty sure that most people wouldn't want a partner who had no intention or ability to put in any financial effort.


Well said.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:33 am

hale_bopp wrote:
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I'll take that as a "yes".

You have already argued in this thread that women care far more about an ambitious man who has dreams and desires he works toward more than materialistic items or the success in itself.

Now it seems you're.moving the goalposts.

A car is a materialistic item.

Will a man with a high paying job who works hard, saves up and buys a car be more desirable than a man with a low paying job who works even harder, saves even better but can't afford the car anyway still?

Why/why not.


They seem about the same attractiveness. I don’t like splurging money on stupid things or extravagance, so the guy who doesn’t save much money seems like not much of a match. I do however respect the ladder he climbed to get where he is.

I would wonder why someone is satisfied with a low paying job, as I wouldn’t be. Whenever I worked low paying jobs my spare time was devoted to making extra income. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to work a low paying job, I just don’t understand it.

I will always take my hat off to a hard worker, in any industry.

To answer your question, no. That’s me though. I can’t speak for other people.


Fair enough.

And.money isnt everything.

Perhaps the man with a part time job for lower pay lives a simpler lifestyle and his earnings are sufficient enough to support it.

Living for himself and all that jazz.

Depends on where he lives though I guess.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:34 am

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Being treated like dirt by upper-middle class snobs isn't fair either. Not everyone can be the CEO of a multi-billion dollar company, or some prestigious professor of exciting new fields in science. The idea of "improvement" being purely career-wise is a very limited viewpoint, and plenty of men do just fine with ordinary jobs.

The woman in Sly's first post is making a pretty reasonable request; regular job and license is standard. If you're so broke you can't do anything at all that's usually not going to be acceptable.


There are quite a few working class people I don’t like. You know why? Because they’re rude to me. For no other reason than being different to them. Having being bullied and beaten up by working class people for no reason, I really don’t have time for this label everyone BS.

I like anyone until they give me a reason not to. I can’t speak for other people, but being labelled as a snob for no reason is not fair.


I'm not talking about you specifically. I'm talking about all the ones that spit down on people whose dreams don't revolve around climbing the corporate ladder. It's so tiring seeing people defined solely on their careers rather than anything else.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:39 am

Outrider wrote:
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I'll take that as a "yes".

You have already argued in this thread that women care far more about an ambitious man who has dreams and desires he works toward more than materialistic items or the success in itself.

Now it seems you're.moving the goalposts.

A car is a materialistic item.

Will a man with a high paying job who works hard, saves up and buys a car be more desirable than a man with a low paying job who works even harder, saves even better but can't afford the car anyway still?

Why/why not.


They seem about the same attractiveness. I don’t like splurging money on stupid things or extravagance, so the guy who doesn’t save much money seems like not much of a match. I do however respect the ladder he climbed to get where he is.

I would wonder why someone is satisfied with a low paying job, as I wouldn’t be. Whenever I worked low paying jobs my spare time was devoted to making extra income. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to work a low paying job, I just don’t understand it.

I will always take my hat off to a hard worker, in any industry.

To answer your question, no. That’s me though. I can’t speak for other people.


Fair enough.

And.money isnt everything.

Perhaps the man with a part time job for lower pay lives a simpler lifestyle and his earnings are sufficient enough to support it.

Living for himself and all that jazz.

Depends on where he lives though I guess.


I’d date someone who works part time, as long as they’re intelligent, friendly, interesting and positive. The same criteria would apply to someone who worked full time. I really don’t care about the hours someone works, I’m just not compatible with people of average intelligence. Like I said, I’d get bored and frustrated easily.

If a guy pays his way, I don’t really care.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:42 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
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Being treated like dirt by upper-middle class snobs isn't fair either. Not everyone can be the CEO of a multi-billion dollar company, or some prestigious professor of exciting new fields in science. The idea of "improvement" being purely career-wise is a very limited viewpoint, and plenty of men do just fine with ordinary jobs.

The woman in Sly's first post is making a pretty reasonable request; regular job and license is standard. If you're so broke you can't do anything at all that's usually not going to be acceptable.


There are quite a few working class people I don’t like. You know why? Because they’re rude to me. For no other reason than being different to them. Having being bullied and beaten up by working class people for no reason, I really don’t have time for this label everyone BS.

I like anyone until they give me a reason not to. I can’t speak for other people, but being labelled as a snob for no reason is not fair.


I'm not talking about you specifically. I'm talking about all the ones that spit down on people whose dreams don't revolve around climbing the corporate ladder. It's so tiring seeing people defined solely on their careers rather than anything else.


Some people are just a***holes. To judge an entire socioeconomic class though is rubbish.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:43 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Outrider wrote:
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I'll take that as a "yes".

You have already argued in this thread that women care far more about an ambitious man who has dreams and desires he works toward more than materialistic items or the success in itself.

Now it seems you're.moving the goalposts.

A car is a materialistic item.

Will a man with a high paying job who works hard, saves up and buys a car be more desirable than a man with a low paying job who works even harder, saves even better but can't afford the car anyway still?

Why/why not.


They seem about the same attractiveness. I don’t like splurging money on stupid things or extravagance, so the guy who doesn’t save much money seems like not much of a match. I do however respect the ladder he climbed to get where he is.

I would wonder why someone is satisfied with a low paying job, as I wouldn’t be. Whenever I worked low paying jobs my spare time was devoted to making extra income. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to work a low paying job, I just don’t understand it.

I will always take my hat off to a hard worker, in any industry.

To answer your question, no. That’s me though. I can’t speak for other people.


Fair enough.

And.money isnt everything.

Perhaps the man with a part time job for lower pay lives a simpler lifestyle and his earnings are sufficient enough to support it.

Living for himself and all that jazz.

Depends on where he lives though I guess.


I’d date someone who works part time, as long as they’re intelligent, friendly, interesting and positive. The same criteria would apply to someone who worked full time. I really don’t care about the hours someone works, I’m just not compatible with people of average intelligence. Like I said, I’d get bored and frustrated easily.


How do you define intelligence? I was always good at mathematics and other technical subjects, plus I like understanding insects, yet I have little interest in politics and philosophy. Does that make me intelligent in your eyes? Average? "Intelligence" is rather vague.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:48 am

I don’t know, but you can tell when you’re smarter or stupider than someone you meet and talk to based on the conversation.

I’m an extremely deep thinker and that doesn’t go down well with most people.

I just expect an equal intelligence wise. If I cannot find one who wants me, I’m happy to go without.



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04 Nov 2017, 7:53 am

hale_bopp wrote:
I don’t know, but you can tell when you’re smarter or stupider than someone you meet and talk to based on the conversation.

I’m an extremely deep thinker and that doesn’t go down well with most people.

I just expect an equal intelligence wise. If I cannot find one who wants me, I’m happy to go without.


What about you makes you such a deep thinker?



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04 Nov 2017, 7:56 am

hale_bopp wrote:
I don’t know, but you can tell when you’re smarter or stupider than someone you meet and talk to based on the conversation.


How does one do something like that? 8O

I mean even I can tell if I know about a subject we're talking about clearly more or clearly less than the person I'm talking about it with, but that doesn't mean that I'm smarter or stupider than him/her. It jus means that I'm better or worse than the other person when it comes to a certain subject.

If there is a way to see the level of a person's intelligence in general by talking to him/her then please tell me what it is; it would be useful to know.

Or did you mean that you can slowly learn it once you learn to know the person properly? This just occured to me and if that's the case then never mind what I said; I more or less understand what you mean... I think.



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04 Nov 2017, 8:20 am

It depends on the person’s own definition of intelligence. Also when I said talking to them, I don’t mean just a 2 minute conversation. Over time it gets more evident, for example you could easily group kids in your class.

What I think is intelligent may not be to someone else.

I guess an IQ test would be the only way.