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14 Dec 2017, 1:50 am

How the heck did a dating thread get on the subject of Trump?!

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14 Dec 2017, 2:08 pm

sly279 wrote:
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Most people don’t actually stick to these checklists. If they did, everyone except the top 1% of people would be single.

It’s a very naive way of viewing other people and much more common in immature people. Relationships based on this never last unless it’s a mutual agreement or trade off for shallow things like wealth for big boobs. Even then half the time it doesn’t last.

Several people think they’re single for shallow reasons when half the time, the reality is their personality sucks, but noone would want to admit that.

I’m most likely single because my personality sucks, my aspergers, lack of interest in serious relationships and the fact I never follow up any advances or put myself put there.

It’s very unlikely it’s for anything shallow. I don’t think not dating someone for aspergers traits is shallow. It has a large impact on a relationship.

Last I heard most Americans (over 50%) are single and alone.
There’s loads of women on dating sites who due to heir shallowness and superficial ness remain single for 10 years. If they weren’t sticking to their list of requirements certainly they’d met someone by now certainly I’d had met someone. No most do stick their their lists. Most of them have highly attractive personalities atleast to me.

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50% single sounds like an average rate. Eventually they move into relationships and other people become single.

Women on dating sites often have issues. I wouldn’t base the general population on them.



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14 Dec 2017, 4:50 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
Women on dating sites often have issues. I wouldn’t base the general population on them.

Unfortunately they do. It's really hard for some of us to ask out girls in real life so that means we only get to date the ones with issues.


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15 Dec 2017, 5:58 pm

^^I feel exactly the same way with shallow men. I'll be ensuring it's offline for me in future, as it used to be in the past.



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16 Dec 2017, 6:18 pm

teresa_mayhem_downing_street wrote:
in my opinion dating has become about shallow trivial things like height skinny/fat, wealth hair color and so on. now don't get me wrong but IMO the only thing that should matter is chemistry and personality not to mention if the person is nice so what is the girl is overweight or in the man is short or is not rich? if people insist on stupid dating checklists then they are the reason they are single!! all i'm saying is give each over a chance, because you may not realize that whilst you are nitpicking over trivial, you may have missed out the ideal person who has a great sense of humor and shares an interest in , say Quantum mechanics because he/she failed to meet some stupid criteria. and THIS is why dating has become a waste of time and we would all be better off being set on multiple blind dates

apologies for the rant, peace out!! :oops: :oops: :P


I guess you can preach whatever you want and no matter how good your message is, not even a single person in the top 1% of power and wealth alone aren't going to change policies or culture where women can reject men first-hand because of shortness.



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18 Dec 2017, 8:28 pm

I think it's always been shallow. Throwing a bunch of strangers with no connection to each other onto a website and expecting them to somehow stumble onto good connections (online dating) makes it a lot worse.