Laughable....
She looked at me and told me "I know you, you're the guy I met from okcupid" - (I remembered her too, probably was 5 years ago - went on a date with her for 3 hours date with her, was very amusing yet she barely replied to my messages and never initiated hence lost interest with her).
What's funny that a year ago she initiated a text with me once, out of the blue but then ghosted me again
Anyway back to yesterday incident, she started reminding details of that one date ages ago.
Then she said "You're the most decent guy I ever met from a dating site". I was like "Oh...why, thank you". (Yet I was thinking in my mind "Why then hell then you ghosted me as if I am an insect?" - ghosting is a major act of disrespect)
I was like "Oh, nice to meet you again then - hopefully we'll meet again" and she replied "I think we will meet a lot again" (Good sign! Wow...not really, it's just talk), she admitted that she still single and seeking for someone - anyway I left to search the conference.
Then in the same evening I sent her a text a pic of the seminar inside, telling her that I managed to find the conference room, she replied with a thumb up - then I asked how is she doing.
Guess what? She read that last message....and ignored me. Fascinating! It seems, even I, the "most decent guy she ever met from a dating site" didn't deserve a reply back then...and still doesn't deserve a reply from her highness for a such normal question today - nor further communication.
She literally has wrinkles on her face now; wrinkles but still single and still the same same exact confusing attitude 5 years ago.
Some women are really laughable and hilarious.
I predict that this woman will die single.
Wow, I didn't read this part until today but that's how that guy who I wrote about was with me, unpredictable. He would flirt with me when he wanted something and others he would ignore me.
I hope she gets together with this guy because they would be two peas in a pod.
A couple of thoughts...
I have been on online dating sites and its a virtual meat market. Where girls get to automatically ignore you after you show your p8c and vise versa. It happens irl all the time, it is just obvious in the online world.
She is not interested, really. I have found that people will often say things that the other person wants to hear as opposes to their real feelings, that way they look like 'a good person'. It is pretty self centered with them not giving a s**t about the other person. I hear alot of people asking why people aay that they will do something when in fact they don't. It comea down to the other person not wanting to look like an as*hole.
She was probably being true when she said you were nice. You probably are. She just was not attracted to you. And she was trying to be gracious. You should have asked out to a drink, but she would have either declined outright (she is too busy) or would say yes and not show up.
Best to move on ubderstanding that it is more to do with her than you. You handled it correctly and well.
Dont say or do anything snarky, no matter how much you think you want to do it, it will bit help your cause and might cut off future endeavours.
In terms of the "Crawling in the movie theater" and the "Licking" they were "Acceptable" in his eyes but when I made telephone pranks on him, that was "Childish" and he would go, "You're losing major points with me." He also complained about how "Immature" I was whenever I joked with people which were at the level of a 12-year-old.
He did other weird things there inappropriate:
1. A few times there was dancing going on and he would kick everyone off the dance floor to do all of these "Moves" he called "Dancing to the theme of the music." His moves are things that people would want to see on Youtube which would go viral.
He kept asking me to bend over backwards and to "Impress me" with my intelligence and I would win his heart. Yet, he didn't do one thing to impress me.[/quote]
Why did you date him?
He did other weird things there inappropriate:
1. A few times there was dancing going on and he would kick everyone off the dance floor to do all of these "Moves" he called "Dancing to the theme of the music." His moves are things that people would want to see on Youtube which would go viral.
He kept asking me to bend over backwards and to "Impress me" with my intelligence and I would win his heart. Yet, he didn't do one thing to impress me.
Why did you date him?[/quote]
We never dated and it never got that far because he expressed it several times that I "Got on his nerves 75% of the time because I was too "Hyper" and "Immature" for him. He finally told me that he had never had romantic feelings for me because he lost his interest for not living up to his standards. Though, I did try many times to win him over and get him to like me because he just kept leading me on.
Why did I like him? When I met him, I thought he was really inspirational and would do great things with his life. Little did I know he would have problems
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I have been on online dating sites and its a virtual meat market. Where girls get to automatically ignore you after you show your p8c and vise versa. It happens irl all the time, it is just obvious in the online world.
She is not interested, really. I have found that people will often say things that the other person wants to hear as opposes to their real feelings, that way they look like 'a good person'. It is pretty self centered with them not giving a s**t about the other person. I hear alot of people asking why people aay that they will do something when in fact they don't. It comea down to the other person not wanting to look like an as*hole.
She was probably being true when she said you were nice. You probably are. She just was not attracted to you. And she was trying to be gracious. You should have asked out to a drink, but she would have either declined outright (she is too busy) or would say yes and not show up.
Best to move on ubderstanding that it is more to do with her than you. You handled it correctly and well.
Dont say or do anything snarky, no matter how much you think you want to do it, it will bit help your cause and might cut off future endeavours.
Yeah, I totally agree.
He did other weird things there inappropriate:
1. A few times there was dancing going on and he would kick everyone off the dance floor to do all of these "Moves" he called "Dancing to the theme of the music." His moves are things that people would want to see on Youtube which would go viral.
He kept asking me to bend over backwards and to "Impress me" with my intelligence and I would win his heart. Yet, he didn't do one thing to impress me.
Why did you date him?
We never dated and it never got that far because he expressed it several times that I "Got on his nerves 75% of the time because I was too "Hyper" and "Immature" for him. He finally told me that he had never had romantic feelings for me because he lost his interest for not living up to his standards. Though, I did try many times to win him over and get him to like me because he just kept leading me on.
Why did I like him? When I met him, I thought he was really inspirational and would do great things with his life. Little did I know he would have problems[/quote]
Really inspirational?
You are selling yoursepf short Summer. Lets see....he lives at home with no job and licks people's hand, you on the other hand, live on your own, have a job and generally act like you are part of thr human race. It is you whobis inspiring.
He did other weird things there inappropriate:
1. A few times there was dancing going on and he would kick everyone off the dance floor to do all of these "Moves" he called "Dancing to the theme of the music." His moves are things that people would want to see on Youtube which would go viral.
He kept asking me to bend over backwards and to "Impress me" with my intelligence and I would win his heart. Yet, he didn't do one thing to impress me.
Why did you date him?
We never dated and it never got that far because he expressed it several times that I "Got on his nerves 75% of the time because I was too "Hyper" and "Immature" for him. He finally told me that he had never had romantic feelings for me because he lost his interest for not living up to his standards. Though, I did try many times to win him over and get him to like me because he just kept leading me on.
Why did I like him? When I met him, I thought he was really inspirational and would do great things with his life. Little did I know he would have problems
Really inspirational?
You are selling yourself short Summer. Lets see....he lives at home with no job and licks people's hand, you on the other hand, live on your own, have a job and generally act like you are part of thr human race. It is you whobis inspiring.[/quote]
I met this guy long before I found out that he was an immature shallow creep and jerk as he had a job at an engineering firm and had graduated from a top engineering school in my city. However, his career fell apart on him because
A. He thought he was above his employers because he was the genius and they were not- according to another friend
B. After he lost that job he got discouraged because he couldn't pass a job interview along with listening to the wrong people.
C. He was too stubborn to go get help - learning social skills
He did other weird things there inappropriate:
1. A few times there was dancing going on and he would kick everyone off the dance floor to do all of these "Moves" he called "Dancing to the theme of the music." His moves are things that people would want to see on Youtube which would go viral.
He kept asking me to bend over backwards and to "Impress me" with my intelligence and I would win his heart. Yet, he didn't do one thing to impress me.
Why did you date him?
We never dated and it never got that far because he expressed it several times that I "Got on his nerves 75% of the time because I was too "Hyper" and "Immature" for him. He finally told me that he had never had romantic feelings for me because he lost his interest for not living up to his standards. Though, I did try many times to win him over and get him to like me because he just kept leading me on.
Why did I like him? When I met him, I thought he was really inspirational and would do great things with his life. Little did I know he would have problems
Really inspirational?
You are selling yourself short Summer. Lets see....he lives at home with no job and licks people's hand, you on the other hand, live on your own, have a job and generally act like you are part of thr human race. It is you whobis inspiring.[/quote]
I met this guy long before I found out that he was an immature shallow creep and jerk as he had a job at an engineering firm and had graduated from a top engineering school in my city. However, his career fell apart on him because
A. He thought he was above his employers because he was the genius and they were not- according to another friend
B. After he lost that job he got discouraged because he couldn't pass a job interview along with listening to the wrong people.
C. He was too stubborn to go get help - learning social skills
So deep down, I was hoping he would bounce back but he didn't
I really did and it was really sad what happened to him and I have one idea why he may have ended up becoming really depressed but I don't want to say anything because I don't know for sure since it's just my opinion.
I will say that there were several times that I got mad at him for throwing his dream to be a mechanical engineer away and using his autism as an excuse.
Yet he kept trying to fix everyone else and would complain when someone worked in a low-end position but sat around doing nothing himself.