Bringing her kid on the first date?

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21 Dec 2017, 1:47 pm

Single mothers who cycle through boyfriends I’d say are red flags in general. Personally I wouldn’t go there.

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21 Dec 2017, 2:00 pm

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You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?

Yes, he does.

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21 Dec 2017, 2:08 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?

Yes, he does.

Why?

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21 Dec 2017, 6:27 pm

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?

Yes, he does.

Why?

Because an autistic man who misunderstands an internet post is not unworthy of a girlfriend.

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21 Dec 2017, 6:54 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

Single mothers who cycle through boyfriends I’d say are red flags in general. Personally I wouldn’t go there.

From what I’ve seen most single mothers do it though, hence why they’re single mother. To build a relationship the relationship must take priority but single mothers their child takes priority which hurts the relationship building experience. Have a date planned oh welll little jimmy wants his mom, wanna make out out oh well little jimmy doesn’t like you. It super complicats things and you’ll never be her priority vs if you date a childless woman you’re be her priority like she’s yours.

That’s big reason I won’t date single moms, that and they want a dad to help raise and provide for the kid which can’t be me which is why women who want kids one day won’t date me. So single moms won’t date me and I can’t date them so meh. I’ve been liked be a few.

I don’t think I really like kids that much anyways. I dont know what to do with them.

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21 Dec 2017, 6:55 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?

Yes, he does.

Why?

Because an autistic man who misunderstands an internet post is not unworthy of a girlfriend.

But are aspie men worthy of a gf in the first place? For most it seems not.

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21 Dec 2017, 6:57 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?

Yes, he does.

Why?

Because an autistic man who misunderstands an internet post is not unworthy of a girlfriend.

Maybe not, but any sort of man who misunderstands a post and immediately begins to verbally abuse the woman who wrote it is unworthy of a girlfriend.

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22 Dec 2017, 2:22 am

hale_bopp wrote:

Single mothers who cycle through boyfriends I’d say are red flags in general. Personally I wouldn’t go there.

And the childless women who do so are not?

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22 Dec 2017, 2:23 am

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

Kortz wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?

Yes, he does.

Why?

Because an autistic man who misunderstands an internet post is not unworthy of a girlfriend.

Maybe not, but any sort of man who misunderstands a post and immediately begins to verbally abuse the woman who wrote it is unworthy of a girlfriend.

You quickly turned this into "man abusing woman" case, I am sure the OP would have reacted the same if Maria was a guy.

Anyway, welcome back....Katy.

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22 Dec 2017, 5:19 am

I reread the OP's comments and see no abuse there. Just disagreement.
Saying "I think what you do is morally wrong" is not abuse.

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22 Dec 2017, 8:24 am

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To build a relationship the relationship must take priority but single mothers their child takes priority which hurts the relationship building experience.

Well, yes and no. Of course, in order to build a relationship both parties need to put in a lot of effort, but I believe that one can be build even if the one who has a child/children puts the kid first... the key to this working is that the childless partner understands that little kids must always be (not literally; you can drop the kid off at grandma's place and go to a date even if the kid disagrees at that moment. Single parents need some time of their own, too, and there's nothing wrong with that.) the top priority and accepts it. Those who can't accept it aren't bad people of course, but they shouldn't date single parents if they can't accept that it's a "package deal" and that he or she would also have to learn to deal with the partner's kids.

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22 Dec 2017, 10:13 am

Looks like its a moot point anyway. Her search for a worthy babysitter has apparently taken her to the fifth dimension where answering calls texts and emails is impossible. All trace of her has been wiped from the world. Its like she never existed at all.

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22 Dec 2017, 10:28 am

^ Hopefully you didn't try all these mediums at once (calls, texts and emails).....never make more than one contact attempt at a time.

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22 Dec 2017, 10:47 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

^ Hopefully you didn't try all these mediums at once (calls, texts and emails).....never make more than one contact attempt at a time.

No I just texted her and then tried to use our office place's chat program (we work for the same company). She never responded to either.

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22 Dec 2017, 11:05 am

It looks as if she might have been using the child as an excuse.

You're probably best off out of it.

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22 Dec 2017, 11:07 am

FunkyPunky wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

^ Hopefully you didn't try all these mediums at once (calls, texts and emails).....never make more than one contact attempt at a time.

No I just texted her and then tried to use our office place's chat program (we work for the same company). She never responded to either.

Ok, that's an additional reason is better to stop contacting her because if she cries boo-hoo to HR and invents a story that you are harassing her (in some women's sick minds, and this sickness is not uncommon, a two Hi in a row in a chat program = harassment), everyone is gonna believe her because she is a woman.

On the other hand, if you bump into her face to face just treat her like any complete stranger or a coworker you barely know, as if you barely know her. ie. if she doesn't say Good morning first then don't say Good morning first, ghost her in real life like how she ghosts you online.
If you are forced to work together on some task, just keep it professional and only talk work.

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