Loner269 wrote:
I have a plethora of negative traits that have put off women from me until this day and probably far beyond:
-Obesity, I have been about 40 pounds overweight since 18 and it has made a huge impact on my confidence and I just don't carry my weight very well. It is something I'm really working towards right now and have lost a noticeable amount of fat, 10 pounds approx since I started in the beginning of this year.
-I haven't graduated from any schools since elementary school due to my complete lack of motivation for the working life and I've just wanted to spend my days playing video games in my house, only leaving outside to get food. This might change as I am about halfway through my current school and I should be able to push through it now that I have some more motivation.
-I also don't have a job as nobody really hires here unless you've graduated from somewhere after elementary, so this will probably have to wait until I have graduated from my current school at least. This of course means I am quite poor and cannot afford the luxuries many girls demand from their husbands.
-As I stated before, I really love playing video games and would probably want to do nothing else but sleep and play games if I could.. Now I'm sure there are girls out there who don't mind gaming when it's done in moderation but I doubt there's any who would want someone for whom it is their life pretty much.
-My attitude towards women has shaped to bit of a misogynist over the years of being treated like crap by them and by reading the MGTOW and Red Pill-posts online and sucking all that hate inside me. Due to my AS I have also always been very rude towards even my best friends and have lost almost all of them through the years because of some of my actions or words that have been too much to take. This is something I have improved on a bit while maturing but I can still be very hurtful from time to time, especially when drunk.
-Speaking of being drunk, alcohol has also been a huge problem for me and has contributed loads on gaining weight and wasting money and losing friends. I have decided to quit drinking almost completely and will only drink on rare occasions now.
These are just some of the reasons I can think at the top of my head why I am not found appealing by women but I'm sure there are more which I myself don't even recognize but others do. All I can do really is do my best to work on improving my life and who knows, maybe some day a girl might even be interested.
Deep breath ! deep breath !
Drinking is a huge AS prob. On the one end it help loosen our mind so we can act like a neuronormal, on the other hand it creates probs health wise. Your right to drop it, but you may need to drop it completely. Else yoir prob wont go away it will return with vengence. I battle compulsiveness and alot of us here too. Its a aspie trait. Your weight will drop a lil but a tiny diet will help.
You can take a G.E.D program and take a highschool equivalent exam. A little college may not hurt. But it takes hard work and a good fight. Odds are video gaming takes alot of your time. Cut down but you dont have to kill it completely. Put some focus on classes trust me its worth it.
Part of this is also your attittude. Depression can effect how your health is over all. It makes you retain weight and it makes you drink. Also get out for a jog or a walk or somekinda relaxing outdoor thing. Start small and wotk you way up. A lite picnic at the park works.
Women wise i suggest lets get your other parts of life together first. If anything we all have to wotk on communication common aspie thing. I know weve all been treated as crap. It typical dispite it all you must keep your chin up. Its time to learn right ?
On a final note stay away from such negative forums k. They effect your mood. Drop it dont ween off k
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02 Feb 2018, 9:32 am
