Do we have any kinda competitive edge against N.t

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The answer is there's none, not in the social and dating realm.

There's no social competitive edge in a disorder that affects social skills.

I dont know quite a few of them are so desperate they message me.

Most guys won’t date women with kids. It’s a known red flag for guys. They also tell other guys not to as well. Women know it too I see lots of profiles with yeah I have kids so if that bothers you then move on . Which tells me they’ve bee rejected a lot for it.

Well, no s**t most guys won't date a woman with kids. They didn't make a baby, maybe they never want kids, or maybe if they do they want their own biological children.. and besides the time commitment & lifestyle change required to be a step father, there's also the MASSIVE financial commitment. Then there's the simple fact that the mother's priority will always be her children (rightfully so) and not the boyfriend or their relationship. Those are the key reasons most guys aren't interested in dating a single mother. They're looking for a date/potential relationship, not a ready made family where they're obligated to work & pay and provide for someone else' kids for decades. Maybe their career & financial plans are drastically different? Maybe they prefer free time w/o kids to do other things? And money to go on vacations or buy a new car etc. Not everyone wants kids, and for those that do, most don't want to raise someone else' kids. Then there's the whole fact that the kids have to also get along with the guy etc.. and the possibility that the kid likes the guy more than the woman & then if things don't work out the kid gets hurt.. sooooo many reasons guys don't want to touch the whole single mom thing with a 10' pole.

I really LIKE kids (I'm a God father several times over for a reason) & can still see all the reasons most guys wouldn't want to date a single mother. It's not difficult to connect the dots. Sure, there are SOME who are open to it, and some guys who even seek out such a relationship for whatever reason - but they're rare compared to the vast majority who aren't going to jump at the chance to work their ass off to raise someone else' kids. It's, IMO, very easily understood.

At least they accept that and put their kids first...I had a single dad message me on a dating site and legit used that fact to guilt trip me...he sent me messages like:

"Please be my kid's mommy"
"My kids need a pretty, young mom, pls write back"
"My kids really want to meet you please"

It was gross. Obviously I never responded. Has that approach ever worked for anyone? Lmao

Probably not.. but you never know. There could be some mothering type young woman out there who wants to play mother to some guy's kids & would jump at the chance to date single fathers. There's all kinds of people in this world.. just not very many of some of them.

I see ads of women seeking dad for their kids. I don’t want to be some teens dad. I feel like a teen myself and I don’t get along with kids i dont know what to do with them. They’re disgusting too.

I doubt any woman could resist my collection of vintage Lego.

I see men seeking sex to fulfill their sexual desires. I think they're disgusting too.

I’m assuming this a snarky comment.
I was referring to the kids, kids are disgusting, they do digusting things, I’m a germabhobe,
So kids sticking their hands and their mouth and then touching things or putting things in their mouth ,or touching their poo, or thst as a parent yiu have to clean their poo. Etc.
Not their fault I don’t dislike kids but I find them disgusting. I’d probably have to wear gloves if I had kids, mean once their past 5/6 they better.
Similarly I find dogs disgusting for similar reasons.

I was not saying I find women digusting, and actually it’s more I find the things kids do digusting. Kids are cute except when they doing digusting things.
The kids who come into my department are cute when they aren’t being annoying. So the good kids are cute. Especially when they get all excite over the fake dogs or turkey we have up there. Or when we have stuff animals. Currently it’s a turkey decoy thst kids love and get all excited. It’s adorable. I still think I’d be better off not having kids. I don’t see much of the annoying parts of kids thst their parents do.

There quite a few women posting for sexual activity FYI, like one today seeikinf s daddy.
And this is in the relationship section, there’s s section for sexual connections full of women seeking sex for their sexual desires.

It’s not the ”seeking sex” that’s disgusting. It’s sometimes how it is sought.

What’s wrong with a person, man or woman or non binary, seeking sexual satisfaction if nobody is harmed as a result?

Easy silly, because when a man does it it’s wrong but when a woman does it it’s ok.
Really anything men do is wrong. Women deserve relationships men don’t and are shamed for even desiring one.

Ill say it again. This thing has gone way outa focus and way outa control.

I will say i got the picture and the idea.
I will say im agreeing with goldfish21 on some points.

By the way it slices both ways women do guilt trips too. I heard it works on super desperate super weak willed but its rumor. And a ploy to Chinese defenses...

On one note and point id like to kinda make a little clear : my issue is if a lady has kids. Im fine with moms. There were 5 problems that annoy me.

This 1st is a personal one. My therapist and i are working on this one. Dont ask.

The other i will explain.

One is how the conversations are kinda like this : I like to 2nd hand thrift shop for fun, the thrills, nostalgia, etc ( and what have you) the mom types talk with me and its obvious flirty (obvious to a aspie obvious). There energetic, happy, warming, cuteness, (almost teenage ness) a powerful confidence. And then when there child comes over to ask something, all that i just discribed goes from 60 to 0 in half a second. Death hits the convo. I try to be the same engergetic enthusiastic person but it seems her interest is gone in me.

3rd issue. Im ok with moms my age but a mom whose 7 to 10+ years on me is a issue. I feel .... creeped in a way. And so i get super sweaty fearful. They do approach me.

4th. I dated one for several months at the end she treated much like her daughter. I mean literally. It iratated the heck outa me.

5th there the only ones who approched me in the last year. It was one after another.